Some people have no regrets all their lives, because in childhood, their parents have been with them. I will take my children out to play on weekends and send some toys and gifts on holidays. But some people are not so happy. They may not even have birthdays. They don't have a decent toy or clothes, let alone a birthday party. After becoming a parent, I will pay attention to the sense of ritual in my life, and I don't want my children to bear the pain they once suffered, nor do I want to face them with a perfunctory attitude. This is also an act of retaliatory compensation.
First, the emergence of retaliatory compensation.
The shortcomings of childhood are mainly divided into two aspects, the first is emotional, and the second is material. Emotionally, some parents are very stingy with their children, rarely buy expensive things for them, and always send them away with cheap things. When their children go to school, they often swear and take out their Qian Hao grudgingly. Psychologically, some children have never enjoyed the warmth of their families, and their parents may have some strange behaviors. Never care what another child thinks. In fact, the child is very sad, just can't express it. Parents must have a bowl of water. When I was a child, I was always particularly interested in something, so I grew up to make up for these shortcomings.
Most people have had revenge compensation in their childhood. When children grow up, they can control their own lives. Economically independent, he can buy whatever he wants, and he will use money to make up for his childhood regrets. For example, my mother never bought herself a beautiful skirt when I was a child, so I like to buy all kinds of bags and clothes when I am older. When I was a child, I ate nothing, but when I grew up, I would overeat. If this behavior occurs, try to restrain yourself. Since it is retaliatory, it is definitely unnecessary and self-imposed.
In fact, everyone will have this idea, and there will be some revenge to compensate themselves, but short-lived ambitions will also return to rationality.