The Great Perspective of Summer Market-Worry
If it weren't for the interview, we might not believe that these things happened to those beautiful young boys and girls. They are in the turbulent period of youth, seduced by the bizarre "sex", avoiding the crowd when they need help most, suffering physical pain alone, and falling into inner confusion from an early age. Sadly, their parents went on with their busyness and didn't know the real "sex" world of their dear girl or baby during the summer vacation.
This case is shocking.
Chatting with Liang, director of family education in Guangdong province and former president of Guangzhou middle school head teacher research association, is actually a "shocking" process. As an expert in adolescent education and a "bosom sister" who provides health psychological counseling, the real cases in her hands have opened our eyes to anxiety.
Last summer vacation, a female student of Grade Two in Guangzhou had sex with a male classmate in the same class. After school started, the teacher found out that she was pregnant and took her to the hospital for an abortion. During the operation, the doctor was shocked: this 14-year-old girl had her boyfriend's name tattooed on her lower body.
It is by no means a case that people have been involved in "sex" or even "sex" since childhood, especially in some ordinary middle schools with bad school spirit, and some situations are even more open secrets. For example, students advocate "hands-on"-some female students are pregnant, they help each other inject powerful abortion injections, and some secretly go to pharmacies to buy "medicine" without telling their parents or teachers. Of course, it is best not to go to the hospital. As a last resort, go to those small clinics deep in the alleys. In some boarding schools, it is nothing new for aunts to sweep condoms when cleaning in the morning.
When we adults sit in the office and lament that children are precocious now, children may take advantage of the carefree summer vacation to play adult games at home without telling adults. Now, middle school students play a popular game called "hoe hits D". Two men, two women and four people play cards. Whoever loses the game will take off his clothes until he is naked ... Some female middle school students will invite two or three confidants to dance in discos and dance halls in the summer vacation to sing, dance and drink with others. One is fun, and the other is to earn some pocket money. It is said that students who become dancers will have a lot of face among their friends, because only "beautiful girls" will be selected, and the beautiful shirts and fashionable gold powder they get from them make them very envious.
A powerful underground porn offensive
We talked with some people of insight about sex education for teenagers in summer. They think that there are too many "sexual" temptations lurking around teenagers nowadays! In the internet age, they are more exposed to obscene things than before. As long as you look around and stroll around, you will find that many places can provide you with this convenience. These obscene things constitute a powerful underground pornographic offensive, which directly threatens the healthy growth of teenagers and becomes a serious social problem that cannot be ignored.
We started a secret visit. First of all, I came to an Internet cafe near Guangzhou No.6 Middle School at about 9 o'clock last night. It was full, mostly teenagers. There is a small note posted at the door, which reads "Call the police if you go to the yellow website". However, we saw someone playing "strip mahjong" on the Internet.
15 around 9 o'clock, we finally got a seat, so we chatted with a boy of fifteen or sixteen next to us while surfing the Internet. Under his "guidance", the reporter easily landed on a pornographic website that is said to be "famous". As soon as the webpage was opened, many naked women were photographed, and there were many "gorgeous" columns on it, such as "adult supermarket" and "precision gallery". The author opened the "precision gallery", and the pictures on it were more "frank": some girls posed in extremely provocative postures, and some even showed the process of sexual intercourse naked. When the reporter asked the boy where he could get these websites, he showed disdain for the reporter's "naive" questions. He said that this kind of thing is "popular". Usually, after going to a website, there will be many links to other related websites, and some will pop up automatically, so don't bother to find it. Like most people, he learned it from his classmates and friends. Sure enough, the reporter soon found many more explicit website links: super erotic comics, erotic forbidden zones, hot prostitution stations, toilet peeping highlights, Millennium prostitution stations and so on. The reporter opened one at random, and the content inside was even more jaw-dropping. The name is enough to make people feel ashamed. The boy told reporters that these are just pediatrics, and pornographic websites in many western countries are more "wonderful". When the reporter tentatively asked about the student's identity, he said that he was an adult, but he knew that some middle school students often went to such websites, and some surfed the Internet at home, which was more convenient and safer. They know more than some adults!
Yesterday, the reporter came to a bookstore at the junction of Huanshi West Road and Xiwan Road. Although the shop is small, there are many people. Many primary and middle school students buy "doll books" here, mostly little girls. According to observation, children are obviously frequent visitors here, and they are very familiar with these books ranging from 5 yuan to 6 yuan.
Let's take a look at the titles of these books: male huan series, passion without taboo, falling in love with bad you, fear of approaching the king, etc. The reporter took out a book published by Dunhuang Literature and Art Publishing House with "Fear of the Near King" and marveled at its introduction: this handsome guy who advertised the "three noes" policy was the "hotbed" candidate for her "clinical" experiment ... his waist was very good! It's worthy to be a veteran Midnight Cowboy who is known as "God of Love" ... But this man who is good at "inviting you into the urn" is really hard to catch ... When the "smoldering woman" is named "trick man", it doesn't matter who will win the battle. The important thing is how to put him to bed, so as to complete her masterpiece-the first experience white paper! Look at the contents, and I think of a long list of the most obscene descriptions, and some even involve homosexuality and drug abuse.
Comics that look "pure" have also attracted many students. Obviously, the cartoons pirated from Japan are more straightforward than novels, with not only "wonderful" dialogues, such as "take advantage of me and get black and blue, and then throw me away" and "I will turn you into a real woman", but also many pictures showing the relationship between men and women and even sexual intercourse, which are more provocative. I wonder how those inexperienced young ladies will feel after reading it?
An educational environment that is unable to fight back.
Compared with the powerful "sex" temptation from all directions, our education seems a bit inadequate. For schools, summer vacation is just a blank in management. Although there are some back-to-school days, such activities are not very attractive. In fact, the school also offers health classes at ordinary times, and it is very good to tell adolescent students how to communicate with friends of the opposite sex with the textbook "Adolescent Guidance". But for middle school students who are full of rebellious psychology, some parts of the textbook seem a bit unrealistic.
In terms of social services, it is obviously impossible for our community services to really reach every family and every child like Shanghai for the time being. Our Women's Federation has a family education seminar, and every weekend, it regularly holds health psychological counseling for children, and the effect is very good. Not long ago, they also made a questionnaire on extracurricular activities of female middle school students among thousands of middle school students, with the aim of helping children with various problems, including sexual problems, but they themselves felt that their role should not be overestimated compared with the 6,543,800 primary and secondary school students in Guangzhou.
The most distressing thing is family education. Originally, family education was a very important part of the whole educational environment, but in fact, many parents told us that once children entered the middle school stage, they could not communicate and the children were very rebellious. They would rather stay in their rooms all summer and play computer games or "talk on the phone" with their classmates than talk to their parents, let alone talk openly about sex. Some parents think they are still people with some knowledge and insight, but in family education, they have to admit that they are very unsuccessful. Sometimes the work pressure is great, so I don't care so much when I am busy.
When we relayed these things to the relevant person in charge of the education department, he said that they were actually very clear about these situations. They attach great importance to sex education for teenagers. They are now forming an expert group to do research and experiments in this field, and will further strengthen this work in the future to make our education closer to students and more acceptable to them. At the same time, he believes that sex education for teenagers, especially summer sex education, is not only a matter for the education department, but also a matter for the whole society, which deserves the attention of the whole society. No one can predict what kind of influence a pornographic book and an unhealthy "sex" experience will bring to the life of a flower-like teenager. Only when we join hands, give them a clean environment, give them a healthy summer market, and create more activities that really interest them, will children treat adolescence correctly and not fall into the "sex" mud pit.