Truth 1: "warm home" The most important thing in a child's life
The most important thing in life ranking:
"Warm home" (39.3%, 49.4%)
"Rich" (1.2%, 1.3%)
"Social status" (0.6%, 0.9%)
"Have power" (0.6%, 0.6%).
See the reason:
Warm parenting style can reduce children's loneliness, anxiety and other negative emotions, while warm parents' emotions can promote the development of children's positive social qualities such as cooperation, gratitude and responsibility.
A warm home represents a harmonious and intimate family relationship, sufficient and powerful family support, and a family atmosphere of acceptance and mutual trust. This is an important part of happiness.
Truth 2: Parents are role models for children.
The most respected role models rank in the top three:
"Parents", "Teachers" and "Scientists"
See the reason:
Taking "parents" as an example, the examples are intuitive, real, concrete and approachable, which can make children more emotionally and psychologically acceptable and more likely to resonate.
The subtlety lies in the spirit. Parents should use the "power of example", start from themselves and details, set a good example for their children, convey correct values and positive "energy", and create a good growth environment for their children.
Truth 3: What parents care about is not equal to what children want.
Children think that parents are most concerned about their children;
Learning situation, physical health and personal safety;
See the reason:
Since children are most eager for a "warm home" and need intimate parent-child relationship, these provide excellent conditions for family education, but why are there so many parent-child conflicts in real life?
Parents should not favor one over the other, and put their children's moral cultivation and mental health in the same or even more important position as learning. As parents, shouldn't we reflect: where did you leave your children?
Truth 4: Parents expect to be as consistent as possible with their children's situation.
Parents are most concerned about their children's study, and this concern has not changed much with the growth of grade.
See the reason:
When children's parents' performance expectations are relatively consistent with their own performance and goals, they can give full play to the expectation effect and improve their academic performance; On the contrary, it is easy for children to feel too much pressure or lack of motivation to learn.
Parents have relatively high expectations for their children's grades. As children go to primary school, parents should learn to set a suitable goal and expectation for their children according to their actual academic achievements.
Truth 5: Reading frequency is the key factor for parents and children to read together.
Parents want their children to put down their mobile phones, pick up books and become a child who loves reading.
See the reason:
The more books in the family, the better the reading situation of parents and children; Increasing the frequency of parent-child reading can increase children's reading time, increase reading volume, improve reading interest and further promote children's better use of reading strategies.
If you want your children to say goodbye to their mobile phones, start with studying in the whole family area! Increasing the frequency of parent-child reading helps to improve children's reading interest to some extent.
Truth 6: Parents should invest more in primary schools.
Don't think that children can be shopkeepers when they are young. The more energy parents put into it, the higher the students' academic performance and the more they agree with the value of learning.
See the reason:
Especially some children who have just entered the primary school stage have not yet developed good study habits. Parents invest more time and energy, which will help children to devote themselves to learning better, improve their academic performance and make them realize the significance of learning.
In the primary school stage, parents need to actively participate in their children's learning, help them establish correct learning concepts, improve their academic performance and promote their better development.
Truth 7: Respect is the premise of communication.
When I do something wrong, my parents always criticize me and don't listen to explanations. ""My parents never answer my questions seriously. "
"My parents never listen to me carefully and always interrupt me."
See the reason:
Treating children as independent individuals means allowing them to express their ideas without first judging whether their ideas are right or wrong; It means that you can't interrupt or stop your child at will, and you can't simply deny your child's different opinions or negative emotions.
When communicating with children, you should have a respectful attitude, warm and supportive eye contact, listen carefully and reply; It means to respect children's hobbies and friends' choices, and not to impose your wishes on children.