Mrs Carnegie.

Do you want to be a good wife? After years of repeated discussions by experts, ten principles that should be achieved were finally summed up. If you can stick to these principles to the end, your family life will be more harmonious and your husband and wife will be happier.

1. Really understand the meaning of love;

2. There is no "perfect marriage" in the world, we can only strive for a "happy marriage";

3. Try to understand and meet the special needs of the husband;

Don't rely too much on your parents, and don't comment on your husband's relatives casually.

Blame;

5. Replace compulsive attitude with appreciative and encouraging attitude;

6. Possession and jealousy are terrible and must be removed;

7. Greet your husband warmly. Complaints and commands can only have the opposite effect;

8. Blaming or attacking can't change her husband's mind at all;

9. Be modest and don't be self-righteous;

10. Be patient and try to accommodate some things.

For a newly-married bride, marriage is a fantasy, and marriage is a honeymoon life forever, full of romantic love. However, when the grim reality appears, you will find that the fantasy has become a bubble, and everything is different from your imagination. Maybe the husband has changed? Or have you changed yourself? You are no longer the lovely, patient, talented and enviable woman you used to be. You've all changed.

Do you want your dream to come true? Then let's understand the connotation of these ten principles.

Really understand the meaning of love

Many women think that they were in love when they were young. Of course, they were in love at that time, but they often doubt it after marriage. Sometimes I even think that my marriage is a terrible mistake and I should marry someone else.

In fact, love is much more complicated than you imagined when you were a child. You must make yourself cute in order to hope that someone will love you. However, to do this, it is impossible to do it overnight, but to stick to it all the time. Because it is related to whether your own point of view has fundamentally changed. You must want your husband to change, too Of course, he does have a lot to change. However, if your relationship is not fully mature, then you can't change husbands. The messenger Paul said in his first book to Corinthians, "Love always succeeds". It means that as long as you let your love mature, you can get a successful marriage, but you can't teach, criticize or beg with tears.

Although the temptation of sex is great, love is not the mutual attraction between men and women, let alone the infatuation of adolescent girls. Love is a kind of ability, which can express love for life, friendship for friends, proper self-love and other love in many ways. No one can get all the love. If you want your husband to love you, you must learn a way that he can accept and give him mature love. Men who grew up in families with limited emotional expression often have self-control, and the way they accept love is also implicit. If his wife lives in a sensitive and gentle family, she will certainly complain that her husband's feelings are too cold.

The foundation of love is not simple two of a kind, let alone sympathy. It must be based on a way that both sides can accept each other's expression of love. Love is giving, not taking. If you want to show your love for your husband, be patient and considerate to him, forgive his failure, meet his needs, and don't criticize him. If you take a blunt attitude to courtship, or put on a pathetic appearance, it won't work, because your appearance is not cute at all.

There is no "perfect marriage" in the world, so we can only strive for a "happy marriage"

Because there are no perfect people in the world, there is no perfect marriage, which is beyond doubt. Young people often have unrealistic expectations for marriage and imagine it as ideal. Although there are a few ideal marriages in real life, it must be understood that this is the result of years of joint improvement by both husband and wife.

Married life is like a new life journey. You must make long-term and arduous psychological preparations from now on in order to win a happy and harmonious marriage. Because a wife once said that in this new journey, all the energy is occupied by "boring work, children's diapers and loans". In addition, after you get married, you gradually discover the hidden shortcomings of that young partner in love-of course, he also discovered some unknown shortcomings of you-he is not the person you imagined, and you are not his imaginary wife. Disagreements and contradictions began to appear between you, and you also began to quarrel in anger. All this is beyond your expectation. Marriage is the most difficult and complicated of all interpersonal relationships. Handling it well requires patience, skill, emotional and spiritual maturity, and it is very difficult to do all this. But if you are willing to pay attention, you can certainly "cultivate" a good marriage relationship.

Meet the special needs of the husband

Everyone is different, including your husband. He is a unique and different synthesis, just like you. He has the strength and strength of a man, but also has his own shortcomings, needs and preferences. In short, don't please him in the way you imagine. Although you, as a wife, have a strong desire to please your husband, your methods may not meet his needs, so you can't achieve your goal.

What your husband may need is the gentle love of his wife. If he is a neat and exquisite person, he wants everything in the house to be in order. If he is a mess, he may be fidgety or even fly into a rage. If he is a person who loves sports very much and doesn't care whether his home is clean and tidy, he hopes his wife can take part in sports with him; If he is a person who doesn't consider anything and has a quick temper, I hope you will treat life with the same attitude; If he is smart, calculating and likes a planned and stable life, I hope you can cooperate with him. Some experience, such as "obeying his wishes can please his heart", may be suitable for your husband, but it may not work at all.