Many times, both husband and wife clearly love each other, but because of the improper way of speaking, they often hurt the other half unintentionally.
A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. Speaking is an art as well as a science.
In marriage, people who don't know the art of speaking will directly lead to quarrels or divorce.
Therefore, if you want a happy marriage, you must know how to speak.
In fact, in a happy marriage, smart couples often say these three words in front of the other half.
Smart couples often say words of encouragement to each other.
As the saying goes, behind every successful man, there is a great woman.
This woman? Great? Where is it? If you just take care of your family and help your wife, so can a nanny, so it doesn't matter if you are great or not.
The greatness of this woman is that she must give spiritual encouragement to men.
Of course, the same is true for men and women.
Many times, when we want to do something, there may be many external doubts, and even we are not confident, but if the people we love most can give ourselves an encouragement and a refueling, that is our greatest motivation.
As we all know, Ang Lee is an internationally renowned director and a winner of three Academy Awards. In 20 18, he was awarded a lifetime honorary award by the American Directors Guild.
But what many people don't know is that before he really started directing, Ang Lee had no job for six years. Main business? Just cooking, picking up the children and doing housework. The family's livelihood depends entirely on their wife.
Ang Lee had a dream of directing since he was a child, but he always lacked opportunities and his dream was far away.
Ang Lee once recalled those years like this:
I was almost thirty years old at that time. The ancients said: Stand at thirty. I can't even stand on my own two feet. What should I do? Continue to wait, or give up your movie dream? Fortunately. My wife gave me the most timely encouragement.
My wife is my college classmate, but she is majoring in biology. After graduation, she worked as a drug researcher in a small local research laboratory with a pitiful salary. At that time, we had our eldest son, Haan Lee. In order to alleviate my inner guilt, I do all the housework except reading, watching movies and writing scripts at home every day, and I am responsible for buying food, cooking and taking care of my children, and keeping my home clean and tidy. I still remember that time, every night after dinner, I sat at the door with my son, telling him stories while waiting for "the heroic hunter mother to come home with her prey (living expenses)."
Such a life hurts a man's self-esteem. At one time, my parents-in-law asked my wife to give me some money to open a Chinese restaurant to support my family, but my strong wife refused and returned the money to the elderly. After learning this, I tossed and turned for several nights, and finally made up my mind: maybe my movie dream is too far away from my life, so let's face the reality.
Later, I went to the community college, watched it for a long time, and finally signed up for a computer course sadly. In that era when life was overwhelmed, it seemed that only the computer could give me a skill in the shortest time. I was depressed for a few days, and my wife soon discovered my abnormality. She carefully found the course schedule in my bag. That night, she didn't talk to me all night.
She was about to get on the bus before going to work. Suddenly, she stood at the bottom of the steps, turned around and told me word by word. Ann, remember the dream in your heart! ?
It is such a sentence that makes Ang Lee's almost desperate heart burst into flames and decide to stick to his dream.
Encouraged by his wife, 37-year-old Ang Lee finally created his first film, Pushing Hands, and won three awards in the 28th Golden Horse Award.
From then on, his life began to enter the fast lane, and later he created excellent works such as Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Lust, Caution and Wedding Banquet, which won numerous awards.
In order to thank his wife for never leaving, Ang Lee always took his wife with him when he attended the ceremony party, and did not forget to express his gratitude to her when he delivered his acceptance speech. Ang Lee said frankly:? If I hadn't met my wife, I might not have a chance to pursue my film career. ?
In marriage, smart couples must know how to encourage each other.
They will support each other's dreams and make them feel that although the whole world has left me, you still haven't left me.
Your lover's encouragement is like a little rain on the dry land for another person. It can inspire your fighting spirit, make you full of motivation, and work hard for your dreams and the whole family.
If couples always scoff at the dreams of the other half and suppress themselves, they will only disappoint each other and their marriage. Over time, love will disappear from two people.
As Yi Shu said: What dizziness turns upside down, vows of eternal love, will disappear without encouragement, who will love who for free for a lifetime.
Smart couples often say words of gratitude.
In marriage, many couples will make a mistake, that is, take each other's efforts for granted.
For example, the wife washes clothes, cooks, cleans and takes care of children every day, but the husband takes it for granted;
In order to maintain family expenses, the husband works hard and stays up late to work overtime, and the wife also feels at ease.
In fact, there are not so many things that are taken for granted in the world, and no one is born to pay for whom. Every effort is worthy of recognition.
Even the closest couples should always be grateful and say more words of thanks to each other, so that they can feel warm in their marriage and love each other more.
Zou Shiming's wife, Ran Yingying, was once praised by netizens as a good wife of Zou Shiming because she angrily scolded her eldest son, Zou Xuan Ming, for wasting.
In the video, Ran Yingying is angered by his son Zou's waste of cake. She gave a stern education to her son Jessica Hester Hsuan's wasteful behavior, and said? Every bite of rice we eat is made by dad! ?
It can be said that marrying Ran Yingying is really a blessing for Zou Shiming.
Because others only saw Zou Shiming's honor, Ran Yingying, as his wife, saw her husband's blood and sweat, and sincerely thanked him for his contribution.
In marriage, if the husband and wife don't know how to be grateful and can't see each other's efforts, they will be critical, and the one who pays will be very wronged. After a long time, my heart will get cold. My heart is cold, so is my marriage.
The famous director Ang Lee once said: Love means kindness before love.
The so-called grace is to have a grateful heart. Even if life is dull and boring, a grateful heart will inspire its romance and beauty.
From now on, try to say more words of thanks to your partner.
Let me know when the wife delivers food to her husband? Thank you? ;
Let me know when my husband comes back from overtime? Did you try hard? .
Slowly, you will find that marriage is no longer cold, it will be filled with the temperature of love again and become a warm harbor.
Smart couples don't take each other's efforts for granted, but try to see and affirm each other's efforts.
Smart couples often praise each other.
Among them, criticism ranks first.
It can be seen that in marriage, you don't know how to praise, but only know how to criticize the other half destructively.
In fact, in real life, many couples are always stingy with their compliments to their partners.
Tianjin Satellite TV's "Battle of Love" has a program in which the husband and wife quarrel and get on the show.
The host asked the woman:? What's the reason for your divorce? He's not good enough? Not rich enough? Not enough to make you feel safe, or? ?
The woman said:? Both, right? Neither. I only remember that every time I bought new clothes from the wedding day, I asked him, how was it? He glanced at it, but said nothing. ?
Say that finish, tears came down.
The woman went on to say: Will you die if you say something nice? Will it kill you to praise your wife for her beauty? Even if it is fake! ?
In this world, everyone is eager for recognition. Children want the approval of their parents, and employees want the approval of their bosses.
Similarly, as the two closest people in the world, husband and wife also hope to get the approval of the other half.
The wife wants her husband to praise her for being beautiful, virtuous and gentle; Husband likes his wife to praise him for being smart, capable and responsible.
When husband and wife get along, only by praising each other often will they feel loved and cherished, thus becoming more confident in their feelings.
Bao Beier's wife Bao Wenjing knows this well.
In The Wife's Romantic Journey 2, Bao Wenjing never stints on praising her husband Bao Beier.
She praised Bao Beier for being handsome and talented.
When Bao Beier packed his wife's luggage, Bao Wenjing kept praising her among a group of people. That's great. I never thought it would be like this, okay? .
It is precisely because Bao Wenjing praised Bao Beier all the time in his life that he gave Bao Beier great confidence.
Bao Beier once said in the program that he could work harder and more practically after being praised, and his wife's support and affirmation gave him great strength.
Check? Kolton once said that praise is an encouragement to the noble and a goal to the mediocre.
Husband and wife often praise each other, which will also make each other subconsciously want to be better, and then work harder to improve themselves.
Therefore, often praise each other's husband and wife, the result is that two people make progress together and become better themselves for each other.
A good marriage is not mutual consumption, but mutual fulfillment. Couples who know how to praise each other are helping each other.
Isn't that the best state of marriage?