How to deal with the relationship between teachers and students in colleges and universities (1) The characteristics and present situation of teacher-student relationship 1. The characteristics of the relationship between teachers and students in colleges and universities are that a person spends more than twice as much time with his parents when he is a student; The interpersonal communication between teachers and students exceeds 50%. The characteristics of teacher-student relationship are as follows. First, the "teacher" of students and the "teacher" of teachers Generally speaking, students have a "teacher". Students are willing to approach the teacher and talk to him, especially if he thinks there is something important to tell the teacher. They are willing to make friends with their teachers and are eager for their care. Almost every student wants to get the teacher's attention. The performance in college is more complicated. Academically, students are willing to associate with teachers and are eager to get their care and attention. But in life, I am eager to be close to the opposite sex or peers. Like students, teachers also have "orientation". All teachers hope that their students can acquire knowledge and grow up healthily around them. It can be said that every teacher loves students from the heart, and university teachers treat college students as an independent individual and give them enough respect. First, college students are basically mature physically and psychologically; Second, college students have great development potential; Third, college teachers have high cultural literacy. These factors determine the equality of the relationship between teachers and students in universities. Therefore, college students should seize such a favorable interpersonal environment and actively develop good interpersonal relationships with teachers. Second, the relationship between teachers and students is a kind of mutual influence and interaction. Teacher-student communication is different from general social interpersonal communication. It is that teachers purposefully influence students' educational process in a predetermined direction. Teachers influence students, and students will inevitably influence teachers in turn. The communication between teachers and students is realized in such interactive activities. The exchange of ideas between teachers and students in universities can also collide with some valuable ideas. Teachers not only play the role of knowledge disseminators, but also play social roles such as parents' agents, disciplinarians, model citizens, mental health experts, students' intimate friends, group leaders and "scapegoats". Because of the contradiction between these roles, the communication between teachers and students becomes complicated. If teachers want to be competent for this role, they must have better comprehensive quality. Therefore, being a good teacher is an art (II) The present situation of the relationship between teachers and students in colleges and universities At present, there is a bad tendency of alienation and indifference in the relationship between teachers and students, which is mainly manifested in the lack of actual communication time between teachers and students, the poor channels of emotional and ideological exchange, the lack of mutual understanding and mutual indifference. The communication between teachers and students is only in the process of teaching and learning in class, without more contact. It is precisely because of the lack of necessary communication that the relationship between teachers and students has become increasingly alienated and indifferent, which has led to such an embarrassing situation of communication and relationship between teachers and students. With the diversification of knowledge information transmission channels and the increasingly single meaning of teachers' social roles, the younger generation no longer relies entirely on teachers to acquire knowledge as in the past, and students' dependence on teachers gradually declines, and teachers' psychological attraction to students weakens. This is also one of the reasons. In addition, the school management system is not perfect, and teaching and educating people has not really become a unified standard to measure teachers' educational behavior. Therefore, teachers' consciousness and energy of consciously investing in the interaction with students is very limited. In this way, usually only some teachers who are responsible or enterprising will have more interaction with students, while other teachers may rarely take the initiative to contact and understand students because they have no corresponding constraints and responsibilities. In the communication with students, teachers have a strong sense of superiority, are unwilling to approach students actively, and cannot communicate with students on an equal footing, which also affects the relationship between teachers and students. In the process of students' development, young students' physical and mental development is advanced, their independence is constantly enhanced, the scope of independent activities is constantly expanding, and the forms and contents are becoming richer and richer. Therefore, the contact between students and teachers other than study is naturally reduced. To sum up, the teacher-student relationship is a unique social relationship system. Efforts should be made to establish various channels to enhance the friendship between teachers and students, so that teachers can truly trust students and students can trust teachers, and the alienation and indifference between teachers and students can be reduced and overcome. (2) How to establish a good teacher-student relationship 1. Establish the idea of establishing a new relationship between teachers and students. Krupskaya, a famous educator in the Soviet Union, said: "Educating new people is to form a new relationship between people. The essence of education is to establish a system of actual contact and relationship between individuals and collectives and society to ensure the socialization of individuals." The purpose of school education is to teach and educate people, and the work of teaching and educating people is mainly done by teachers. Therefore, from the perspective of sociology and pedagogy, the basic function of education is to build a new relationship between teachers and students, so as to help students grow up healthily in a harmonious and happy atmosphere. In the new teacher-student relationship, teachers should understand students' emotions, attitudes and intentions, and encourage and cultivate students' innovative consciousness. In the content and method of education, teachers should pay attention to cultivating students' self-study ability while imparting knowledge. In the network and information age, the position and role of teachers in education will inevitably change accordingly. In traditional education, teachers are in the position of information center and control the whole education and teaching process. Now, there are actually several centers in education and teaching. Therefore, teachers should adjust their roles in education and teaching and strive to become artists of interpersonal relationships. Change the traditional "teacher's dignity" into a modern "mentor". Teachers play a leading role in establishing a new relationship between teachers and students. Therefore, the key to establishing a new relationship between teachers and students lies in improving teachers' quality and professional ethics. The core of establishing a new teacher-student relationship should be the modern concept of equality, and equality, democracy and prestige are indispensable. Teachers should strive to arouse students' emotional resonance through artistic means. It is the essence of interpersonal artist's creation to mold personality in interpersonal relationship and ensure the socialization of personality. 2. Learn to associate with teachers. Most students have this experience: which teacher has a harmonious relationship, which class do you like and which grade is good; If you don't have a harmonious relationship with any teacher, it will also hurt that course, which is probably a manifestation of loving me, loving my dog. Students spend most of their time in school, so it is inevitable to associate with teachers. How should college students communicate with teachers? First, respect teachers and their work. Teachers teach students almost all the knowledge selflessly and without reservation. If they want anything in return, they just want to see students grow up and climb further and further on the peak of knowledge. Students should respect their teachers and greet them politely when they meet them. There is a saying: teachers and students are like father and son. Listen carefully in class, do not violate discipline, and complete the homework left by the teacher with good quality and quantity. Some students' homework is scrawled, and it takes a lot of effort to make the teacher recognize the handwriting, which adds a lot of extra workload to the teacher. Often, how can teachers be happy and like you? Everyone wants others to respect themselves. If you talk to others, they will ignore you. Will you like this person? Respecting teachers and their work is the basic premise for teachers and students to live in harmony. Second, study hard and ask questions modestly. As a student, I often find that "that teacher is not so good" and "his level is too low", and later I know how naive this view and idea is. Just as cheaters never think that teachers can't find out, in fact, as long as they stand on the podium, it's clear who is doing what below. Teachers are definitely higher than students in age, knowledge and experience, so we should ask teachers for advice modestly. Asking questions is not only directly beneficial to learning, but also increases and deepens communication with teachers, which virtually shortens the distance with teachers. Every teacher likes students who are willing to think. In fact, asking questions to teachers is often the first step in communication between teachers and students. In addition to the head teacher, the classroom teachers don't have much time to communicate directly with students, and often ask the teachers about learning problems, which will deepen the understanding and feelings between teachers and students. Third, treat teachers' mistakes correctly and give teachers advice gently. Psychological research has found that people will stay away from people who have no shortcomings. In fact, it is impossible to have people without shortcomings. The teacher is not perfect. If some of his views are incorrect, or if he misunderstood a classmate, even some teachers are "arrogant" or too strict, it is possible. Find the teacher's shortcomings with an understanding attitude, and give advice to the teacher at an appropriate time with a euphemistic tone. If the teacher wronged you, would you contradict the teacher to his face? No, this will not only help solve the problem, but also worsen the relationship between teachers and students. Let's be patient for a while until everyone calms down. In any case, teachers are elders, and students should put teachers in the position of elders and take care of teachers' self-esteem and face. Fourth, we should have the courage to admit our mistakes and correct them in time. Some students know that they are wrong and are criticized. Even if they are convinced, they will never admit their mistakes, and they are very hard on the teacher. And some people, once criticized by the teacher, are particularly afraid of the teacher and think that he is biased against himself. This is completely unnecessary. Wrong is wrong, take the initiative to admit to the teacher, and correct is a good student. The teacher won't be biased against anyone just because he didn't finish his homework once and violated discipline once. I believe that teachers will evaluate students comprehensively and objectively. A harmonious relationship with teachers can not only promote learning, but also learn a lot about being a man, which will benefit you for life. I believe you can do it. Moreover, good relations with university teachers are also a valuable interpersonal resource.