First, reasonable and effective communication skills.
1, to help restore confidence. In other words, when we communicate with our classmates, we should be good at using inspiring language to help them build confidence. In daily work, I found that some students have inferiority complex. We should learn to stimulate students' enthusiasm and help them out of the shadows.
2. Useful dialogue. When communicating with students, we can communicate on social issues that students care about, for example, talking about current social phenomena, current news, family, marriage and other social issues. This can arouse students' interest and deepen the emotion between teachers and students.
3. Comfort without explanation. Sometimes students can't handle interpersonal relationships well, sometimes there will be small frictions, and even some students will feel wronged and cry for comfort. In this case, there is no need to investigate the truth, nor do students need to explain the reasons for crying. As long as you give him proper comfort and let him vent his emotions, the problem can be solved well.
4. Good faith correction. Students are more likely to accept well-intentioned reminders and correct mistakes, and try to avoid rude ways. Students will trust you more and solve problems better.
5. Be considerate of students' feelings. When a classmate is misunderstood or unhappy, he wants to talk to someone he trusts. At this time, you should understand, intentionally and skillfully change the subject and guide him.
6. Give dignity. In the process of communicating with students, we should praise students' achievements in time and make them feel a sense of accomplishment, which gives them dignity and makes them feel that someone cherishes his efforts and respects her moral character.
7. Wisdom dissolves embarrassment. In our teaching and management, we sometimes encounter some embarrassing scenes, which is the time to test a teacher's wit. You can find a reasonable step and solve the embarrassment with wisdom.
8. Appropriate goals. Do not analyze the ins and outs of minor misconduct, and do not delve into the accident; Don't hold preconceived ideas about students' past experiences or long-term future, deal with immediate things and care about students' mood here and now.
Second, the communication between teachers and students is not smooth.
When communicating with students, if the teacher uses sarcastic language, despite the love of "hating iron and not turning into steel", it inadvertently creates a gap between teachers and students. This inappropriate expression not only does not help to realize the educational purpose, but also produces great destructive power, causing students' disgust, revengeful fantasy and even locking their hearts.
1, complaining. Some teachers always complain when educating their students. At first, a few students will blame themselves, but if they complain too much, they will be indifferent, and even resent your practice, and even think it is a sign of incompetence. You should understand more and complain less.
2. Spying on privacy. Sometimes students don't want their teachers to know their secrets. At this time, if you keep chasing after it, it will cause embarrassment and disgust for students and unhappiness between teachers and students. Not to mention students, even their own children don't pry into privacy. Maybe you care, but they may not appreciate it.
3. harsh questioning. Some things are not important, students can solve them by themselves, or students feel that they have no practical significance and don't want to tell the teacher. However, some teachers always like to get to the bottom of the matter out of concern, but students may not understand, which often leads to stalemate. At this time, teachers should understand students' feelings, so it may be better to let them go first and ask questions later.
4. contempt. Some teachers don't take students seriously, despise them and even hurt their self-esteem. The head teacher is the manager of the class, but students and teachers are equal in personality. If the teacher looks down on the students, it will arouse their antipathy, and the students will certainly alienate him.
5. abuse. Some teachers cynically and even ridicule students when they make mistakes, which will cause students' anger and tension between teachers and students. Some people say that teachers are like surgeons, and they should never cut at will, because the knife edge may exist forever. I think this statement makes sense.
6, remote control, setting up "informants" Some teachers like to set up eyeliner in the class during the management process, and get relevant information through the small report of "informants", which is actually very harmful. On the one hand, it can't go deep into reality and form bureaucracy in management. On the other hand, it affects the personality development of "informers", alienates the relationship between students, and causes students' disgust and hatred.
7. intimidation. Whenever students make mistakes, some teachers always threaten to take severe punishment measures such as punishment and expulsion. This will cast a shadow on students' psychology, arouse their fears and lead to psychological alienation.
8. Set a trap. Other teachers like to set traps when dealing with some things, "please go into the urn", which hurts students the most. It will cause students to no longer trust anyone, feel insecure, fear and retreat.
Third, the principle of effective communication between teachers and students.
In the process of education management, the teacher's job is to guide and help, not to hurt. Effective communication is the key to improve education and teaching life and the relationship between teachers and students. Proper communication is an art that needs constant learning. Let me introduce some principles of communication with students and discuss them with my colleagues.
1, talk about things. Tell the truth when communicating with students, and don't dig up old scores. What needs to be paid more attention to is personal character and character, otherwise it will hurt students and lead them to oppose you.
2. Seek cooperation. In class management, students should be given the opportunity to experience independence. The more independent, the less hostile, the more independent, the less you will hate others. Communicating with students to avoid orders can reduce resistance if you meet one.
We should give up arguing with students on some thorny issues, because arguing will only lead to counter-arguing, especially when students have slight misconduct in class. Changing the classroom atmosphere is easier to get students' cooperation than trying to change their minds.
3. Accept it with your heart. Mutual acceptance and understanding between teachers and students is a complex art, and the effect of requiring students to use critical and non-critical language is different. Non-critical language does not involve emotions, reducing conflicts, while critical language causes disgust and creates tension. In the face of students' problems, teachers tell their feelings and expectations, starting with the word "I"; It is best to start with the word "you" when answering students' questions or requirements.
Don't use insulting language when you are angry. In reality, there are many classes and natural needs, which sometimes inevitably causes teachers' anger. Students often make you angry. Teachers can vent their anger, but they can't insult others or attack students' conduct. When the teacher is angry, students will pay special attention to the teacher.
5. Don't label students. Labeling is a kind of harm, and the forms of labeling are: labeling by grade, labeling by appearance, labeling by family, labeling by wealth, labeling by performance, etc. When dealing with students' problems, we should try to avoid judgment and prediction, and the result of judgment may make students form real questions. Students generally grow up according to the teacher's negative language and become what the teacher says.
6. Don't ask with hostility. When students have questions, don't cross-examine them with hostility, so that students can accept you easily and help solve the problems. The teacher's non-violent reaction has a long-term impact on students, which can make students know how to respect, know how to be independent and know how to be responsible for themselves, and will have better results.
7. Be concise. Teachers should be as fascinating as playwrights, and students will close their hearts to nagging teachers. When solving immediate problems, teachers should avoid lengthy discussions about future responsibilities and past experiences, and there is no need to get into a dead end. If teachers ignore students' emotions and adopt long and complicated explanations, learning will be very difficult or even terminated.
8. Stop being sarcastic. A mean teacher is especially harmful to students' physical and mental health, and harmful language is not allowed in teacher-student communication. A teacher's job is to help, not to hurt. When students encounter difficulties, quick comfort and irony can't help them.
9. Corrective guidance. There is no student who does not make mistakes. When they make mistakes, they need guidance, not severe criticism. Effective correction can guide students, make them realize the essence of the problem, and facilitate students to correct.
Proper communication can improve education and achieve ideal results. Communication should be sincere, not artificial. False feelings can not achieve the purpose of education, but make students feel disgusted. In short, teachers should pay attention to stimulating learning, encouraging autonomy, supporting self-esteem, building self-confidence, eliminating anxiety, eliminating fear, reducing frustration, calming anger and resolving contradictions when communicating with students.