What do children like to do best, such as skateboarding, playing computer games, what they want to have, and so on.

Second, parents and children list the behaviors that need to be improved together.

For example, your child doesn't want to read and write, and his homework can't be finished on time.

Third, sort the behaviors in the order from easy to difficult, and choose specific goals.

For example, I will do my homework immediately after school. Read a book for 30 minutes, write a short article of 150 words and so on.

Fourthly, determine the representation method of "token"

For example, a small red flag, a small five-star or other things that children like.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) determines the number of "tokens" that can be obtained when the behavior is reached.

1. For example, read a book for 30 minutes every day and write a short article of 150 words, 5 points;

2. For example, go home from school every day, immediately put in homework and complete it with good quality and quantity, and score 5 points;

3. For example, if the daily operation time does not exceed 1 hour, score 5 points; Write for more than half an hour and score 2 points;

4. Preview the text every day and find out your own problems, bring the problems into the classroom, and record 5 points;

5. Review what you have learned before every three days, and complete it with good quality and quantity. Remember that 1 has a small red flag.

6. Extra reward: 5 points for all the above five items on the same day; One week 1 continuous record of small red flag; Recite a poem every day and stick to 1 red flag every week; Read the text for 30 minutes every day, and remember 1 red flag every week.

Six, determine the exchange standard of "tokens" and rewards.

1.30 Little Red Flag rewards playing video games for two hours;

2.80 small red flag rewards skateboarding for half a day;

3. 100 Little Red Flag rewards a set of favorite toys;

……

In addition, 10 points can be exchanged for a small red flag. If one item is not completed as agreed, the corresponding score or small red flag shall be deducted twice as punishment.

Some time ago, I suggested a student's parents to use this method, and the effect is good. You should try it according to the specific situation of your child.

Phonology: I've tried this. We made a list of how much money we can reward for doing everything well every day, but he had difficulty studying or couldn't sit still, so he simply said I didn't want it. Can't insist

Yang Yonglong: Children's study time should be kept at about 40 minutes, with 15 minutes of rest and play time in the middle.

Phonology: unlike other parents, we have to study all the time, but he can't even do the most basic things. I always say that if you study, you should study hard, and if you play, you should have fun. It's good not to ask, but at least it's ok.

Yang Yonglong: Third, there are many ways to cultivate excellent children.

Phonology: Thank you.

Yang Yonglong: First of all, parents should take a positive attitude to care for and care for their children. Through communication and heart-to-heart, understand the specific situation of children "don't understand any classes now, so they don't want to go to school", and then give corresponding education and guidance. In order to achieve the positive effect of education guidance, I suggest that you refer to Good Boy Being Praised (1) and Good Boy Being Praised (2), and at the same time use the "0×0 education model"-point out the advantages of children (0), then point out the areas that need improvement with "if" or "hypothesis", and finally further affirm. The specific application of this model to your children is that you are good at handling and solving problems with your own way of thinking, which parents appreciate very much (0). If you can make a study plan that suits you and complete it step by step (×), then your study will improve by leaps and bounds (0); You can also use the "0×0" education model to build up your child's self-confidence in learning culture lessons, form his interest in culture lessons and his sense of accomplishment in learning, and make your child better.

Secondly, what do you want your child to do, just say what the child did. What kind of quality do you want your child to have? That is, the child already has such quality. For example, I hope that children love learning, that is, children love reading and asking questions; I hope that the child has a good memory, that is, the child will remember it after watching it two or three times, and so on. Never say that children are "forgetful", "clumsy", "always lying" and "teachers don't like it".

Third, in learning, don't compare with other children, but with yourself. If there is progress, we should give praise and affirmation in time. This can not only help children find self-confidence, let him feel his success, cultivate his confidence in success, and achieve further success in self-confidence, but also stimulate his interest in learning, further experience the fun of learning, and achieve the purpose of voluntary and efficient learning.

Fourth, we know that everyone likes to hear compliments. Children are the apple of your eye, so you should remember to praise them more in your daily life. So you should know more about your child's strengths, interests and other good behaviors. It is necessary to combine his existing advantages, encourage and urge children to carry forward their advantages to make up for their shortcomings, establish self-confidence in learning cultural classes, and form an interest in cultural classes and a sense of accomplishment in learning. Therefore, if you want to achieve your goal, don't be stingy with praise. After a period of training, children will form good study habits and positive self-image, and then children will be as good as we hope.

Fifth, it is necessary to help children enter the learning state, such as caring, supporting and encouraging children when they encounter difficulties; Praise, encourage and affirm children's progressive behavior in time (for example, the degree of hard work, finishing homework on time, writing homework quickly and well, etc.). ), encourage and support children to find their own learning methods, gradually find their own independent learning mode, and finally achieve a good learning state.

Sixth, we should evaluate children correctly and positively in time, affirm their small success, let them taste the joy of success, and improve their learning enthusiasm and efficiency.

Seventh, every day, we should spare some time to talk with our children calmly, and don't forget to go shopping and participate in recreational activities with our children. With the increase of our contact opportunities with children, on the one hand, our feelings with children will increase day by day, and we will narrow the distance with children in the emotional experience of happiness, joy and happiness, so that children can be educated and induced in silence; On the other hand, as we get closer and closer to our children and have more and more emotions, we can find their small progress in time and encourage their small success, which will make them feel that you are looking forward to their growth and believe in their success, so that they will develop in the direction we expect.