Every child is kind and upright by nature. Parents' words and deeds are related to children's healthy growth, timely and correct guidance, caring and considerate communication, cultivating children's consciousness, initiative and favorite physical and mental health, learning to be grateful to their families, respecting the elderly and loving the young, and observing social morality. All these must help parents get rid of their own "dilemma" of plasticity, looseness and randomness. What we should keep is their enthusiasm and interest in exploration and scientific research. As far as primary and secondary schools are concerned, the most basic thing is to maintain interest in language, mathematics and foreign studies. Instead of too much academic pressure, too much schoolwork and too much intellectual development, it has affected their enthusiasm for training.

This makes them regard training as pressure. This is very critical. Compared with primary and secondary school students, the shaping of self-awareness is also particularly critical. In primary school, children should learn to allocate study time independently, allocate the end of work, allocate their own lives, and even go out to participate in summer camps. In order to prepare for the more complicated study and life in junior high school in advance, I stayed in a hotel independently. Children are the flowers of the motherland. Whether they can grow up healthily is closely related to the education of their parents.

This paper mainly discusses the main harm of family to children's growth and how parents can give their children faster cultural education. Parents' appropriate role models will benefit children a lot, not just boring reasoning. It is the bathroom mirror of parents, which can reflect the philosophy and rules that parents treat each other. Parents' behavior will leave a deep impression on children in primary school, which is related to the correctness of their life values, values and outlook on life. Tolstoy famously said, "All cultural education, in other words, the teaching of 1999, is due to parents' own role models and modesty." Therefore, parents should set an example, study hard, improve themselves and develop themselves in all directions.

Set an example for children to learn and correctly guide them to clear the road of foggy days. "Sneak into the night with the wind and moisten things silently." Parents' excellent ideological style is better than a thousand words of persuasion and education, which will affect children. Children should enjoy the warmth and drizzle of spring breeze at home, instead of scaring their young hearts with storms. A warm home gives children a long-term sense of belonging, which is conducive to maintaining their mental health. If a family relationship is tense, children will be in a state of anxiety, anxiety in daily life, less study and training, and it is difficult for children to grow up healthily. Therefore, parents should try to treat their children with tolerance and understanding, guide them with words and deeds, give them a warm home and create a happy and harmonious environment for their growth.