Don't be confused, my life is up to me, please help yourself for the rest of your life. Every milestone on the road of life is engraved with the word "starting point". Be like water, do things like mountains, the lower the better, let others go; You must have your own opinions and goals when you do things. No argument means compassion, no argument means wisdom, no smell means purity, no thought means freedom, no greed means giving, breaking evil means doing good, correcting means repentance, forgiving means liberation, content means letting go, and benefiting others means self-interest. The rest of your life is still long, don't be hard on yourself, as long as you are getting better, it doesn't matter if you slow down! ! !

Why is it okay?

1, family education. In terms of parents' doting, parents have arranged everything. As long as parents are happy, they can do whatever they want. I feel good about myself and don't want to think for myself.

2. Personal ability. Lack of expression ability, lack of self-study ability, inferiority and self-confidence, may have failed to make a decision before, afraid to start again, afraid that their decision will make others unhappy, afraid to make a wrong decision.

3. Personality. I'm weak, shy and insecure, and I just have my own ideas, but I dare not say what others say loudly, and finally quit.

4. think. Simple thinking, when encountering something, the first time is not to analyze and solve the problem, but to need help, always thinking of relying on others and being an ostrich to escape.

5. knowledge reserve. Lacking corresponding knowledge and experience, I can't say the idea of 123, but listen to other people's opinions and judgments.

6. Unwilling to think. Always want to rely on others, don't have your own opinions, have good opportunities, have a high position, and have insufficient opinions. Whoever dares to give you opportunities, who is assured to put you in an important position, is unwilling to think, or doesn't know how to think, is a manifestation of having no opinions.

7. can't grasp the key points. I want to talk about this and that for a while, and the more I talk about it, the more confused I am, the more I can't grasp the key points, and the less I can find the main contradiction.

8. Insecurity. No matter in life or emotional life, women who often show insecurity tend to think wildly and let themselves fall into depressed emotions and be sentimental.

9. Fear of making decisions. Afraid of making a wrong decision, afraid that your decision will bring bad consequences, just shut up and listen to the command.

10. Marriage is arranged by parents. How much love is lost to parents, but it is actually lost to self-determination. An adult can't even protect his own love. How can you decide what he will do for the rest of his life?

10 exercise "independent" method.

1 Economic independence. A girl with independent thoughts will not ask a man for money, nor will she ask her parents for money when she comes out to work. A girl with independent thoughts will not take it for granted to spend money on men and parents. Only by spending her own money can she be justified.

2, don't feel inferior, have confidence. A girl with an independent mind is definitely a girl who is full of self-confidence, believes in herself and others.

3. Read more books. Girls who don't have their own opinions often get into trouble because they lack knowledge in their hearts. Then if you want to become independent and read more books, not only will your knowledge increase, but your thinking will also become clear and rational.

4 Stay rational. Don't associate with a person because of material things Those who can give themselves material things may not be able to give themselves a warm family. You should know what you want in your heart. Be rational in everything. Don't get into the habit of taking a feminine view. It is good to have a habit, but if it is a bad habit, you must change it.

5. Learn to analyze problems. Girls who have no opinions are the most terrible. She must have an independent mind and can only learn to analyze problems, such as asking more "why", so that she can not only learn to explore problems, but also get effective methods.

6. Have your own principles. No point of view is lack of principle. They don't know how to reject things they don't want with their own thoughts, such as the confession of people they don't like and the betrayal of their loved ones. Once you have your own principles, you not only maintain your own position, but also gain the respect of others.

7. Learn to sayno. Girls must first learn to refuse, such as unreasonable demands from friends or superiors, "saying no", which will not only make them fall in price, but also save a lot of trouble.

8. See more, listen more and understand more. Girls just see the world more, and gradually have their own ideas and opinions. This requires us to see, listen and understand more. Not only can you improve your observation, but you can also avoid talking too much and losing too much.

9. Have your own life pursuit. Strive to improve your self-ability, bravely pursue your own ideals, and don't pin your hopes on others.

10, make more excellent friends. As the saying goes, "Those who live near Mexico are black, those who live near Zhu Zhechi are black". Your friends are excellent, so you can naturally learn from them how to treat people and people, which can not only help you in your life, but also improve your knowledge.