? In fact, Xiaogang reflected that many parents educate their children in this way and hope that their children will do the same. In fact, that is the life that parents want. The problem is that as a parent, you can live like that. Teacher Wu Jun said that although children are genetically related to yourself, you should not pass on your unfulfilled wishes to your children, especially asking them to do things they can't do.
? The greatest respect between people is to respect each other's ideas and not to suppress each other with your own ideas. This is a common problem in many families. Everyone has something he wants to live. He is an independent individual.
? Let's take a look at how Zeng Guofan educated future generations. Zeng Guofan's descendants have produced more than 240 outstanding figures in more than 200 years, all of whom are outstanding. What is the reason?
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? Zeng Guofan has two core anxieties in his life: first, whether he can become a sage and save the country; The other is whether the Zeng family can last forever.
? In Zeng Guofan's mind, the rise and fall of the family is no less than the rise and fall of the court. After all, without the Qing Dynasty, the Zeng family would continue to survive.
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What is unusual about Zeng Guofan's family education?
I don't want my children to be big officials.
The first characteristic of Zeng Guofan's family education is that he does not want future generations to be big officials, but only wants future generations to be gentlemen.
What is a gentleman? "Diligence and self-restraint, hard work, can have fun, can date. This gentleman is also. "
A gentleman is a person who can find inner happiness under any circumstances. No matter whether you are poor or rich, you can find your inner happiness and peace through hard work or leisure. A gentleman does not rely on foreign things.
Zeng Guofan worked twelve classes a day and made twelve rules for himself, which Zeng Guofan's descendants have always followed.
First, the main respect-neat and strict, never afraid; When there is nothing to do, the heart is in the cavity, the matter is in the body, and it is not complicated, such as the rising sun. This is the most important requirement of Confucianism. You must have the belief of concentration.
Second, sit still-as long as you sit still for half an hour every day, you will be able to experience the kindness of being quiet and healthy, and be in a calm situation, such as Zhending.
The third is to get up early-get up at dawn and continue to fall in love after waking up. Don't kill time in bed after waking up.
Fourth, there is no other way to learn-I never read his books before I finish reading them. I read from east to west and learn from others, with a daily rate of ten pages.
The fifth is to read history-twenty-three histories are ten pages a day, although there are uninterrupted things.
Six, God knows his death-I tell an article in every diary after dinner, which is divided into the door of morality, knowledge, economy and art. When writing a diary, you must write it in block letters, and you need to record all the evils (body, mind and mouth) of the day. This article is to reflect on your mistakes.
Seventh, the month is unforgettable-write a few poems every month.
Eight is caution-attention is the first time.
Nine is to nourish qi-gas storage demonstration, there is nothing to say to people.
Ten is to protect yourself-obey the instructions of adults, abstain from sex, work and eat. This is what my father asked.
XI. Writing Ci-Writing Ci After breakfast, it's all pen and ink entertainment, as homework, and it can't wait until tomorrow, the more difficult it is to clean up. He was also a famous calligrapher in the late Qing Dynasty.
Twelve is not going out at night-exhausted, cutting and cutting.