One is to hurt children's self-esteem. Although children are young, with the growth of age, an important psychological feature is that self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger, and hitting children is a serious injury to self-esteem. Some children have more and more broken skins, from rebellion and confrontation to broken cans and falls and self-abandonment.

The second is to force children to lie. Some children, intimidated by the pressure of their parents, give up on the surface and are dissatisfied. They have learned have it both ways's bad quality of judging people by their appearances.

The third is hatred and revenge on parents. A mother said in horror: "Not long ago, I slapped my child in a rage. I didn't expect him to grab a short stool and throw it at me, almost hitting my head." He also said bitterly:' Look at it in a few years and settle accounts!' The thought of my son chilled my heart. "

Fourth, it is easy for children to form a grumpy character. Parents often beat and scold their children, which will always have a subtle influence on them. Frequent beatings will not only make children irritable, but also give them an aggressive demonstration in behavior. When children don't get along well with others and encounter some bad stimuli, it is easy to have aggressive behavior. Some children run away from home, wander the society, and finally embark on the road of crime, which is not unrelated to their parents' abuse.

The fifth is to let parents lose prestige in the eyes of their children. After being beaten by his father, a 5-year-old child pointed to his father and said, "What skills do you have? You will bully children! " Father said: "I hit the child, but I made him look down on me." I really felt a little embarrassed at the time. "

Six educational methods instead of beating and scolding children

Know more about children. While parents are busy making a living, they must take time to learn more about their children, communicate with their children, nannies and teachers, and try to fully grasp their children's performance in school and family. The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will know more about how to guide the child.

Listen to the child patiently. If parents are impatient and aggressive, the most direct reaction to children who don't listen to discipline is usually beating and cursing. At this time, parents should first calm down, try to listen to their children patiently and ask them why. When parents' minds have been focused on understanding their children's thoughts and trying to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable and release a lot of negative emotions.

Revise expectations for children. Some parents often set standards for their children that they can't do. You know, it is normal for children to be young, active, stubborn and forgetful. If parents really want to make demands on their children, they should also consider their growth. Don't always look at their performance with a magnifying glass.

Let go of your attitude towards children. Some parents always like to be dignified in front of their children and are used to treating their children with the above attitude. Education experts suggest that parents should really put down their bodies to their children, respect them from the heart, don't talk to them in a commanding tone, and respect them as adults. Don't always say "no" to children, but give them multiple-choice questions and let them make their own decisions. If the child is old enough and there is no problem with his expression ability, he can also let the child come up with a solution or alternative.

Negotiate with children. Don't always ask children to live according to their parents' wishes, so not only the children suffer, but also the parents suffer. Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it is a good idea to negotiate with your children and take a step back.

Don't lecture your child when you are angry. In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, they should leave the scene temporarily, or divert their attention to other things, and then have a good heart-to-heart talk with their children after they calm down.