It is normal that many parents have high expectations for their children. However, many parents are keen on advanced education and are always eager to let their children become prodigies. Parents have been comparing with each other even since their children can remember. From children's food, clothing, housing and transportation to children's education expenses, many parents have never been stingy. They may even sell their houses and cars and buy school districts for their children in order to get a place in prestigious schools. This kind of behavior is really incomprehensible.
In addition to parents being too nervous about their children's growth, many parents will instill poisoned chicken soup into their children from an early age, hoping to let them know that an anxious and stressful childhood is normal. In this case, it will actually affect their children. Children who have been living in the oppressive environment of their parents may have greater psychological pressure and even feel inferior because they can't meet their parents' requirements.
Therefore, when parents educate their children, they must be based on their children's talents and not always centered on their own minds. We should also respect children's choices.
One: it is not conducive to the cultivation of children's character, and most of them are useless.
The common fault of China's parents is that they like to find a sense of existence in their children. Many people think that their greatest contribution to the family is to educate their children after upgrading to parents. But is this kind of advanced education really useful for children? For children, every child has his own personality. If parents always like to be ahead.
If you don't respect the cultivation of children's personality, children may be mediocre all their lives and lose their hobbies, which is a very painful thing for children. Children should have their own choices and should be respected by their parents. Parents always follow the crowd to enroll their children in classes and let them receive advanced education. In fact, it is not easy to grasp the scale, and it is easy to make more and more contradictions between children and parents.
Two: Advanced education will make parents very hard.
Advanced education not only tests children's talents, but also tests parents. Giving children an advanced education requires not only money and energy, but also hard work for parents. Parents will not only increase economic pressure. And the parent-child relationship with children will be more severe. Therefore, educating children in advance is not only hard for children, but also harder for parents.
The most important thing is that parents pay more and more attention to advanced education, and the more they expect returns, the more they care about their children's academic performance. Once children fail to meet their own requirements, parents' emotions will be greatly affected, so this is also the reason why parents are not advised to educate their children in advance.
Three: Advanced education is actually a kind of repression for children.
In fact, advanced education is also a kind of depression for babies, not to mention that 8 of 10 children are ordinary people. In fact, many parents did not put their minds right when educating their children in advance. The most important thing for parents is to respect the law of children's growth, not to let their children grow up and mature as soon as possible and reduce their educational burden through some special means.
This psychology of parents is actually opportunistic. In real life, what I fear most is my parents' opportunism. Parents are lazy in their children's education, and it is naturally difficult for children to become talents. They may even have deviations in personality, so that they may take detours. The most taboo for parents is to give their children chicken soup. I hope you haven't given your child poisoned chicken soup.
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