0 1 The foundation of life is self-confidence.
Children's self-confidence always comes from their mothers first.
How can a mother be as confident as a child?
First look at the mother's acceptance of the child's shortcomings. Love your child unconditionally when you clearly see that he has some shortcomings. The great love of parents is the most important source of children's self-confidence.
Second, the establishment of children's early self-confidence first comes from the encouragement of parents. In the process of children's growth, children can sit up, get up, stand up and help themselves with chopsticks ..... Every small change is a process of ability cultivation, and every change is recognized by the mother. Confidence is accumulated from these little things.
Professor Dong called this accumulation a psychological account, and it must be the mother who saved money first. When they grow up, children with confident accounts are people who dare to explore the future, love innovation, love adventure and love entrepreneurship. They will be brave enough to do things that have no answers, that is, to innovate talents, not entirely because of other people's opinions. Therefore, the power to make children go forward bravely, take responsibility and achieve something comes from the unconditional acceptance and recognition of their children by their mothers.
Third, pay attention to the cultivation of psychological safety. The so-called psychological safety means that children can honestly communicate their true thoughts with their parents without worrying about being punished. Parents need to create a style atmosphere and listen to their children's ideas, even naive ones, which is very important to cultivate people's integrity.
There are two levels of psychological security: one is the physiological level. Before the child is 3 years old, it is the most important time for the child to establish a sense of psychological security. Before the age of 3, it is best for children not to be separated from their parents, so that children will have the anxiety of lifelong separation. Second, on the spiritual level, mothers should encourage their children to express their true feelings and thoughts and empathize with them, which is also very important to cultivate their self-confidence.
Fourth, improve the ability to withstand setbacks and cultivate psychological self-confidence. Nowadays, mothers and grandparents give their children a lot of protection, but ignore the cultivation of their frustration tolerance, which is an important quality of outstanding talents. The ability to bear setbacks is embodied in the ability to explore bravely, not afraid of trial and error, accept failure, face challenges calmly and become more and more brave. Cultivating children's frustration tolerance can be exercised through exercise and various attempts. Exercise is very important for shaping children's character. They are hardworking, tolerant, honest and brave. Children should not be allowed to fall like porcelain. A child's endurance of setbacks will benefit him for life. He is not afraid of failure and will have courage and confidence.