In today's increasingly diversified values, what is the biggest factor affecting children's growth? According to our research for many years, the family education environment is the dominant factor affecting the growth of teenagers. It is the most important factor for children's growth. Orange is born in Huainan, and orange is born in Huaibei. "Close to Zhu Zhechi, close to ink is black", "dyed in the sky is pale, dyed in yellow is yellow." Meng Mu moved three times, and the children lived near the cemetery and beside the market, so they could only learn to play. Only when you get near the school can you learn etiquette and ask to go to school. Family has the same influence on teenagers as eggs and temperature. Without proper temperature, eggs will never become chickens.
As far as the three-dimensional environment of school, family and society is concerned, children spend more than one third of their time at home. Moreover, for teenagers with mental development, the influence of family even exceeds that of society. Family environment exerts a subtle influence on children for many years in daily life. The influence of the first environment on children's education is often authoritative and unforgettable, and the knowledge learned at home is often the strongest. A good family environment will enable children to form good feelings and develop good habits.
In addition to family nature, a person's growth can not be separated from his environment and cultivation. The influence of its environment plays the most important role in cultivating and educating people. People get development and entrepreneurship education in family, school, society and working environment, which makes a good environment play an irreplaceable role. In particular, the influence of family on children has a subtle educational effect.
Today's children are mostly only children, and it is reasonable for parents to care for their children. However, the overindulgence, improper or improper love and the enhancement of self-awareness in the process of children's growth make the only child in a special priority position in the family, and parents treat their children as "emperors" and "princesses" everywhere. Families are getting richer and richer, and the needs of children are increasing. At the same time, parents lack a good parenting attitude towards their children, which makes them develop a bossy and willful character. In this way, children can't grow up healthily physically and mentally. With the connivance of their parents, they have developed many bad habits, which will not only bring pain and trouble to children in the future, but also lead them astray and even ruin their lives.
Family environment is the first paradise for children to live and grow up. This paradise is the first school established by parents to educate their children. Therefore, parents are the first leaders and teachers of children. In the influence and education of family on children, it is more important to pay attention to role models, which is the most influential hidden education and the "self-image" theory in psychology. Whether people know it or not, people have a psychological blueprint for themselves, that is, self-portrait. If they imagine themselves as what they are or who they are, they will unconsciously act according to that and that kind of person. Because, the figure in the environment is ringing him and making his ideal figure come true in his own actions. Therefore, self-image is not only the premise, but also the foundation. Everyone's personality, behavior and even the environment are based on this, and parents are the first beautiful image that children feel. On this basis, children's sensitivity to their parents' behaviors and actions often stimulates their thinking and actions, and its influence far exceeds direct discipline. The most influential and authoritative education in the family is the family environment education based on parents' quality, cultivation, ability, habits and style. Parents are the "role models" in children's minds and the samples that depict the psychological blueprint. Therefore, a good family is an environmental atmosphere promoted by parents' good cultural quality and quality. In this environment, the influence and infection of children are beyond the reach of any explicit education. This kind of influence and infection is a subconscious edification or silent education.
How to create a happy family atmosphere and a happy family life can improve the physical and mental health of the whole family and prolong life. However, it is not easy to maintain harmony and happiness in family life, which requires the joint efforts of all family members. There are ten elements to keep a happy family:
(1) A very important factor in the family environment is a good family style. The first is equality, which is the premise of creating a good family psychological atmosphere. The sense of superiority of both parents and children will cause psychological pressure and psychological estrangement to other family members. The second is reason. Only reason can restrain one's psychological impulse, treat and deal with problems calmly, which is conducive to maintaining a good family psychological atmosphere and, more importantly, helping children form stable psychological characteristics. Finally, openness, which means that family members can express their ideas frankly and equally in a way acceptable to other members, instead of venting without scruple.
The main members of the family should be cheerful and open-minded, regardless of gains and losses. They are not only happy at work, but also always smile when they come home, which will have a good infectious effect on the mood of the whole family and help to realize a relaxed, happy and harmonious family atmosphere. On the contrary, if the main family members pull a long face all day, or often lose their temper and quarrel with each other, it will upset the family and make no one happy. (2) Family atmosphere should be caring and considerate to each other in life, and members should discuss things with each other instead of blaming or criticizing each other. Those families whose parents are overbearing have a tense and depressing atmosphere, and it is difficult to be happy. No matter how busy you are, you should spend some time communicating with your children. Listen carefully. Many times, children just need someone they can trust to listen. They should listen carefully and wait patiently.
(three) family members have a wide range of hobbies, elegant hobbies, and colorful spare time; Will make the family atmosphere lively and happy. It is necessary to cultivate "common topics." What is your child interested in, his favorite singers, novels and video games ... You know what your child loves, so that your child will be willing to communicate with you. In the process of communication, give children correct guidance.
(4) Family members have no bad hobbies, let alone rude people, but everyone is polite and diligent in cleaning the family environment.
(5) It is the concern of parents, which includes not only the concern for children's study, but more importantly, the concern for children's life and psychology. Psychological research shows that the more care and guidance children get from their parents in the family, the more conducive they are to the formation and development of their personality. With a good personality, children's study and life will develop in a good direction. Therefore, we should not only care about children's learning, but also care about all kinds of psychological problems that children have in the process of learning. We should give guidance to help children learn to bear all kinds of pressures, especially the psychological influence of families, so that they can adapt to the family environment and try to eliminate the negative impact of bad families on their personality development.
(6) Pay attention to mental health when eating, don't talk about unpleasant things at the dinner table, let alone teach or question the children at the dinner table, so that the whole family can eat in a relaxed and happy atmosphere.
(seven) strict requirements of children, do not arbitrarily corporal punishment of children. Parents should teach by example and inculcate, never spoil their children and let the only child do whatever he wants at home. Once children don't study well, families will lose happiness.
(8) Family services should pay attention to science, do not engage in sudden attacks, do not focus on a few people, but focus on everyone, from each according to his ability, in a planned way, with a division of labor, and the whole family should work together.
(9) Try to have a colorful Sunday. Going out of the small family and into nature will bring happiness to all members.
(10) Hold regular family democratic life meetings, carry out criticism and self-criticism, give priority to praise and encouragement to children, and especially cultivate a good family style of respecting the elderly and loving the young.
To sum up, the family environment is very important to the development of children's life, study, psychology and personality habits. As parents, they should shoulder their responsibilities, create a good family environment for their children, improve their own quality and guide their children to grow up healthily and happily.
There are several common problems in family education in rural areas: First, they are busy setting up families, paying attention to the economy and neglecting the education of children. Some parents think that all education depends on teachers when children enter school, and teachers' responsibility is only to improve their financial conditions, so that their food, clothing, housing and transportation can be guaranteed and satisfied as much as possible. Second, parents have low cultural quality and are unable to educate their children. Third, parents are eager for their children to succeed, and there is no correct way to educate their children, so some families have "stick education". Fourth, there are more and more one-child families. Parents care too much about their children, regard them as the apple of their eye, obey everything and follow everything. Children live in a doting environment, which makes it difficult for them to receive education. Fifth, many parents haven't realized the role of words and deeds, and haven't noticed that their behavior in various occasions will affect their children's growth, so they can't establish their own good image.
In today's family environment, as parents, there is an urgent need to advocate: first, hard work, simplicity and honesty; Second, be honest and kind, and be polite to people; The third is to respect the old and love the young, and live in harmony; Fourth, the style is decent and educate future generations. Due to social peace and the rapid development of economic construction, the family has also undergone constructive changes. Under the impact of the economic spring tide, there are ships that sink to the bottom of the sea, ships that drift with the tide, and ships that ride the wind and waves. In short, parents should not only create a superior living and learning environment for their children, but more importantly, cultivate their children's courage and will to face difficulties, teach them how to be human and promote their success.
Children who grow up with accusations tend to complain about others in the future. 2. Children who grow up in hostility are likely to be aggressive in the future. Children who grow up in fear will be timid in the future. Children who grow up in pity will easily feel sorry for themselves in the future. 5. Children who grow up with ridicule are prone to negative retreat in the future. 6. Children who grow up in jealousy are prone to intrigue in the future. 7. Children who grow up in humiliation are likely to feel guilty in the future. 8. Spoiled children tend to be self-righteous in the future. 9. Children who grow up with tolerance are likely to be extremely patient in the future. 10. Encourage children who grow up in middle school to love others and themselves in the future. 1 1. Accept children who grow up and be broad-minded in the future. 12. Children who grow up with identity can also master their own goals in the future. 13. Children who grow up sharing will be able to safeguard justice and truth in the future. 14. Children who grow up in stability can also believe in themselves and others in the future. 15. Children who grow up friendly can show more concern for the world in the future. 16. Children who grow up safely will also have a peaceful mind in the future.
Parents should also pay attention to finding role models for their children among peers and classmates, which can increase the intimacy of learning. These people are all children's peers and have similar life experiences. Children are familiar with the good ideas, good moral character and good style shown by their peers, which are easy to understand and accept, and can stimulate their learning motivation. But parents should remember not to pick out the advantages and disadvantages of their classmates and compare them with their children's shortcomings, let alone take the opportunity to satirize their children. If parents often say, "Look at that child, then look at you, you make me sad!" " "This kind of education can only play a negative role and make children feel disgusted. The correct way is to seize the opportunity, stimulate self-study, enhance self-confidence and be willing to learn.
Parents use good family education to guide their children and help them grow up healthily.