This is a sentence recently read in Mr. Jin Weichun's book "There is only one thing in life". In my impression, Mr. Jin Weichun quoted it at least twice in the book.
I have raised children for thirteen years. In the first twelve years, my main complaint was how disobedient the children were and how difficult it was to teach them. Every day is hard, but I never feel inferior. I want to find books to teach children to learn.
I always feel that these books are all on paper. Every child's situation is different. How can one medicine cure all diseases?
It was not until the child entered adolescence that I suddenly realized that it was like waking up from a big dream and seeking medical treatment everywhere to cure my "disease".
The doctor is still going on, but the condition has been alleviated.
Now that I think about it, raising children is complicated, but it is actually very simple. Just do two things well: love children unconditionally and be a good person.
It is fate that children come into this world and become a family with us. But this is not the fate of nature. The fate of parents and children, as parents, should cherish and be grateful.
With this awareness, it is natural to love children and it is the most natural thing to give love. Children themselves are the best reason to be loved without any conditions.
Whether the child listens or not depends on whether the other person is worth listening to. The child is still young, so listen. When you are old and sensible, when you have a choice, you will definitely not listen if you feel unwilling to listen.
How can a child be willing to listen, of course, when he feels willing to be with the speaker and likes this person. Otherwise, why should he believe what you said?
At this time, natural children will live your own style, without talking or teaching.
Therefore, education is nothing more than love and example. Whether raising children or getting along with each other, love and example are enough to positively influence each other.