I am a post-80s mother of two children. The difference between the two lovely babies is four years. At present, both babies are growing up healthily. Next, starting from years of educational experience, I will talk about my thoughts on the second child education:
First, we should pay more attention to Dabao.
In fact, most families with two children tend to take care of Bauer after giving birth, but inadvertently ignore Dabao. Over time, Dabao will become sensitive, withdrawn and unconfident ... all kinds of problems have appeared.
Therefore, after giving birth to Bauer, parents must pay more attention to Dabao and give him more love and care, so that Dabao feels that his love has not been taken away, but more, so that Dabao can grow up in the bath of love.
At the same time, through loving Dabao, Dabao has a strong sense of self-happiness, and naturally loves Bauer, and cares and likes Bauer more, so that the family will be more harmonious and loving.
Second, we should make effective use of Dabao's favorable resources to promote Bauer's rapid development.
I don't know if the parents of the second child have such an experience. Bauer's growth is easier and faster, as if he could grow up without any effort. In fact, a large part of the reason is Dabao's contribution, which has influenced and driven Bauer's growth in a subtle way.
I don't have much time after I gave birth to Bauer. In order to make Dabao develop good reading habits, I will let him read picture books or stories every day, thinking that this will not affect Bauer. But magically, Bauer has mastered a lot of knowledge and skills that do not belong to his age. For example, Bauer can suddenly answer most of the questions of Xiaomi Circle, and Dabao likes it, which really makes me.
I really didn't intend to teach Bauer much in his education, but he is very knowledgeable. In fact, I learned a lot of knowledge from Dabao. For example, my Dabao likes Altman very much, so Bauer can say most Altman's names at a very young age, even though they all look like me.
Therefore, as the parents of the second child, it is really killing two birds with one stone to make good use of a small treasure like Dabao to drive Bauer's growth.
Third, we should create more time for two babies to play and interact, and cultivate a good relationship.
In fact, children naturally like to play with children, especially children of similar age. Children will cultivate their feelings well in games and frolicking. Even if it is a war, it is also a Liangshan hero. They are getting closer and closer. This kind of feeling can't be replaced by any kind of feeling.
Therefore, there is no need for parents to interfere with their children too much, but to create a good atmosphere, so that children can have fun and cultivate the best feelings in play.
Fourth, don't blame or belittle one of the treasures.
Children have the same innate self-esteem as adults, and self-esteem needs to be well maintained, and it is by no means trampled on casually.
Between two children, if parents always criticize, belittle and criticize one child too much, it will actually hurt the child's self-esteem unconsciously, and various problems will arise over time.
Our parents should avoid another child and talk to the child who made a mistake or behaved badly alone, telling him why he did something wrong and what improvements he needed instead of hurting his self-esteem.
Five, let the two babies care about each other and take care of each other.
In fact, the biggest advantage of the second-child family is to have a long-term and free playmate, who can fight, fight, grab, love and hate, and can release each other's happiness and pain to the fullest. This is an innate environment, so that they can achieve each other in such symbiosis and competition, and naturally learn to care for each other.
Sixth, let children learn to share and grow up happily.
For a second-child family, even if the conditions are superior, there will be times when resources are scarce and insufficient, and you will definitely face competition. But the education given by parents should be sharing, so that they have a sense of sharing from an early age and experience the fun and happiness of sharing.
Only by sharing can we have more. The more we share, the happier we will be and make each other more tolerant. Sharing is the best cooperation. The sharing of resources and goods can make the best use of resources, and at the same time, let children integrate well into society and adapt to society in the future.
Seven, pay attention to children's mental health.
Chat with the two children more, understand their real feelings and thoughts, and never let either side hide their unhappiness for a long time. If the bad mood can't be resolved in time, there will be various psychological problems, so the second-child family should pay attention to mental health no matter how busy it is.
Eight, we should pay attention to the health of two children.
Exercise can bring many benefits, can improve children's physical immunity, and is conducive to the development of children's bones, cardiopulmonary functions and so on. And it is conducive to cultivating children's good character.
The more exercise, the happier you are, so parents must spend more time taking their children to exercise and let them grow up healthily. Exercise more, seek more happiness in sports, and cultivate a positive and enterprising character.
Nine, we should pay attention to gratitude education.
As parents, we should not only pay attention to children's knowledge accumulation, but also pay attention to children's personality quality and behavior habits, and pay attention to children's gratitude education.
So what is gratitude education? It is to let children have a grateful heart, know how to be grateful, and return gratitude. In fact, it is a kind of cognition, emotion and behavior, which recognizes the benefits and convenience brought by nature, society and others in the heart and gives positive feedback.
Thanksgiving education is helpful to cultivate children's sense of responsibility, to establish children's correct understanding of various relationships, and to help children reach a better realm of life.
Only with a grateful heart can we be full of hope for life and rationally face setbacks, misfortunes and right and wrong. Only by letting children learn to be grateful can they live a more sunny, confident and open life.
There are many problems in the second child education. I hope my experience is helpful to everyone. As long as we are conscientious in our lives and are good at finding and solving problems, the second child education is not as difficult as we thought. What parents need to do is to give their children full love, create a good family atmosphere, give them proper guidance and education, and let their children grow up healthily and happily. Two small saplings will surely grow into useful towering trees.