It should be a happy thing to have two treasures at home, but many parents are worried about Yu Dabao's attitude towards Bao Xiao. Although Dabao was very excited and happy when he was born in Bao Xiao, he began to reject Bao Xiao, attacked Bao Xiao at every turn, and became more and more angry.
In fact, this reaction of Dabao is normal. Suddenly, this little guy took his place in the hearts of his parents, and his needs were left behind by Bao Xiao. He is no longer sure whether his parents love him. Can he not feel angry, jealous, afraid and resentful?
Then there are two babies at home. What can mom and dad do to let Dabao take care of Bao Xiao himself, and the two babies love each other? Parents can do this:
1 When Erbao had an argument, I still remember that in Where is Dad Going 2, when Cao Ge's son and daughter were in conflict, Cao Ge, like other parents, wanted his brother to let his sister go because she was still young. When I saw the forbearance of Cao Ge's son, I felt wronged for the child. Actually, there are two treasures at home. When two children are crying for their mother at the same time, when they are crying for your hug at the same time, it is best not to always leave Dabao to take care of Bao Xiao. Sometimes you need to meet Dabao's needs, because Dabao's needs are more emotional and psychological, while Bauer's needs are more physiological such as eating and sleeping.
If you ignore Dabao at this time and let Dabao leave a shadow, you will not welcome the baby. Of course, when the children grow up and understand, we should educate Dabao to take care of Bauer and not bully him.
2. Good family education needs fairness and justice. "You are a brother, you should let go of your sister" is what Cao Ge often said to his son. In fact, this sentence is all wet, and the boss will feel that the younger brother/sister seems to be competing for favor. The correct way to deal with it should be to make him feel that his mother's love for him has not decreased too much, and his mother taught him a lesson only because he really did something wrong. When two children have conflicts, parents must be fair! If Bauer did something wrong, he should be punished in front of Dabao, and he should not blindly take sides with Bauer. Dabao did something wrong, so don't criticize it too hard. You can educate yourself in private.
Remember, don't blame Dabao when Dabao intentionally loses his temper or attacks Bauer. If Dabao happens to be in a period of resistance, your reprimand will only make him feel worse and he will be wronged. A better way is to identify with Dabao's emotions, listen more and understand more, and make up for Dabao's lack of security with actions.
3, Bauer's arrival can't change the boss's life law. Dabao is hostile to Bauer, because Bauer's arrival often affects Dabao's original life. Therefore, if you want the two babies to live in peace, you can't change the boss's life law because of Bauer's arrival. For Dabao, it is necessary to have time alone, such as telling a bedtime story every night. Continue your old habits and adapt to the new environment step by step. Other family members must cooperate and share the care of Bauer.
4. Let Dabao experience the sense of accomplishment in taking care of Bauer. Dabao's participation in taking care of Bauer can make him adapt to the role of brother/sister more quickly, and let Dabao participate in the responsibility, which can stimulate Dabao's sense of accomplishment. For example, amuse Bauer, bathe Bauer and tell him stories ... When he finishes these tasks, you can give him a little praise and reward to make him fall in love with his brother and sister because of his participation!