First, parents should have a correct educational concept.
To make children grow up, we must first make them talented. Children may not be admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University, but they must grow up to be physically and mentally healthy and become useful people to the country and society. I think we should pay attention to several aspects.
1. Cultivate children's sense of responsibility, clarify the purpose of learning, and let children know from an early age that they are responsible for their families, parents, teachers, themselves, the future collective, the country and the society. We should know that the opportunity of learning is hard-won, and our parents have devoted their efforts to it. The future society needs a large number of high-quality workers, and we shoulder the responsibility in the future society.
2. Strive to cultivate interest in learning and cultivate hobbies in interest. For a person who loves learning, learning is a pleasure rather than a burden. The future society is a learning society, and learning is lifelong. People who don't like learning can't do much in the future society.
3. Cultivate children's good will quality. Including consciousness, decisiveness, toughness, self-control and so on. You will often encounter all kinds of difficulties in your study. You must have the perseverance to overcome difficulties and conquer fortresses, and finally you can move towards new glory. In the process of learning, you will encounter various temptations, such as watching TV, chatting online and playing games. You need to have good self-control ability to overcome these temptations and devote yourself to your study.
4. Cultivate children's love and loyalty. Children are the future of the motherland. From primary school to high school to society, we should cultivate them to love the motherland, be loyal to the people, care about the collective and help the weak and the needy. Be able to stand up when the motherland and people need it, be caring, caring for the collective and others, and be kind and upright in daily life and study.
Second, words and deeds are more important than words and deeds, and a positive and harmonious family atmosphere should be created.
Parents should become learning parents, and their learning behavior will exert a subtle influence on their children. It's best not to play cards and mahjong at home often, and don't drink and chat at weddings all day. We should give our children a relatively quiet learning environment. If there are differences between husband and wife, don't make noise in front of the children. When the children are not at home, we can sit down and discuss it slowly. In particular, differences in educational concepts should not be debated in front of children. As the saying goes, "people teach their children first, then persuade their husbands", so that there will be a harmonious family atmosphere.
We should pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem, helping them build up their self-confidence, educating them to learn to understand and care about others, giving them good interpersonal relationships, giving themselves a harmonious learning environment, paying attention to their psychological development and helping them to pass adolescence smoothly.
Third, parents should be close friends of children.
Pay attention to children's psychological development. Some problems should be subtly passed on to children in the usual small talk, instead of waiting until the problems are discovered before adopting rude and arbitrary education methods. For example, the problem of puppy love, parents can show their attitude to this problem when watching TV or talking about the problem of puppy love of children of acquaintances. Some teachers teach students that the fruit of love is beautiful, but the immature fruit is bitter. The student period is the golden age of long body and long knowledge. Although the children in this period have grown up and looked like adults, their hearts are not fully mature, and everyone's future development is unknown. At this time, it is easy to fall in love, which will not only affect your studies, but also cast a shadow over your future love life.
Don't blame children in front of outsiders. It's neither good nor right, let alone settling old scores, especially in front of classmates. Put yourself in others' shoes. How would you feel if you were accused by your superiors in public? Everyone wants to be understood, praised and respected by others. For children's test scores, it is normal to realize that there are fluctuations. We shouldn't always complain about low rankings and so on. Instead, it is necessary to help the children analyze where the problem lies after the exam, whether they are careless or not, or whether they have not allocated time reasonably during the exam, which leads to no time to do the final question. In addition, parents and family members care about each other, understand each other, and neighbors help each other and live in harmony, which will have a good educational effect on children and educate them to learn tolerance and understanding.
Fourth, parents should learn to be a qualified parent.
Parents should continue to study, understand family education, understand the psychological and physical development process of teenagers, and study how to arrange their children's diet and work and rest reasonably to improve their own quality in an all-round way. For example, parents can read more books and magazines about family education and family health care, and watch more TV lectures about family education, which will be of great help to improve the comprehensive quality of our parents. Education, in fact, always needs the common development of educators and educatees. We can't simply emphasize the development of the educated. This is true of school education, and so is family education. With the continuous development of educators, it is possible to provide space and ways for the educated to develop and have more spiritual resonance with the educated. My parents are not professional teachers, and I never ask my parents to be professional teachers. Children in high school develop rapidly and have more "internal" needs. When parents and children develop together, parents can better understand their children's living conditions and give them a more positive response in the "inner" aspect of life. In fact, the common development with children does not require parents to have much profound professional knowledge and skills, but requires parents to have a larger and broader spiritual space, be able to "understand" life and life with children, and maintain more tacit understanding and spiritual communication with children. This is an unprecedented higher requirement for parents in high school.