I once heard a saying that aroused strong resonance: some people cured their whole lives with their childhood, while others cured their childhood with their whole lives.
Childhood experience can accompany a person's life, and even affect his happiness and achievements. Therefore, my educational philosophy for children today is to make him have a perfect childhood as much as possible. Childhood should be colorful, as naive and romantic as fairy tales, not the childhood I experienced.
I know the influence of domestic violence on children because I am a child who has experienced domestic violence. I was born in 1980s, and I grew up under the educational concept of showing filial piety under sticks. My dad is a very determined person, but hitting people is also very painful. Every time I make a mistake, I feel particularly uneasy. I wonder what kind of fatherly love will collapse like a mountain.
Domestic violence directly affects children's self-confidence, or take me for example. I haven't been beaten since I was seventeen or eighteen, but those experiences from childhood made me feel very scared and even developed a cowardly character. Faced with a strong attitude, I always compromise. I think this is the sequela of that kind of education. Today, I also blame my confidence on my father's way of education.
Children learn by imitation, and parents solve problems by violence, which also exerts a subtle influence on children. The way they learn to solve problems is also violent, so parents should reflect first. You should know that your behavior will be imitated by your child, and you will educate him with violence. Finally, what he learned was violence. There are many students who bully other children at school, most of whom have experienced violence.