However, when parents in China mention "sex education", the most direct reaction is two words: dodge.
As long as they see or hear the word "sex", most parents' reactions are: shyness, avoidance, hinting, prevarication and embarrassment. Some parents have never thought about talking to their children about this topic.
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Like me, the post-80s and post-70s spent their childhood, adolescence and adolescence in a daze under the avoidance of their parents. Indeed, most people get married and have children safely, and turn around and become parents. But ask yourself, as parents, do we really know what "sex education" is?
Under our ignorance, more and more people are exposed. Even if the society rings alarm bells to parents again and again, we still don't know how to educate children to protect themselves and respect the privacy of others.
Many people think that sexual assault will only happen to "strangers" and "bad guys", but in fact "acquaintances" and "family members" are the first people to invade children's privacy.
take for example
Many older people especially like to hold the third generation, and they can kiss wherever they want, face, mouth, stomach and even below. Even when the children repeatedly indicated that they didn't like it, they did it.
Some relatives and friends come to visit their homes and habitually regard other people's children as a tool for recreation. Without the consent of the child's parents and the child himself, make intimate actions without appropriate restrictions.
Although these acquaintances and family members just think that the child is cute or paternal, they never consider whether the young child will feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable after being touched. If you say "this is a kind of sexual assault" at this time, these people will not accept it, but will cause family disputes.
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It is more common to bathe and change clothes for young children.
According to my observation and understanding, in a large part of families, mothers, grandmothers or nannies bathe their children before the age of 3, while fathers, grandfathers and grandfathers seldom bathe their children. Dad's reason is simple:
This is your woman's business, and we men don't want to.
It doesn't matter if the child is a girl. On the other hand, if it is a boy, after he begins to have a sense of "gender", if he is still stared at and intimately contacted by women for a long time, it is easy for the child to be confused about his gender for a while and have serious gender identity obstacles.
Because for a boy, his gender identity needs to go through two processes, that is, from his mother's identity to his father's identity. But when he needs to identify with his gender, existence, value, self-esteem, personality, three views and other factors through his father, he can't find them, and his mind is stagnant in the stage of "looking for his mother".
On the other hand, if a father bathes and changes clothes for his daughter, he must also realize that if her daughter has a clear sense of gender and doesn't want to be touched by you again, you need to ask her for help or teach her how to bathe while ensuring safety.
Because for a girl, her gender identity needs three processes: from mother-father-mother identity. Because of this, the psychological endurance of girls is actually stronger than that of boys, but it depends on the status of mothers in this family and the way fathers love their mothers.