Family is the first "school" for children, and parents are the first "teachers" for children. Parents and children get along with each other day and night, and their words and deeds affect their children all the time, which is of great and far-reaching significance to their future success. The success of family education will inevitably become the key to the healthy growth of children. So how should parents educate their children correctly?

1. Love and respect children: As parents, it is natural to love children and it is the most important way to cultivate them. When a person is loved and respected, his self-confidence will greatly increase! I will respect myself and then respect others. In his mind, he will feel the generation of self-worth, that is, the sense of self-worth begins to sprout. But this kind of love cannot be spoiled.

Second, lead by example: example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Whether parents' words and deeds are right or wrong, they have a far-reaching impact on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.

Third, the combination of kindness and kindness: be kind to children, kindness is demanding, blindly demanding, and blindly tolerating is doting. It is very necessary for children to grow up. Excessive criticism will cause excessive guilt and shame to the child, while failure to criticize will make him irresponsible and unable to realize his desire to correct his mistakes.

Fourth, cultivate and train children's good study habits and living habits: Good study habits and living habits are effective ways to stimulate children's attitude and willingness to learn spontaneously. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.

5. Cultivate children's self-confidence and stimulate children's enthusiasm for learning: encourage and praise every achievement made by children, help them analyze problems, find out deficiencies, patiently persuade education, and prevent children from damaging their self-esteem because of bad things. When a child gets his report card back in the exam, and occasionally his grades are not satisfactory, his parents will help him analyze the reasons for his failure in the exam, tell him not to be afraid because of his failure in the exam, encourage him to strengthen his study in the future, encourage him to get good grades next time, safeguard his self-esteem and cultivate his self-confidence, thus stimulating his enthusiasm for learning.

6. Praise and reward: Praise and reward are affirmation and praise for children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.

Criticism: This is a tool that should be used with care. The premise of using this tool is: parents and children understand each other, support each other, care about each other and have a stable relationship! Only in this way can the comment on writing be effective. If parents and children don't understand and trust each other, even if the criticism is correct, targeted at behavior and harmless to personality, children will not accept your criticism, and then criticism will only have side effects. Therefore, the safest way is to try not to criticize.

Eight, with children: too many parents spend money to send their children because they are too busy, which is actually a big mistake. Suppose at this moment, let the child choose to give him 100 yuan or his parents accompany him 1 hour, and he may choose to accompany him 1 hour. This is because he doesn't know what his real needs are. His subconscious needs his parents to confirm his value with 1 hour to accompany him to grow up! No matter how busy you are, you should take your children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories and rural areas, or visit your classmates, relatives and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society and get to know society.