First of all, teachers should respect students' personalities. Teachers should pay attention to their words and deeds, and under no circumstances should they say anything that insults students' personality. When talking with students, teachers must appear in front of students with a calm and civilized image. Even if the students violate the discipline, when the teacher severely criticizes them, they should be rational, emotional, not sarcastic, sarcastic or attacking.

I made mistakes in this respect when I first started as a counselor. Once I called a girl to the office and criticized her for half an hour because she was talking in class. As a result, the girl cried in the office, which made me very passive and nervous, and ruined the whole original intention. I regret it every time I think about it. I just spoke in class. Is it necessary to be so angry? Later, I changed the way I talked to students. If students make any mistakes, please ask them to talk outside as much as possible, and don't talk loudly and give them a chance to explain.

Secondly, teachers should respect students' personalities. Modern education is the cultivation of people's comprehensive quality, and cultural lessons are no longer the only criterion to measure students' success. Therefore, when students develop non-mainstream hobbies, as long as they are healthy, teachers should actively encourage them to fully display their personalities.

A student in my class often asks for leave for a period of time, saying that he is not feeling well and wants to see a doctor. But I found out that he was not sick at all. He was lying. Later, under my repeated questioning, he told the truth. It turned out that he was going to take part in a singing contest. I said it was a good thing, and I supported it. He also asked the vocal music teacher in our department to help guide him. After he knew that I supported him, it was different, and the number of leave was reduced a lot. Every time I take part in a singing contest, he will tell me happily and let me help him with his ideas. I often encourage him. He participated in many competitions and achieved very good results.

Third, teachers should respect students' feelings. College students have a rich emotional world, and they attach great importance to the feelings between teachers and students, classmates, relatives and friends, especially between boys and girls. As a teacher, you can't treat students' emotional problems in a simple and rude way. Instead, we should actively guide students to deal with emotional problems, keep a clear head, and make this precious and pure emotion develop in a direction conducive to life, study and physical and mental health.

Second, teachers should actively communicate with students.

To establish a good relationship between teachers and students, teachers should also actively communicate with students. The interaction between teaching and learning comes from the communication between teachers and students, but in actual teaching, the lack of communication between teachers and students is a common phenomenon. Teachers only communicate with individual class cadres and "top students", and students only want to communicate with newly assigned young teachers. The teacher said the above, and then left. When the students finished taking notes, they finished the task.

First of all, when teachers communicate with students, they can "open a lock with a key". University is a stage in which students' self-awareness develops rapidly and matures, and their thoughts are active. Moreover, each student's natural conditions and family environment are different, and their learning motivation and hobbies are also different. There are also some people who have lost their affection due to family changes, their personalities are distorted, or they have contracted bad habits due to social adverse effects. Just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, every student has a special world, which requires teachers to analyze it in detail when communicating with students. There is a student in my class with poor grades. Freshmen often miss classes and are late for school. He is usually taciturn and indifferent to people and things around him. Later, through contact with his family, I learned that his father died when he was six years old and his mother remarried. He lives with his elderly grandmother, and the living expenses and tuition fees are collected by the villagers. After understanding the situation, I think his failure to study hard may have something to do with his family. So I often chat with him, enlighten him emotionally, influence him and care about him. Slowly, the student began to change, and the phenomenon of being late and absent from class in the second half of the semester gradually decreased, and the class status improved obviously. He also began to care about the class collective, actively participated in class activities, and improved his grades in all aspects.

Secondly, teachers should take advantage of various opportunities to strengthen emotional communication with students. When communicating with students, we should close the psychological distance with them, take the initiative to care for and get close to them, and be honest with them. If a teacher can casually call out a student's name in a friendly tone, he will feel happy, especially in the initial stage of teacher-student contact, teachers can remember his name very early, and even have some unexpected surprises. Students feel that they have gained the respect of the teacher and their affinity for the teacher has suddenly increased. On the contrary, teachers rarely call some students by their first names, which makes them in a "forgotten corner" and easily leads to students' sense of loss. Teachers should give enthusiastic help to students' difficulties and solve problems in time. Students ask questions when they are unwell; In the usual communication, Lala always feels at home, making students feel the kindness of the teacher.

Thirdly, to communicate with students, we should always contact their parents to win their trust. With their cooperation, the effect will be very different.

Be sure to contact parents by phone, especially when students are at home on sick leave. Call them and ask them how they are and when they can come to class. It's perfectly normal for me. However, the parents' meeting was moved. He feels that teachers care about their children and always thank them over and over again on the phone. Parents will tell their children about the teacher's concern and let them make corresponding returns. After winning the trust of parents, the work will be much smoother, and parents will also cooperate to help you do your children's ideological work.

Finally, we should pay attention to some methods and strategies when communicating with students. When communicating with students, sometimes a smile, a look and an encouragement from a teacher will cause inner fluctuations of students, which will have a positive or negative impact on the relationship between teachers and students. Therefore, teachers should pay attention to some methods and strategies when communicating with students. For example, teachers and students often use "hello, thank you, sorry, goodbye"; Critical language uses "bad" instead of "bad" and "incorrect" instead of "wrong". Some teachers can remember the mistakes made by students clearly, and dig them out when they are wrong, so that "new accounts and old accounts can be counted together." But the result is often that the more you calculate, the angrier you get, and the students feel humiliated. Not only unconvinced, but also "broken cans and broken falls." When dealing with such problems, teachers must pay attention to facts, not people, and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. When talking with students, we should also pay attention to methods and timing. The effect of single preaching and proper conversation methods is different, which requires teachers to pay attention to conversation skills when talking with students and adopt different methods for different students and different situations. The details in actual work are not limited to these. As long as the teacher can find and handle these details in time and properly, students will think you are considerate, friendly and approachable, and regard you as a bosom friend. It will certainly play a positive role in establishing a good relationship between teachers and students.

Third, teachers should correctly handle the contradiction between teachers and students.

Teachers and students will inevitably have various contradictions when they get along for a long time. This requires teachers to combine mental health education with students, improve students' psychological quality, cultivate students' sound personality, often guide students with life examples, educate students to respect teachers, learn to look at problems comprehensively, and learn to exchange views with teachers in an appropriate way, so that students can fully realize that teachers' teaching and students' learning are for a common ideal and career, and that innovation is for a common goal.

I have a student with a rather extreme personality. He is a loner in school. He didn't take part in any group activities, and was arranged to do health duty without doing it. He either didn't attend basic courses such as Marxist philosophy, Deng Xiaoping Theory and Mao Zedong Thought, or read books on English and specialized courses in these classes. Substitute teachers and class cadres reflected his situation to me, and I talked to him many times. He said that it is useless to learn basic courses, but learning English and specialized courses is useful for the college entrance examination in the future. Everything he is doing now is for the undergraduate course, and I heard that if party member, a student, takes care of the undergraduate course, he asked me to recommend him to study in the Party School. After class evaluation, his performance does not conform to the situation of studying in the party school. He is not on the study list of the current party school, and I obviously feel that he has resistance to the teacher. I know from many sources that he has been a study committee member in his class since primary school, and he is rated as a "three-good student" every year. His parents, who live by farming, have high hopes for him. However, an illness on the eve of the college entrance examination made him miss the undergraduate university and came to our school under the persuasion of his family. One Saturday afternoon, I saw him reading an English book in the classroom. I went over to praise his spirit of studying English hard and casually asked him what the classroom environment was like. He said it was clean. I immediately said, "Do you know who cleaned this classroom?" He said "natural duty". I said, "This was done by activists who joined the Party to clean up voluntarily. You want to join the party and actively demand progress in your thoughts, which is very good, but in fact you ask that you do not have it according to party member standards? " He bowed his head. I said, "You want to go to an undergraduate course and work hard for it. It's worth learning. But have you ever wondered why you don't go to college? It should be to improve one's overall quality, which should include establishing a correct outlook on life and values. The basic course of Marxist philosophy, Deng Xiaoping Theory and Mao Zedong Thought is to cultivate our outlook on life and values. When the teacher lectures, you don't attend classes or read other books, which is disrespectful to the teacher in itself ... Afterwards, I lent him two books about party organizations. Two weeks later, I was delighted to find that he had changed. He sent water and clothes to the students who took part in the sports meeting. The basic course teacher also reported that he was much better in class and apologized to the teacher. In the last semester of his sophomore year, he was recommended to study in the Party School after a rigorous examination and graduated smoothly.

Fourth, teachers should set an example.

Teachers play a leading role in the relationship with students. Teachers educate and influence students with their own personality charm. The image of a teacher in the eyes of students is not only a book without words, but also a silent teaching. Mr. Ye Shengtao, a contemporary educator, once said: "The whole job of educators is to be a teacher." Teachers are not only teachers of students, but also disseminators of spiritual civilization of the whole society. Therefore, teachers should abide by the ethics of teachers, be strict with themselves and set an example for students everywhere.

Starting with some small things, students may have respect for you. On the night of June 5438+065438+1October 7, 2004, a girl majoring in accounting in Gansu suddenly suffered from unbearable abdominal pain. After I received the call, I immediately organized the students to take her to the hospital. The diagnosis was acute appendicitis, and she needed to be hospitalized immediately. However, in a hurry to get away, my students and I didn't even have enough money to pay 2000 yuan for hospitalization, let alone surgery. In desperation, I found the surgical duty officer, told him about our situation, and took out my ID card and work permit as collateral. Under my guarantee, the director on duty made an exception and let the students stay in the hospital, without any money, and had an operation that night. In the afternoon after the incident, I heard several students twittering and laughing in front of the teaching building and saying to me, "Hello, teacher! We know you! " I asked, "How much do you know about me?" "You get up in the middle of the night to accompany the students to see a doctor!" "Is this thing. Any teacher will do this when this happens. " During the question-and-answer process, I felt that the distance between me and them was much closer at once. A trivial matter has played a silent educational role for students and won their respect and trust invisibly.

Teachers should strive to improve their personality, make themselves warm, generous, humorous, witty, sincere and tolerant, consciously improve their theoretical knowledge, broaden their knowledge horizons, and improve their professional ethics and teaching ability. The teacher should give the students a glass of water, and the students should have a bucket of water. Teachers should not only learn professional knowledge, but also dabble extensively; Pay equal attention to specialization and exposition; Those who study liberal arts should know something about science, and those who study science should know something about literature. Only in this way can we be open-minded, balanced and handy in teaching, make the classroom lively and win the respect and love of students. On the one hand, we should learn books, new educational ideas, modern educational concepts and scientific management methods. We should also study psychology, interpersonal relationship management and other related knowledge and strive to be versatile; On the other hand, we should learn from our peers, often from experienced teachers, learn from each other, communicate with each other and learn from each other's strengths.

Of course, establishing a good teacher-student relationship is not only the above aspects, but also requires each of us to constantly explore and summarize in practical work. But as long as we adhere to the idea of "all for students, all for students, all for students", we will certainly establish a harmonious teacher-student relationship.