1, respect children's "sophistry"-feedback effect
Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents generally call their children's behavior "sophistry" angrily. In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.
Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They just "teach" themselves and don't care about their children's information feedback. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.
2. Analyze and respect children's feedback.
When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.
3. Educate children purposefully according to their feedback.
When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when giving feedback, parents will never do it again. They can tell their children the importance of being polite through examples and reasons, and guide them to be polite children.
If the child's feedback is that he doesn't want to know the responsibility caused by the recent wrong words and deeds, parents should encourage the child to be a person who knows his mistakes and corrects them. In a word, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and carefully analyzing their feedback is the first step to achieve the educational goal.
4, family education can not be inconsistent-watch theorem
Psychologists have done an experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the man got two different watches, the watchmaker could not know the time quickly.
Because two watches can't tell a person a more accurate time, on the contrary, it will make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon "watch phenomenon", and draw a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later, people called this conclusion "Watch Theorem".
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Children can learn in this way:
It is common for children to be impatient and careless. It is not only to help them solve a homework problem, but also to help them form good habits so that they will not regard their parents as their crutches.
The ultimate goal of learning is not only to solve a problem, but to cultivate children's ability to think and solve problems independently. Too much criticism will cause excessive guilt and shame to the child, while not criticizing will make him feel irresponsible and unable to realize his desire to correct his mistakes. Therefore, targeted disciplines are particularly important, and the key is to master this degree.