Parents are children's first teachers and the most important life mentors. When children come to this world, they first see their parents, and the main imitators are their parents. Parents and children get along day and night, which has a subtle influence on children. Children always have the shadow of their parents. Of course, the role is mutual, and the growth of children also promotes the progress of parents. This point, I grew up with my daughter in the process of experience is particularly deep.

0 1 preschool

On the afternoon of February 29th, 2006, my daughter was born on an ordinary day. Looking at her wrinkled little face, I feel a sense of responsibility. I secretly decided that I must accompany her to grow up with my heart. At that time, I worked in the county, and my wife and daughter lived in a township school. Every weekend, I am happy to go back and see them.

The first thing I did when I got home was to see my daughter. If she sleeps soundly, I will sit by and watch silently for a long time; If she wakes up, I will tease her with a bell, and her smile will make me feel the beauty of life instantly.

The second thing, I want to wash my daughter's diaper. Wash it with soap first, then scald it with boiling water, and finally take it outside to dry. White diapers fluttered with the wind and became the most beautiful scenery in my memory.

My daughter likes listening to stories very much. Of course, I will try my best to satisfy them and tell them as vividly as possible. I talked about Monkey King Thrice Defeats the Skeleton Demon, the landmine war and so on. But after a long time, I'm at my wit's end and have no new stories to tell.

At that time, the internet was not developed, so it was impossible to download audio-visual materials, and my daughter didn't like to listen to repeated stories. Looking at her eager eyes, I started a new learning mode and began to read all kinds of books in a planned way. What all children like, the universe, the king of fairy tales, historical knowledge, astronomy and geography, I have watched attentively and always remembered. Try to master more and tell it to your daughter. Through continuous learning and input, I have accumulated the capital of telling stories.

To my delight, my daughter has developed a good habit of reading. At first, she read picture books. Later, she learned pinyin. Slowly, she can read by herself, and my task of telling stories has come to an end. However, I still like reading with my daughter.

In 2009, we moved to the county to live, the family finally reunited, and our daughter reached the age of kindergarten. Fortunately, we met Ding, an excellent teacher. Every morning, I comb my daughter's hair and send her to kindergarten. When leaving, she always said, "Dad, come and pick me up early." Therefore, I am always the first to come to kindergarten. Other children take a lunch break in kindergarten at noon. But my daughter didn't agree, so I picked her up at noon every day and took a lunch break with her.

02 primary school stage

20 12, my daughter went to primary school. At first, her grades were not excellent. Teacher Li, the head teacher, often encourages her, and I also accompany her to do homework and read extracurricular books. Slowly, she began to be among the best. I valued her grades at that time. If she does well in the exam, I will be very happy; If she fails in the exam, I will be very angry. In this way, our parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse, and our grades have become a barometer of our parent-child relationship.

Just then, education expert Wu came to his daughter's school to give a speech. He called on parents to attach importance to family education and keep a parent-child diary. The so-called parent-child diary is to add a pair of eyes that pay attention to family education, and improve the parent-child relationship by recording the application and reflection of family education concepts in daily life trivia.

I have changed a lot since I wrote the parent-child diary, including my bad temper and my peace of mind. In my opinion, every child is unique. I can't blindly compare my children with other people's children because of my vanity, and I don't want my daughter and I to go further and further in quick success and instant benefit.

I actively cooperate with school teachers, accompany my children attentively, and pay attention to integrating moral education, emotional intelligence education and habit formation education into daily life. I inspire children not only to have the perseverance to struggle with their heads down, but also to have the feelings of looking up at the sky, thus shaping their good mentality of sunshine and openness. With my encouragement, my daughter became more confident and strong.

When my daughter fails the exam occasionally, I will encourage her to "never mind, come on"; When my daughter is slack in practicing erhu, I will say "hold on for a while"; When my daughter has a problem, I will say "you can do it" ...

Most importantly, I write my daughter's good performance in my diary every day. My daughter was the first reader. Even if she doesn't behave very well sometimes, she will say thoughtfully to me when she sees the contents of the diary: "Dad, I will try my best to look like the one in the diary."

With the efforts of Li Zhenying, Shi Yufeng, Sun Anfu, Li Xia and other teachers, accompanied by my heart, my daughter is well-developed, grateful, and has excellent academic performance. She likes playing table tennis, football and erhu, and has been rated as an excellent three-good student at the county level for many times.

03 junior high school stage

20 18, my daughter went to junior high school. She has also entered adolescence, and the characteristics of children of this age are that they like independence, long for respect, and don't like being disciplined. In junior high school, my daughter met Zhang Yubo, a special teacher.

I understand that only by letting go can I grow. I will listen to my daughter's thoughts on important family matters; My daughter's own affairs, I only provide her with a plan for reference, help her analyze, and finally let her make up her mind.

I still study the knowledge of family education every day, keep a diary of my parents and children, and observe and record every detail of my daughter's growth every day. I think this thick parent-child diary will be her best adult gift.

On Father's Day, my daughter gave me a painting. It depicts a father holding an umbrella in the wind and rain, only to see more than half of the umbrella leaning against his child. The father was soaked to the skin, but the child was safe and sound. There is a sentence written in the blank: Happy holidays, Dad. Thank you for sheltering me from the wind and rain

I was moved and gratified, and carefully put it in my wallet as my "amulet" and the driving force for progress.

Children's growth needs the close cooperation of school, society and family, which are indispensable. School education focuses on imparting knowledge, social education on warning, and family education on cultivating quality. The growth of my daughter, in turn, changed me.

Thanks to my baby daughter, her expectation of new things made me realize my own shortcomings and developed the habit of reading and writing. Parents and children grow up together, and the daughter's growth is devoted to the efforts of teachers and us; My daughter also contributed to my growth.