A case story of a successful family education The famous educator Chen Heqin found in the process of carefully observing children that music is naturally liked by children. Soon after the baby is born, can you? Appreciate? Music, he will listen to his mother humming a lullaby to sleep peacefully. A little older, I prefer to listen to all kinds of nice sounds. Hearing the music with cheerful rhythm, he will dance; In the noise, he will gradually calm down when he hears lyric music. When I was two or three years old, I could do rhythmic movements with my hands and feet. Entering kindergarten, his demand for music is even greater. When he heard people singing, he saw others playing music, even yellow birds chirping on the branches, and the breeze made Ye Er make a noise, so he would pay attention to it. The rhythm of all this music and the melodious tunes of the songs will attract him. He often imitates involuntarily, shouting, singing and humming out of tune from time to time. When I was in primary school, I knew how to take advantage of his talented voice and rhythm to actively participate in various music activities. On weekdays, whether playing games, walking or resting, I instinctively love singing and show the rhythm of music.
Therefore, Chen Heqin came to the conclusion that it is children's nature and instinct to like music, and music plays an extremely important role in children's lives. To this end, he consciously enriched children's lives with music, among which family concerts after dinner were the most enjoyed by children.
When the Chen family lived in an apartment in Shanghai, the period after dinner every day was often the busiest and happiest time for the family. At this time, seven children and their parents gathered in a room. Mother and eldest daughter Xiuxia play the piano and everyone sings together. Sing China songs and foreign folk songs. One song after another, singing and playing the piano, merged into a harmonious and cheerful atmosphere. Sometimes, children will ask their father to perform. Chen Heqin plays the mandolin brought back from America and sings folk songs that he once played with blacks in England. The children either listen on their cheeks or hum softly. Chen Heqin's voice is not very good, but he is full of passion. He sings with great devotion and appeal. Chen Heqin said: With a singing family, if there is life, imagine a family. After dinner, parents and children gather in a room to sing the same song. What an interesting thing! One day, with this reunion, not only will there be endless happiness in spirit, but also emotional harmony, so there must be music in the family. ?
In short, children should have a musical environment. Today, many parents attach great importance to children's music education and realize the role of music in cultivating sentiment, opening intelligence and promoting children's all-round development. However, it is not uncommon to suppress and restrict children's desire and need for music, ignore children's physical and mental characteristics, encourage children and stifle interest. May Chen Heqin's thought of children's music education bring us thinking and enlightenment. I hope more parents can adapt to and develop their children's nature and let music accompany their children to grow up healthily.
Successful family education case story 2 A hotel in Zhengzhou has a contradiction with customers who come to eat.
The reason is that a 3-or 4-year-old boy insisted on moving a beautiful flower for the guests dining in the hotel lobby, but the hotel waiter patiently persuaded him again and again to no avail, so the boy picked up the flower pot and left. The staff on duty had no choice but to find their parents to stop it, but their parents adopted an attitude of acquiescence and connivance, so the staff on duty had to follow the children outside the hotel to stop it. However, this angered the children's parents, who wanted to give some money to satisfy their wishes. However, the staff on duty did not dare to make their own decisions and grabbed the little boy who wanted to take the potted flowers. This angered the child's parents, and the child's mother insulted the staff on duty in public and declared? Do you really want to get hard? Hit the staff on duty, and said his adopted son? Why? The father of the child is even worse. He rolled up his sleeves several times and tried to beat the person on duty (fortunately, he was stopped by the onlookers). Finally, the person in charge of the hotel apologized and the staff on duty apologized again and again. Finally, the child's mother also strongly encouraged the child's practice. The little boy faced the camera with a straight face and said almost confidently and proudly: I am the best! ? His parents immediately agreed on the spot: you are the best! It seems that his parents must have used it countless times? Fashion? The result of the formation of incentive methods.
After reading this news, I have an indescribable taste. I can't guarantee that these children will become well-known college students, such as Ma Jiajue and Black Bear with Sulphate, but I can't guarantee that they will grow into innovative, modest and considerate interpersonal relationships. Parents' words and deeds are undoubtedly the most powerful. I wonder if parents have ever thought about the consequences of mother's rude spoken language and father's waving arms and fists? Strengthen? The way of thinking of an arrogant child since childhood. Maybe he will prove himself to the society with a stronger fist in the future? The best? . Now, this is a kind of? Fashion? Our children's education methods are widely popular, and people often see this deja vu scene everywhere. With the process of reform and opening up, people have introduced many ways of thinking from abroad and extended them in domestic political life, academic theory discussion and social life, but many of them have been eaten alive or dragged. This article only talks about the reasons.
Number one. The liberation of personality? , is to pay special attention to? Cultivate children's personality? Almost reached a consensus among young parents and became many young parents? Food? Foreign? No? The golden rule. What do many young parents often say now? Cultivate children's personality? Yun Yun. As for raising children, what is it? Personality? I'm not sure. Even thought about children? Rude? With what? Willful? Is it his? Personality? . In my opinion, this is really the biggest cultural misleading to modern China people. In fact, there are too many animal instincts at the beginning of life. These animal instincts are not suitable for human society and must be gradually overcome in human childhood. ? You are the best? This term was first introduced by some people who have lived in the United States. It is said that it is the language used by Americans to educate their children, and it soon spread among young parents in Chinese mainland? This is undoubtedly all? Looking forward to success? Parents' expectations for their children's future. Children should not be encouraged to have self-righteous views regardless of objective facts; Actually, no one can. The best? Instilling a self-righteous megalomaniac view to children makes it difficult for them to find their true selves in society. What encouragement should be given to children? The right principle? And it should be moderate. Even if the child is right, he should choose the right words to evaluate his behavior, so that he can be encouraged and not easily conceited. Build trust. What if it's fake? Flattery? As a prerequisite; Once he knows he's not? The best time? , mood will plummet. This kind? The best? Our educational method doesn't work not only in China, but also in the United States and other western countries. Look at the frequent education in the United States and other countries. School shooting? You will know its harm. Young parents are advised not to use extreme encouraging words when educating their children? You are the best? 、? Are you okay? Wait, and use appropriate words of encouragement? Can you do it? 、? Can you do it? It is better to say something like this, which will leave room for the child: even if he can't finish a task, it won't hurt his self-esteem. Children who grew up after the reform and opening up, the so-called? After 80? 、? After 90? . The growth experience of these two generations of children is quite intriguing: reported before? Ma Jiajue incident? And there are many similar cases. Good boy? What are the cases of parents? Rebellion? Children's cases are all relatives? Break my heart? 、
Embarrassed the general public. But if we ... Empathy? Wait, those? Rebellion? Why did you come to this day? What social responsibilities should parents bear? Is it worth thinking deeply?
Some people say that there must be something hateful about poor people. What about their children? Hurt? When people sympathize with their parents, can they ask themselves and find out the serious mistakes in their early education? There is an old saying:? Is a spoiled child like killing a child? , now also has its practical significance. Parents' excessive doting on early education and? Spoiled? Is it caused by the child's adulthood? Unfilial? 、? Society does not allow it? Even parents. And then what? Indiscriminate? Indulge children? Personality? , is a kind of? Rational? corruption
Successful family education case story 3: the case of American parents educating their children
The law does not stipulate that teachers have the right to punish students, but it does not prevent teachers from studying the right to punish. As we all know, in the United States, parents are not allowed to physically punish their children. If parents physically punish their children, they may lose custody of them. The film Scraping fully illustrates this point. However, not all parents don't beat their children. Let's see one? Accept corporal punishment with dignity? The story goes like this: Mr Douglas, the editor-in-chief of Chicago Express, was entrusted by UNESCO to come to China as a volunteer to provide educational assistance. He told a story that happened to him. He and his wife Barbara divorced when their daughter Johnny was 4 years old, and the children were raised by him. He and his daughter have discussed many times what is the most precious quality of people. When Jonny was 5 years old, one day she secretly brought home a jigsaw puzzle from kindergarten. When Douglas found out that the child was lying, he asked her to send the toy back to the kindergarten and apologize to the teacher. After returning home, let her choose the punishment content: first, she can't eat ice cream for a week; The second is to cancel the grass skiing competition and picnic in Central Park on Sunday afternoon; The third is to slap the ass twice. Finally, the daughter decided to accept the third punishment. So Douglas called his ex-wife Barbara and asked her to come back as corporal punishment? Prison officer? . Speaking of. Prison officer? Douglas said that he and Johnny watched the movie Braveheart together. When Wallace went to the guillotine, the execution palace shouted: Please accept corporal punishment with dignity. ? Douglas
Remind my daughter of this detail and discuss it? I am willing to accept punishment for my mistakes, but no one can deprive me of my dignity. I have the right to choose at least one witness to confirm whether the punishment process has hurt my dignity. This time, little Johnny was slapped twice for lying. Will it hurt her dignity? Is it necessary? Prison officer? Confirm.
A week after this incident, Douglas was busy until 3 am because of work. He didn't get up when the alarm clock rang at 8 o'clock in the morning. Half an hour later, his daughter dressed up and came to his bed, saying that if she didn't get up, she would miss the kindergarten bus. As a result, they were late. The director smiled and asked Johnny why he was late. Douglas made an excuse. Johnny loudly said that dad was sleepy. Douglas was embarrassed, explained to the director and apologized to his daughter. The daughter said:? I accept your apology, but you must also be punished for lying. You have two punishment options now: First, cancel your appointment with Miss Cindy this weekend (Miss Cindy is Douglas' new girlfriend); The second is to accept corporal punishment. ? Douglas said Barbara had gone on a business trip, and no one was there? Prison officer? . At this time, the kindergarten director stood up and said that she was willing to be punished by corporal punishment? Prison officer? . Finally, Douglas asked his daughter? A five-year-old American female citizen pursed her ass? What kind of inspiration does this story give us as teachers? I think, first of all, the relationship between teachers and students is the relationship between citizens. Citizen is a legal concept. As Douglas finally expressed, the relationship between him and his daughter is that between two American citizens. He can't treat his daughter like this just because he is a father, because he has knowledge and social status? A kindergarten child, shouting disrespect. In fact, parents, teachers and students are equal as citizens, and the rights granted to citizens by law begin at birth and end at death. Citizens' rights to life and health, reputation and honor are all the same. Teachers can't show dignity in front of students just because they are teachers. Of course, they can't reprimand students loudly or even punish them in disguised form just because they are educated and managed. Secondly, parents and teachers criticize, discipline and even punish students for their behavior, not their dignity. Educators also make mistakes and break the law.
If you make a mistake and break the law, you must accept punishment, even legal sanctions. Parents and teachers' education and management of students are behaviors, just as students' education and management are behaviors. Some parents and teachers criticize, discipline and even punish students for the purpose of touching their self-esteem. However, some students are dissatisfied with the teacher's criticism. It is not that the teacher made a mistake, but that the teacher's criticism embarrassed him and humiliated him. He subconsciously felt that his personal dignity was hurt. If the teacher criticizes the students, just as Mr. Douglas punishes his daughter, then our students may be criticized like little Jonny. Thirdly, parents and teachers should study the methods of criticizing and disciplining students, and let students choose the way they are willing to accept. We might as well learn from Mr. Douglas, first reach a consensus with the students on certain principles, and then ask everyone to abide by them. Whoever violates the principle will be punished. As for the way of punishment, there are several ways for students to choose. Of course, no way can hurt students' self-esteem. Anyway, through this? Accept corporal punishment with dignity? I think I am a citizen first, a law-abiding citizen, and then a teacher, a teacher who sets an example. Students are citizens first, and they should also be law-abiding citizens, followed by students. Students who need to complete their studies require their students to respect teachers as citizens and respect their personality like him.
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