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I saw this passage on the Internet: "If God gives you an absent father, he will give you an anxious mother. In the end, he will only raise a child out of control."

I deeply believe that in a family, when my father is away, all the burdens are on my mother, and my mother will naturally feel great pressure.

At this time, many mothers think that since their husbands are unreliable, they should come by themselves, so they will try their best to take care of everything at home, especially the children.

They will put all their hopes on their children and hope that they will get better and better. When their children are getting better and better, they will feel that all their efforts are worth it.

So many times, we will find that they are very hard-working and anxious. After a long time, they become strong from this kind of hard work and anxiety.

Such strength is dissatisfaction with her husband, a manifestation of responsibility, and also a manifestation of pressure.

When my mother was strong, a family was bound to have problems.

I remember an educational psychologist saying, "A mother who is too strong may push her children to two extremes: either too rebellious or too cowardly."

I have to say that such a family is the most failed family and the most failed education.

Nowadays, in many families, fathers are not in the ranks of raising children. Many fathers have no time because of their busy work, and many fathers are too lazy to take care of their children because their mothers are taking care of them.

Either way, the result is actually the same. Children can't feel their father's love and father's existence.

For children, dad is a name, which is occasionally seen, but dad doesn't care about his own affairs at all. Such a father is a child's regret.

In the recently hit TV series Our Marriage, David played an absent father.

Because of my busy work, I have no time to accompany my children. Whether telling stories to children, playing with children, or taking children shopping, it is his mother's business, not his.

He never worries about the children. In his opinion, he doesn't need to be taken care of by his wife. The important thing is that he feels tired at work. If he goes home to take care of the children, it will be too hard and his wife will be too relaxed.

Anyway, his wife's daily task is to take care of the children, so he doesn't care about the children at all and never accompanies them.

It is also because of his way that children feel very chilling and uncomfortable. The important thing is that the child is not close to him at all.

Some surveys have found that more than 80% of fathers in China have no time to get along with their children; 70% of fathers have been away from home for a long time.

I have to say that many fathers fail in educating their children, or fail. In this way, children can't feel their father's love and company.

When children can't feel their father's company and love, they will feel that their father doesn't love themselves. When children feel that their father doesn't love them, they either feel inferior or weak.

In a family with girls, when girls think that their father doesn't love them, they will lack their father's love. When they grow up, all they want is fatherly love, so it is easy to choose someone older than themselves as a partner.

In a family with boys, when boys think that their father doesn't love them, they will not have perseverance, tenacity, the ability to work hard and make progress, and their ability to resist setbacks will be poor. Such a child will certainly not be very good in the future.

Dad's influence on children is enormous. When a child lacks his father's company, you will find that it is very harmful to the child.

In a family, what is really needed is the joint efforts of parents if they want their children to get better and better. Parents work together, and children will naturally become better and better.

For example, parents can have different division of labor, but after the division of labor, whoever has time will accompany the children, not that the children are mothers, which is not good for the children and marriage.

Because children who are accompanied by their mothers for a long time will be weak, and when their mothers are strong, children will rebel or feel inferior.

In my mother's eyes, this family is not important to my father. Everything is my own, so I will be dissatisfied. Such dissatisfaction will be reflected in the process of getting along with children, sometimes unhappy, and sometimes easily angry.

Over time, children will become timid.

For children, the best family education is the "collusion" of parents' love.

In other words, the mother is gentle and the father is always there. When this happens in a family, children will feel warm.

For example, when dad has time, he will spend more time with his children. Dad will take his children to play when he has time, whether it is telling stories or taking them to play, it is good for children.

When the father is so attentive to accompany the child, when the mother sees that the child is happy and the father is attentive, the heart will be warm and the mood will naturally be good. When the mother is in a good mood, we will find that the child is very happy every day.

In fact, what children really need is the love of their parents, that is, their mothers love themselves and their fathers love themselves, sometimes with their mothers and sometimes with their fathers.

When two people are willing to accompany their children and give them love, they will naturally feel warm.

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