Xiao Zhang never thinks that corporal punishment can bring any benefits to children, so he always encourages and praises children. Recently, children have really had some big problems, and their grades have not been outstanding, resulting in a medium level in school. Faced with such a thing, the child was so anxious that he didn't know how to solve the problem.
However, when Xiao Zhang looked at this matter, it seemed that he was not so flustered. Instead, he calmly said to the child: "Dad always believes that you are the best person. Because you work hard enough, dad believes that you will get better grades sooner or later. " When the child heard these words from Xiao Liu, it was really a full reassurance. Since then, children have become better. As Xiao Liu expected, the child's academic performance has advanced by leaps and bounds and has become 1 in the class.
In fact, this is the advantage of praise. It has long been said in the "Helok effect" that praise psychology has a great influence on children.
In fact, the "sealock effect" is an experiment made by sealock, a famous American psychologist. He took a group of primary school students as the research object in batches and divided them into almost four groups. The tasks completed by the four groups are equally arduous, but the education methods of the four groups released are completely different. 1 The group has been controlled for a long time, and researchers ignore the members of this group and never criticize or praise them. The second group is often criticized, but it will be severely punished if it encounters something wrong. The third group is the praise group. At the end of each child's study, the researchers will comment and encourage the child and tell him the suggestions for revision. The fourth group is often ignored, with neither criticism nor praise.
The obvious conclusion of this result is that the children in the praise group get the best and most confident results, followed by the criticism group and the neglect group, while the children in the control group get the worst and least motivated results.
Through this incident, we can know that the feedback and evaluation given by superiors can help children make further progress in their studies and work. From this we can see that the effect of praise and affirmation is better than that of criticism and punishment, which is the so-called Helok effect of praise psychology.
It can be seen that praise and praise are definitely good for children. Only in this way can we ensure the healthy development of children.
1. Enhance children's self-confidence and self-esteem.
If children always live in an atmosphere of respect and praise, they will feel appreciated and gradually become bold, careful and confident. Especially when children are young, external evaluation is very important to them. Because they need external information to know themselves constantly, when children do something well, the encouragement given by their parents will make them more willing to do such a thing. If they always spit on their children, they will only make them feel inferior.
2. Cultivate children's good moral behavior
Good quality is to accompany children all their lives, but it is very valuable to enjoy this quality. Therefore, parents must set a good example for their children, not only to let them have a good habit, but also to encourage and praise them appropriately, so that children will feel that doing such a thing is right and will continue to insist.
Suggest a good family atmosphere
If we always abuse children, then they will keep complaining and won't be near themselves. You know, affirmation and praise is a very effective way of communication, so that children can find their own problems and constantly correct them. A harmonious environment will satisfy children, and they also like to share these little feelings with their parents and regard them as friends.
Therefore, praise is definitely good for children, and praise is not just praise and praise, so we must master the knowledge contained in praise.
1. Praise must be specific.
In fact, many parents never praise their children specifically. Sometimes parents must be perfunctory when praising their children. In fact, I don't know how much impact a casual evaluation will have on children. This influence is more serious than those parents who don't praise their children. Therefore, we must praise children specially, so that they dare to try and face failure. Even if children do something wrong, we must educate them in the right way.
2. Praise the child's efforts.
We must never praise children's innate talent, because it will only make them proud. Only by praising children's efforts can children be more successful. For example, after a child does something, we can say, "Dad saw your efforts, because you can only make yourself better by working hard, so your efforts will always be concerned by Dad." When children realize that their efforts can really get everything they get, they will work harder and be more willing to devote themselves to this matter.
3. Don't compliment with contrast.
Many parents always compare other people's children when praising their children, which is actually not good for their children. So some parents think that letting children see the advantages of other children will give them motivation. In fact, this practice can only be counterproductive. While praising children, we must reduce their ambition to win and let them have their own specialties.
Therefore, in the process of praising children, we must follow these principles. Only in this way can we ensure that children become more perfect.
So in the process of educating children, will you educate children in an exaggerated way? Give your opinion and let's have a good discussion.