During the online class, I was with my mother and sister almost every day, so I had enough time to attend online classes, so my mother asked me to teach my sister in my spare time.

I didn't pay much attention to this matter at first, stocking management. Later, I found that my sister's behavior made me very unhappy. She didn't go to bed on time, didn't eat on time, didn't get up on time, didn't come after several calls, or was easily emotional. However, we locked ourselves in the room and vented by destroying my bedding. And my mother didn't like my sister's carelessness, so in two weeks, the two of us almost took turns to discipline, but the result was not satisfactory-my sister became more and more stubborn and refused to listen; My mother and I were angry with each other for three days, and we were very unhappy. The most exaggerated one is that both mother and sister cried and both sides lost.

What the hell is going on here? Is the education method wrong? It is.

After running a long-distance race with my father, my father told my sister the present situation: "My sister doesn't know how to be responsible for these things now. I sent my grandmother back to my hometown because I would do everything for her anyway and I wouldn't lose my temper with her. Think about it, eating and sleeping are human instinct. Do we need to call them? You're kidding! If she doesn't come to dinner, it means she's not hungry, and it doesn't matter if she calls. If she doesn't sleep, it means she's not sleepy. Why are you screaming? If we don't eat, she is hungry, not us. What does she care? The reason why he is in this situation now is because we are forcing her to eat, which has caused her to have an aversion to this matter. Anyway, if you are hungry and have snacks, you won't come to dinner. You see, this analysis wants her to eat, starve him, and not buy snacks? So what you see is only the superficial phenomenon and will not explore the deep logic. "

After listening to my father's words, I feel that the pattern has opened. I just saw my sister have bad habits under the influence of my mother, so I wanted to tell her to correct herself, instead of thinking about why she did it. It is unnatural to treat symptoms rather than cure them.

"Then how can we solve such a problem?"

"Simple. You have to let her learn to take the consequences. Just leave her alone. I am a fifth-grade student, and I should know that I am responsible for myself. A large part of the reason why she is in this situation is that her mother cares too much about her. She has never been exposed to the consequences of these things, so she doesn't know how to be self-disciplined. Also, because my mother is in charge of too much, she makes herself very tired. If she can leave her sister alone, nothing will happen. Originally, I sent my grandmother back to her hometown to make her care less about her sister. As a result, your mother took the place of grandma. So, where do you want my sister? "

Although my father never said these words to my sister and mother, considering his previous attitude and behavior, he has always set an example. Every time I talk to my father alone, I can feel the thickness of my father's thoughts, at least much higher than the three of us. Recalling these words, I have a clear feeling-these words are not only for my sister, but also for me, and more importantly, for all parents and children. If parents can realize this and put it into practice, perhaps, the change will be more than a little. ...

Son, your mother is really glad to see you think so. As a brother, you should remember what your mother told you when you were young, such as "Put yourself in the other's shoes, you will get more if you can work more, and you will get more if you work more …" and put it into action. In fact, my sister's situation is not as simple as dad said. There are many reasons, which have a lot to do with her personality. My mother is also looking for a reason to find a way. However, once bad habits are formed, it is a difficult process to change them. My mother is also ready and studying. I have to say that educating this sister is really a test for my mother. How much role does father play on weekends? This is also an aspect that should be considered.

Text/Deng Crystal Ginseng

I learned about a plant, Crystal Ginseng, from the Internet today. Just mentioning the name, do you think it must be rare? In fact, as long as you like, you can see it everywhere.

It can be seen everywhere in the vegetable garden in my hometown, on the roadside of forest parks, in many places of zoos, in wetland parks and other places. I remember grandma digging it for me when I was a child.

? "Crystal ginseng" is actually the tuber of Oxalis (clover) hidden underground. Because it looks like ginseng, it is crystal clear, so it got the nickname of "Crystal Ginseng". (but much smaller than real people)

? The nutritional value of "crystal ginseng" is not low His vitamin C is nearly ten times that of apples and oranges, and it is also rich in protein, vitamin E, amino acids and other nutrients. It is really worth a try!

On weekends, I will dig crystal ginseng with a small shovel.