Xiao Zhao chatted with his colleagues and talked about children's education. Without saying a few words, Xiao Zhao began to complain, "My children are really ignorant. Everything has been against me since I went to kindergarten. When I was fierce, he took refuge with his grandparents. I really don't know what to do. " Xiao Zhao's voice just fell, it caused a consistent voice. "My children, too. You told him to go east and he went west. It was really disobedient. "
Colleagues started talking noisily. It turns out that every family will have this situation. Children are rebellious and parents have a headache. They always want to find various solutions, but the children still go their own way. When children are young, they think it will be fun to confront their mothers in this way, while parents often don't understand their children's ideas and force them to obey blindly. If parents want their children to be sensible and well-behaved, they must understand the reasons why children will have this situation, and the right medicine can solve the problem.
First, explore the reasons behind children's rebellion. 1. The influence of family reasons on children.
People are greatly influenced by the environment. If children live in a noisy family, they will definitely have rebellious psychology. Nowadays, some young parents have too high a vision, and they start quarreling as soon as they encounter something, and they are not afraid in front of their children. Although the child is young, everything the parents say and do will be seen by the child. Parents' irritability will also encourage children's confrontational psychology.
2. Partner communication in school
Children are not very discriminating at an early age, and they often imitate others when they see them. Some parents find that their children are particularly smart and sensible before they go to kindergarten, but they have contracted many bad habits since they went to kindergarten, and they are always against their parents. Parents may wish to observe their children carefully, communicate with teachers more, and see if their children play with some people with bad behavior in kindergarten. If so, parents should correct their children in time and get them back on track.
3. The harm that the Internet brings to children.
Nowadays, the network is more and more developed, and children can see all kinds of stories without leaving home. But some small videos or animations on mobile phones are too violent to show to children. We often see the news that "a boy imitates the plot in a cartoon and hurts his brother". For electronic products, parents should strictly control and try not to let their children see violent videos.
Some parents think that "children are so young, how can they be rebellious?" Research shows that children will have the first rebellious period in their lives when they are 2-3 years old. If parents don't pay attention to their children's growth and development, they will let their children go further and further on the lost road. Generally speaking, if a child is rebellious, there will be several manifestations. If their children are unlucky enough to get caught or have clues, then parents should pay attention.
Second, what are the manifestations of children's rebellion? 1. Disdain adult criticism.
Whenever children do something wrong and adults criticize them, rebellious children always talk back and have great reasons to refuse for themselves. Adults say a word, children say two words, so that children can correct their mistakes, and children will not be moved. Faced with such a situation, parents are often depressed and will hit their children when they raise their hands. Faced with the majesty of parents, children will never give in, even if they slap themselves. Such children are stubborn and prone to rebellion.
2. Treat learning as usual
Children's academic performance is often the most concerned by parents. From the time children go to kindergarten, parents begin to instill in their children the idea of studying hard and making progress every day. Parents nag in their ears all day, and children will naturally feel bored after listening for a long time. If parents find that their children's academic performance has fallen sharply in a period of time, or even they are tired of learning, then the children are likely to enter a rebellious period. Parents should pay attention to it and educate their children in time.
3. It is easy to conflict with others.
The performance of children entering the rebellious period is not only reflected in the confrontation with their parents, but also in the interaction with their partners. Children used to play well with their partners because they quarreled over a trivial matter. In an argument with a partner, a child with a serious rebellious attitude will be merciless until the other party regresses. If children are prone to conflict with others, then parents should pay more attention to their behavior.
It is normal for children to go against their parents when they enter a rebellious period. If parents find that their children have entered a rebellious period, don't worry. Children have a long way to grow up, which is only a stage. As long as the parents guide them well, the children will pass smoothly.
Third, let children become clever and sensible, and parents do the same. 1. Harmonious family relations
Parents always ignore their children's feelings and quarrel in front of them. Of course, their children's temper will get worse. If parents can respect each other and live in harmony, it will certainly be beneficial to their children's growth and character formation. Parents are the closest relatives of children, and the warmth between families is always there. If children are willing to be satisfied, they will feel happy and naturally reduce their rebellious mentality.
2. Communicate with children more.
Dale Carnegie, a famous interpersonal master, once said, "Be a good listener and encourage others to talk about themselves." There are many misunderstandings between parents and children, largely because of poor communication. Children don't want to talk to their parents about any problems. Parents make decisions without authorization and never discuss them with their children. Parents may wish to communicate with their children more and listen to their opinions when making decisions, and things will be much easier.
3. Choose a good educational environment for children.
When parents send their children to kindergarten, they may wish to investigate in many ways and try to choose a school with a good educational environment for their children. Communication between peers is very important for children. Parents should provide their children with a healthy social circle, so that children can play with good-natured partners and avoid catching bad habits.
Rebellion is a stage that every child will go through, but the reaction varies from person to person. It is not terrible that children will rebel. The terrible thing is that parents are indifferent to inappropriate things. Parents should really care about their children, understand their thoughts and help them get through the rebellious period smoothly.