Montessori's education advocates that children use real tableware, such as ceramic tableware and glasses, so that children can live in the real world from the beginning, and let children learn how to use tableware carefully and learn the concept that plates, cups and other things can't be played. ? I know everyone is thinking: doesn't this sound dangerous? Is it not easy to break? In fact, if you do this from the first day under the supervision of adults, children will soon know the correct method, so "be careful with plates and cups" is as natural as the toilet is used for defecation rather than washing your face. If the concept of correct use is instilled in the right way from the beginning, the chances of children who are educated by Montessori breaking dishes are really quite low. ? And when you accidentally break it, it is the best educational opportunity. "Broken" is the natural consequence of "incorrect use of tableware", but all safe tableware used by children is unbreakable, so they can't learn this natural consequence at all, and there is no need to use it carefully. ? Moreover, the touch of plastic plates is no different from that of toys. No wonder children throw away tableware as toys. ? It's just a plate, not a flame or a rattlesnake. There is nothing to be afraid of. ? Montessori College, where Zach went to school when he was one year old, used porcelain bowls and glasses everywhere in the baby class. The class teacher proudly said, I don't know that no one has ever dropped a plate in recent years. So my family has been like this ever since. ? To tell the truth, in the past three years, Paul and I accidentally broke hundreds of times more cups and plates than Zach Jr. Because in the three years since Zach started eating solid food, he really didn't break a ceramic bowl or plate at all, but accidentally knocked over a glass. ? But from then on, Zach knew that the cup should be placed away from the edge of the table, and sometimes he would correct us! ? A simple "natural consequence" experience learning and opportunity education is really more useful than parents nagging for a hundred times. ? Once upon a time, it was easy to use real plates and cups when Zach was alone, because I always sat next to him when he ate. Now that there are two treasures at home, who has time to stare at two children for dinner? So at present, my family takes a compromise approach. If we sit next to the children and eat together, we will use normal ceramic glass tableware. If I am busy in the kitchen, let them use stainless steel tableware for the children. ? Hot plastic food makes me feel Mao Mao, so I don't have plastic tableware at home at present? There are pictures and truth. The following photos were taken last July 16. Babe is less than eleven and a half months old, and Zach Jr. is less than three years old. They are eating tacos from Mexico, using our usual large porcelain plates. ? The following photos were taken on July 2 1, and Babe Mai just turned eleven and a half months old. In the hot summer, he eats naked in a porcelain bowl for adults. ? The following 20-second video was shot last September 16. Babe is almost one year old and one and a half months old, and she is eating miscellaneous grains porridge by herself. ? So is the cup. Because Beibei Mai refused to use a bottle when she was a child, everyone could only feed her mother's milk in cups when she was at work, so Beibei Mai began to use glasses when she was six months old, and began to practice drinking water in small glasses when she was less than ten months old. ? The following photos were taken on August 18, and Babe Mai was one year and two weeks old. By this time, he can drink almost every drop of water. You must also drink your own juice from a glass. After reporting to you before, I can finally get into the focus of this article. ? (Yes, the point of this article is not to show off how much my children can eat and drink. Readers who think that this article has come to an end and breathed a sigh of relief must have fainted. The process of learning to use chopsticks and table manners, of course, also includes the important step of washing dishes in the sink after dinner. ? This morning, after breakfast, little Zach took the plate to the sink by himself, and then he did his brother's duty to urge Babe Mai to take his plate to the sink. ? I just bought a new mobile phone with huge capacity recently. Paul has been arguing that we don't often take pictures of our children's childhood, and we will regret it in the future. So I have been chasing paparazzi and stealing children recently. ? It was the same this morning. ? So the following program appeared. The name of the program is "The first plate that my child broke". ? The program was filmed at around 9: 00 a.m. on 24th of this year 1 month. The protagonist Zak Jr. is three years and five and a half months old, and the amazing supporting actor Babe Mai is one year and five and a half months old. In fact, it is no problem for Babe Mai to help himself with the food. However, Zach Jr. urged him behind. Babe Maijiao had a small toy in front of him, and he was wearing socks that were easy to slip. I don't know if he was pushed down, tripped or slipped. ? Isn't it too sweet that the plate is perfectly divided into two halves without sweeping? ? The focus of this article is actually what happened after the plate was broken. ? Passing 18-wheeler, Zach, a three-year-old who was in a frenzy of control, saw the plate broken and immediately threw himself on the ground and began to cry. ? I intuitively told him something stupid like "it's just a broken plate, it doesn't matter". Of course, it's totally useless to want to know. ? Fortunately, I suddenly remembered the parallel integration of the left and right brains in Naming and Taming it: Telling Stories to Calm the Big Emotion, which was introduced in the article "The Brave Fight the Dragon Father as the Eldest Son". Let me review this trick for you: when children are frightened or traumatized, they will have a lot of negative emotions and don't know how to deal with them. The correct way to deal with it is not to avoid talking about it, not to cajole it into nothing, not to pretend to blame things that scare children, nor to go to the temple to receive surprises. ? These actions will only push the child's psychological shadow to the depths, and this shadow will definitely come back in the future, leading to the inexplicable behavior of the child. ? Fear, fear, anger and other emotions all come from the extremely sensitive right brain part that lives in the present. At the moment when the child is emotional, the whole brain is occupied by the right brain. At this time, if adults can help children retell the whole thing in time and clarify the sequence of logic and things, it is equivalent to helping children wake up from the left brain part that has mastered language logic and assisting him to soothe the crazy right brain with his rational left brain. This is a skill called "horizontal integration". ? This is also the reason why psychological counselors will try to ask patients to describe the incident repeatedly when treating patients with major psychological trauma. ? So, just like the cartoon below, it is useless to intuitively use the reasoning method of "Never mind, don't cry" at first. Immediately, I changed my tactics and described the plot to Zach in detail, saying, "It's great that you just took the plate to the sink by yourself. Then you turned to teach Babe Mai to take his plate to the sink, didn't you? But because you grabbed Babe Mais and walked on the table, he didn't walk steadily enough, and then there was a confiscated toy at his feet, so Babe Mais accidentally slipped and the plate accidentally broke! After listening to my story, little Zach magically stopped crying, but I could see that he was still a little sad and excited. So I said and acted, and simply took Zach to the sink and said, "You just brought your plate and put it there." Then I went to the refrigerator and said, "Then you came to let Babe Mai take his food, right?" I pulled him to the small table and said, "You and Babe Mai came over. Maybe you were too close to him and accidentally pushed him. Then, look! "I pointed to the small toy car on the ground." A car on the ground was confiscated, and the North Nose Wheat fell without stepping on it, and then the plate was broken! " I repeated the whole incident while saying that I pretended to fall. ? Will this move be too useful! Little Zach immediately turned back into his super-rational big brother, and then retelled the story himself, saying, "Because there was a toy on the ground, he accidentally slipped, and then the plate broke? 』 ? I said, "yes, so put away the toys on the ground, or you will easily fall down when you walk." 』 ? Little Zach said, "but I'm a big boy, and I won't fall!" Then, while humorously dodging toys on the ground, he quickly walked to the sink to show me. ? I said, "I know, but Mike's nose is north." He just started to learn to walk, so he often walks unsteadily, so if there are toys on the ground, he will accidentally fall. " 』 ? Little Zach immediately turned to Babe Maier and said, "Babe Maier, put away the toys on the ground so that you won't fall!" " 』 ? Then he took the northern nose wheat and began to pick up all the small toys and sundries on the ground and put them back. ? What do you mean by "turning the crisis into a turning point"? Wow, hahahaha! ? This trick is so easy to use that it is even super useful for the deaf northern nose wheat. ? Every time he accidentally falls down or falls from somewhere, he is too scared. I tell stories and repeat the crime scene, which always makes him feel calm in ten seconds. ? What impressed me the most was the story that happened when my family and our son's godmother drove a camper to the desert on New Year's Eve. ? In the evening, after Zach Jr. and Babe Mai fell asleep in my camper, Paul and I took the baby monitor and ran to the next car to have a drink and chat with our friends. Anyway, my campers have Mika to watch the house, and the baby monitor has audio and video, so we are unscrupulous. ? Suddenly found in the middle of the night, I don't know why there is no signal on the baby monitor. I quickly asked Paul to confirm that the child was still sleeping, but Paul laughed at me for being poor and nervous, saying that I was fine all night. Why does the monitor take the opportunity to play small as soon as he teases the children? ? You don't know Murphy's law is so powerful and weird. Just as we continued to drink, chat and joke in the next carriage, suddenly a dog barked in the direction of my camper. ? We rushed back to the camper, and sure enough, Mika didn't know what was going on, and then Babe Mai screamed in the bedroom. ? At that time, no matter how I appeased him, Babe Maier seemed to have lost his mind and started acting like a madman. He couldn't help screaming, kept standing up and sitting down, unable to decide what to do, and kept struggling to break free. I can't even hold him. ? I can see that this is quite different from the midnight crying we have been used to for months. I am an iron-toothed man who never believes in the "surprise" incident, but at that moment, the question mark "Do you want to take him to receive the surprise" flashed in my mind, showing how horrible Babe Mai's performance was at that time. ? Paul naturally speculated that Mika started barking because Babe was crying. I stared at the crazy Babe Mai in the dark camper's bedroom, and suddenly I felt that Paul's speculation was completely wrong. In the next few months, Babe Mai would get up and cry almost every night in the middle of the night, which happened during camping. Mika never says anything. It's a routine. ? My loyal dementia dog only starts barking when he thinks there are bad people walking outside or feels hostile animals. ? The light bulb in my head suddenly lit up: in * *, Mika should not cry because of Babe, but because Mika heard the footsteps of passers-by outside and started screaming and then woke Babe, so Babe looked so scared! ? After I figured it out, I immediately made a move of "taming it by giving it a name" and said to Babemai, who was only one year old and four months old, "You were sleeping just now, and then Mika suddenly started barking, woof-woof! Woof woof woof! Ok ~ ring ~ sound! Then you woke up scared, right? 』 ? On hearing me say this, Babe's crazy state suddenly changed, as if I had driven away the possessed ghost, from uncontrollable screaming to sobbing. Obviously, "this insane woman finally understands me", and then for a few seconds, he fell asleep again. ? It can't be so useful to receive an impact! ? After introducing this trick in the article "A brave man fights a dragon's father like the eldest son", a medical expert reader came to kick the pavilion, saying that the medical knowledge I provided was wrong, and the brain was not divided into left and right brains, but the prefrontal lobe controlled what function and what function. (yawns)? Dear students, I am not a doctor, and I am not interested in medicine at all. I'm just an aunt who reads "Whole Brain Child". However, the author of this book, Dr. Daniel Siegel, is a pediatric psychiatrist at UCLA School of Medicine and the director of many other brain research centers, while the author, Dr. Tina Payne Bridson, is a famous pediatric psychotherapist with a series of names hanging behind her. The books written by both of them are the first figures in the bestseller list, so they are authoritative enough. ? "The whole brain child is not a medical book, but an easy-to-understand parenting book with many examples. I think the author should be afraid that too many medical words will make parents who are already depressed because of lack of sleep yawn. They use a lot of vague and common sense words, such as "left brain" and "right brain", so of course I will follow through "left brain" and "right brain". Please don't care too much, as long as it means it. ? After the parallel integration of the left and right brains, this book does talk about the up-and-down integration of the upper prefrontal lobe and other lower lobes of the brain, but it is often called "upstairs" and "downstairs" for fear that everyone will fall asleep while reading. Finally, in order to prove that my first dish was broken by my brother fooling around with Babe Mai, Babe Mai, who was one year old and five and a half months old, starred in the following program and finally got revenge! ? Please see how proud he is after he brought me the plate. He walks with the wind! ? Children's self-confidence and happiness always come from a small step towards independence. ? * This article is published by authorization of Brucci, a former foreign bride and now an American aunt. Reprinting without permission is prohibited.
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