The process of women becoming qualified members of society through individual socialization is to prepare for playing the role of mother until women enter the role of mother. According to the requirements of the Code of Conduct for Mothers' Roles, we should train qualified social members to acquire social roles suitable for their own identity and status. This is the socialization of mother's role. In China, the socialization of mother's role lies in the lack of understanding of mother's role by society and women themselves. After the Ming and Qing Dynasties, Chinese mothers had only physiological functions, but no educational functions. "The May 4th Movement may be a turning point in the education of Chinese mothers." "The Cultural Revolution is a typical fragment of China's mother religion;" "There is no family education in modern China." (Quoted from Wang Donghua's Mother's Discovery) Before the Revolution of 1911, the sages expounded the significance of mother education incisively and vividly.
Liang Qichao clearly stated at the beginning of the book "Setting up a Girls' School": "You can be a husband, you can be a teacher, you can be close to IKEA, and you can stay away from kindness. Female Desheng, thousands of rooms are good. Isn't it true? Otherwise? " To this end, he shouted for girls' schools: "Therefore, the second principle of governing the world is to correct people's hearts and recruit talents. And the foundation of both must be cultivated. The foundation of training must start from the mother's teaching. The foundation of mother education must begin with women's studies. Therefore, women's studies are a great source of survival and strength in the world. " "Is the most prosperous girls' school, the country's strongest. It is also beautiful to defeat the enemy without fighting. Women who learn to be inferior are powerful countries, as are Britain, France, Germany and Japan. Women fail in school, their mothers lose their education, they are unemployed, and there are few wise people, but those who live in the countryside are lucky. So are India, Bosnia and Turkey. " "Why did Liang Qichao and other cadres not advocate mother education, but disappeared in the May 4th Movement? Is Liang Qichao's reform force weak? Is the May 4th Movement a powerful revolutionary force? History always moves in the direction of its resultant force. When we expand the background, we find that the May 4th Movement is only an inducement! The reason why China chose not to have a mother was not a temporary passion, but a historical necessity, which was the historical necessity of the decline of Chinese mother education, while China denied the historical necessity of mother. Behind seemingly respecting the mother is a stronger psychology of denying the mother. " (Quoted from Wang Donghua's Mother's Discovery)
Looking back at history, we can find that the neglect of the role of mother in China society has historical disadvantages.
Society is not aware of the responsibility of mothers at all. Many criminals who are executed are actually being punished for their parents. The man who bit off his mother's nipple was the source, and the mother sent her son to the guillotine. He was punished by law, but his mother was not punished at all.
In today's society, everything is audited; Everything has a professional title; Everything has art; Everything has culture; Everything has a star ... only mom doesn't. The society will pay attention to whether prostitutes get a license, but it doesn't matter how many times a child has been born and how many times he has been seriously ill. As for how to raise children, I am even more unconscious. A person who accidentally spits sputum will be fined, and a mother who gives birth at will will not be held responsible for making her child deaf because of careless medication. Society also pulls mothers in the other direction, luring them to fall for it, and many advertisements bombard mothers and children.
An educator once said that all roles in society need to be studied and trained, and only our parents and everyone can play this role well in their lives, but they can bear it without any role learning and training. In fact, like all other role learning in society, the role of mother also needs role learning. It is not only the study of educational knowledge and methods, but also the study of role standards and how to be a good mother. However, our parents' schools, training lectures and various guidance books at all levels are more about family education methods, knowledge and problems, but lack such relevant guidance. Many mothers try their best to learn about keeping pets. They didn't prepare in advance, and they didn't study the way to raise their children afterwards-it's better to treat their pets than their children. For a skirt that is only worn a few times a year, mothers will run all over the city, asking for advice and asking people for connections. However, they don't consult doctors when they are pregnant, and they don't learn how to raise children. Even if some mothers go to the hospital and pay money, what they get is deception. Nowadays, universities have not taught a female student how to cultivate high-quality offspring for the rejuvenation of the Chinese nation, and one by one they have become frivolous girls in the streets.
To sum up, the socialization of mothers should start with changing social consciousness, endowing mothers with very strict and high social expectations, and making the whole society realize:
Children don't belong to anyone, they will become citizens of society, and they are the wealth of the whole society. Therefore, the whole society should care about children, mothers, mothers' education and advocate mothers' education. "As far as the current situation of mother education in China is concerned, improving the overall quality of mothers is the key to mother education."
Secondly, the socialization of mother's role should start with changing women's cognition of mother's role, so that mothers can have such ideas and understanding:
(1) "Children follow their mothers' example, and all the advantages and disadvantages of mothers, strengths and weaknesses will become teaching materials for children to learn. Therefore, the mother is no longer facing a knot in one's heart, but a god. You need to pay attention to your mother's every move. You're dealing with an extremely demanding behavior prosecutor. "
(2) "Children are alive, so should education. It should grow up with children. The initiative of education should not be given to others, and the kite line for children's growth should be firmly held in the hands of mothers! The education of children is essentially the education of children to be human beings. The more successful and perfect the mother herself is, the more secure her education will be, and the smoother and healthier her children will grow up. "
(3) "How far the mother can go, how far the child can go!" This special position and role of mother education requires them to deliver qualified human resources to the society and undertake the important mission of "social security doctors" to promote social progress and improve national quality.
(4) "Educating children is the biggest and deepest knowledge in the world, especially in the first few years of children's life. The most essential and important things in his life are given by his mother. This kind of education not only affects children's own life, but also strongly affects the growth of the next generation in the way of social inheritance. No education is more profound and lasting than that of a mother. Therefore, the mother is not necessarily a genius, but she can be a genius mother and the mother is the chief designer of the child. "
(5) "Mother is the primary productive force. Throughout human history, an era of talent competition is an era of higher status of women, and motherhood is an era of attaching importance to children's education. Therefore, the hard truth of development is education, basic education, children's education and mother's education! We must further improve our understanding of education. Education should be the first of all problems. "
(6) "The characteristics and realistic responsibility of mother education require a competent mother not only to have certain cultural literacy, but also to be both an educator and an educated person."
Thirdly, the socialization of mother's role requires mother to learn knowledge and cultivate the ability to complete its natural and social functions. Therefore, as a complex role, the role of mother is not enough to learn from generation to generation, and better role learning should be carried out. The following interview lists some social contents that mothers must complete their studies:
(1) "If a mother can't come up with scientific and correct educational methods to educate her children, the wrong influence of education will be with her all her life, and it may be hard to wash away all her life."
(2) "Mothers should jump out of the traditional mode of developing children's own human resources with only love and responsibility, fundamentally understand what problems children may encounter in their growth, promote their own perfection through education, and master the educational principles and laws on how to guide children to scientifically develop their potential as soon as possible."
(3) makarenko, an educator in the former Soviet Union, said, "Don't think that you can only do education by talking to children. Every moment of your life, you are educating your children, even if you are not at home ... how you dress, how you talk to others, how you are happy or unhappy, how you treat friends and enemies, how you laugh, how you read newspapers and so on. These are of great significance to children. "
(4) In the process of improving their own cultural quality and all aspects of quality, mothers should also start from some details of themselves, such as overcoming some of their bad habits and trying to cultivate some good attitudes towards life, such as interacting with people and actively working and living, which are enough for mothers to influence their children's future.