First, change the role of education and be the partner of children's growth.
Change the role of education and be the partner of children's growth. In the parent-child relationship in middle school, what parents need to do most is to change their roles, from the dominant educator to the auxiliary companion. When parents understand this, they can get out of the confusion of family education, stop controlling their children and force them to grow up according to their own designs and expectations.
Give priority to children, believe that children have the ability of self-growth, accompany their growth with a relaxed attitude, and reduce their anxiety and powerlessness. Parents should grasp a principle when adjusting their parenting roles, that is, respect and understand the core characteristics of middle school students' psychological development, and respect and understand their sense of independence and adult consciousness.
As long as parents can recognize the characteristics of children's psychological changes and make timely adjustments, harmonious parent-child relationship will still accompany every family.
Second, trust children, give them the opportunity to make decisions and let them solve their own problems.
Trust children, give them the opportunity to make decisions and let them solve their own problems. Some parents are always worried that their children will make mistakes, don't trust their children and don't give them a chance to try alone. But when children reach the middle school stage, the development of self-awareness makes them eager to explore.
Therefore, parents of middle school students should give their children some trust and let them make fewer mistakes and detours. As long as it is not a mistake in principle, let them do it. Especially for children who always make mistakes, parents should try their best to give trust. Because children who always make mistakes are most eager for recognition and praise, when children make mistakes, don't subconsciously deny them.
Give your child a chance to make a decision. In daily life, big and small things give children the right to speak and decide, so that children can feel the trust of their parents. Family members discuss and analyze together, and whoever has the most reasonable opinion will adopt it. Let the children solve their own problems.
Parents always don't want their children to be troubled when they encounter problems, and hope to help them solve them as soon as possible. In fact, children often don't want their parents to get involved. They want to solve it in their own way. When they can't solve it, if they feel that their parents can be trusted, they will definitely seek their parents' help.
Third, accept children's shortcomings and allow them to express negative emotions.
Accept your child's shortcomings and allow him to express negative emotions. To accept children, let them express negative emotions, such as sadness, sadness, pain and anger.
Denying the child's emotions is equivalent to telling the child: "Your mood is not good, we will not accept it; Your feeling is wrong, and we will not allow it. " But children can't control their feelings. Faced with disappointment and frustration, they will definitely feel sad. There is nothing wrong with being sad.