1, respect children. Every child is an independent individual and has his own advantages and disadvantages, but they are very eager to be respected by their parents, and they are more willing to be friends with their parents. As parents, sometimes they can put down their airs and treat their children as friends and communicate on an equal footing, even if they are 9 years old. We should have a kind of empathy to understand children and listen to their hearts. Only by going deep into their hearts can we know what they think and need, and can children willingly recognize us, identify with us and accept us.

2. Learn to actively communicate with children, tolerate and encourage children, and don't punish children when they deny themselves. This behavior is incorrect. When children deny themselves, let them express their thoughts because children have their own inner world.

3. Parents also need to reflect on themselves and actively reflect on whether they are correct, whether they have problems, and whether their education has problems. They must have corresponding respect for their children. When children are rebellious, they may be more independent and eager for equality. You can't just look at children with your own eyes.

4. Don't yell at the children. Girls' hearts are actually sensitive. When they are in the rebellious period of adolescence, they want to act like adults, and they don't want adults to discipline them. Girls will quarrel with adults, but the correct guidance for adults is to be calm.

5. Try to go into the child's inner world and guess the reason behind the child's provocation. For example, ask the child, "Are you angry because I care too much about you?" "Is it because your mother is busy at work that you feel hurt?" Usually you can guess what makes children rebel. If your guess is correct, the child will feel recognized and understood; If you guess wrong, try again.

6. Give your child as many choices as possible. For example, ask your child, "Do you think you can cross the road, or should I hold your hand?" "Do you want to set the table, or do you want to bring the food to the table and wait for me to set it?"

7. Parents should also keep learning. For example, learn more about children's psychology or parenting education's books. We must find the root of the problem before we can solve it. The child is an independent individual, and he has his own ideas. Not everything can be done according to the wishes of adults. Don't think about completely controlling children, but more about respect and unconditional love. Establish a good parent-child relationship.