Why do you say that the way you look at children will determine whether children are ordinary in the eyes of parents?
For example, if you have a good day at work, just go home and see the children, and you will be more tolerant of the children. The noise of children may be synonymous with liveliness in your eyes. But if the day's work has exhausted you physically and mentally, and you just want to have a good rest when you get home, I'm afraid that as long as the child moves a little, you will be upset, from yelling at the child to being beaten with a stick.
Have children changed these two completely different attitudes? No, no matter whether you are in a good mood or not, the child is still that child, and it is still so lively and active that it becomes you and your mood, which makes your attitude towards the child change.
By the same token, if you only see the child's shortcomings, you will definitely think that the child will be like that and will not have any great achievements. He will do whatever he likes, and he is no longer devoted to training and education. It's called I've "accepted ordinary children" Come on, you're not accepting children's commonness, you're giving up.
The correct way is not to grasp the shortcomings of children, but to explore the advantages of children. Don't listen to the so-called "barrel theory". How much water a bucket can hold depends on the shortest board. That's nonsense. Can't we foster strengths and avoid weaknesses? You know, everyone has their own shortcomings, can they be filled? Take the most special example, Ma Yun, the president of Alibaba, as everyone knows, but you know, he is such a famous figure. When he was a student, Ma Yun did badly in math, but this did not become an obstacle to his success. This is a model to maximize his strengths.
As children's parents, we should not only accept their children's ordinary in a certain respect, but also explore their extraordinary side, instead of giving up their children and letting themselves go. This is the right way to accept their ordinary children.