According to the authoritative media survey, among the 2,532 netizens who voted, 97% of the participants avoided or even feared socializing. What is "social fear"? "Social phobia" in network language refers to "social anxiety" in psychology, which describes the phenomenon of feeling uneasy, nervous or afraid when socializing with people. A person's social anxiety is usually accompanied by emotional tension and physical autonomic reactions, such as rapid heartbeat, blushing, sweating, stuttering and so on.
In addition, his social initiative in action will also decline, and he may become afraid to talk to people, unwilling to meet people, or even completely avoid social occasions. How did "social fear" come about? Usually there are three main reasons for social anxiety:
First, negative self-belief. Some people have social anxiety because almost every social occasion may lead them to think: "They will laugh at me", "They will reject me" and "Even if I make a small mistake, they will think I am stupid". People with social anxiety usually set themselves too high social goals, and internalize their imagined negative views of others on themselves, thinking that they can't meet other people's expectations.
Second, lack of social skills. Lack of social skills may make some people not have enough ability to properly handle interpersonal relationships, and it is easy to experience disturbing situations in the process of interacting with the outside world. For example, because they are not good at accurately expressing their emotions and needs to others, they are prone to misunderstanding and friction when talking with others, which will make them feel bored with socializing.
Third, objective social pressure. In today's society, mobile phones are tied to our real life, and work and life are increasingly inseparable, which in itself will increase social pressure. In social situations, everyone needs to spend a lot of energy to observe and judge what they should do, what they shouldn't do, who they should say and who they shouldn't say. Therefore, social anxiety is also a natural response of people to adapt to society.
How to break "social fear"? Social anxiety is not equal to mental illness. We need to realize that this is a common phenomenon, and everyone will have different degrees of anxiety in interpersonal communication. Social anxiety will only become a social anxiety disorder when it develops to a certain extent, accounting for only a small part of the population. Most people feel uncomfortable with strangers, uncomfortable being watched and observed by others, and even nervous when making friends.
"Social fear" can become a hot word on the Internet, causing extensive discussion. It also shows that most people are anxious and afraid of social interaction.
In addition to correctly treating social anxiety, the fundamental way to get rid of "social fear" is to actively change yourself and make yourself confident. Dale Dale Carnegie once suggested that public speaking is the best way to enhance one's self-confidence and courage, and Bao Dao International Education has also confirmed this view in 24 years of public speaking teaching and training. Public speaking training can really help students build their self-confidence quickly and improve the treatment of "social fear".