2. Develop the habit of thinking hard. When children are in doubt, guide them to think independently and take the initiative to solve problems. At the same time, children should know that as long as they are fully confirmed and convinced that their practices or opinions are correct, they must dare to persist and not be arbitrarily influenced by the thoughts of people around them.
3. Little things let the children be the masters, and "little things" are arranged by the children themselves, such as which children to invite for their birthdays, what clothes to buy in the store, and what toys to choose. "Big events" provide opportunities for children to participate, such as the layout of the room. You can plan the design with your children, encourage them to make their own suggestions, and try to adopt their suggestions if possible. After many times of affirmation, praise and praise, children will naturally increase their self-confidence and gradually form a sense of "self-confidence".
4. Give children the opportunity to express their wishes, get rid of the habit of making decisions for children and ask for their opinions. For example, take your child to the supermarket to shop, and ask him what he wants to buy. Before bathing a child, you can ask him what preparations he should make. When you take your child out, you can ask him what kind of transportation he wants to take; When you take your child on a trip, you can ask him what he thinks he should prepare and so on.
5. Teach children to say "no". To make children have their own opinions, we must break the superstition of authority. For example, you can play a game of "Say No" with your children. Parents deliberately make mistakes and let your children pick out the wrong places. For example, parents say that "tables, chairs, bedside tables and towels are all usable things, and they are all furniture". The child said, "No, the towel quilt is something that can be used, but it is not furniture." . When children realize this, they will not blindly follow others and imitate others.
6. Listen to the child patiently. When a child argues with his parents about what he has done, parents should never reprimand the child for "talking back" and give him sufficient excuses. In addition, parents should not grab their children's "words", but listen to their children quietly, let them try to express their views and prompt them in time, which will encourage them.
7. Playing family intelligence games with children, parents can find a theme or problem and let children come up with various solutions. What should the monkey do if he accidentally falls into the wolf trap set by the hunter? Under what circumstances do people get thirsty easily? Stimulate children's divergent thinking and propose various solutions to problems.
8. Improve the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Children are imitative and have poor control ability. They are often good or bad. If you look at others, you will learn from them. It is inevitable that there will be some inappropriate words and deeds. Parents should patiently guide and actively correct, so that children can gradually realize the right or wrong of their actions through the evaluation of their actions and words by adults, thus improving their ability to distinguish right from wrong. If children hear some people swear, they will follow suit. At this time, parents should let their children know that this sentence is abusive and others will be unhappy.