Recently, I read another book by xu teacher, Pedagogy in Children's Books, and I like reading teacher Xu Li's words more and more, because between the lines, I can see her understanding and love for children from the standpoint of children. Every story in this book is the best testimony. In addition, there are countless classic bibliographies in each chapter of the book, which also expands the content of the book.
The ideal education should be relaxed, full of love, full of the educational wisdom of parents and teachers and the guidance of adult wisdom. I still remember when children were young, they often said, "It is best not to destroy their original learning ability." However, as children grow up, they find that they have been sparing no effort to do so, destroying their learning ability again and again. From xu teacher's book, I saw the acceptance of parents. Parents must accept themselves before they can accept our children better. Parents should be clear about their tasks and have the ability to perceive their own behaviors.
? Xu teacher mentioned in the book:
Raising children is not easy. As adults, we have the responsibility to understand the possible characteristics of children of different ages, to be kind and firm partners of children, and to create and maintain an orderly and safe environment with children. Adults should also realize that the emergence of children's challenging behavior has a lot to do with our upbringing.
? Susan perrow has always been the initiator of the story Know What to Do. She believes that stories can bridge the communication between parents and children, and we can turn preaching into stories and criticism into stories. In the book Teaching and Learning of Children's Books, there is a teaching clip about a leaf falling. Although I have read this picture book several times, I still have tears in my eyes when I see this teaching clip about xu teacher. I think this is the power of the story. In the book, xu teacher also presents us with stories: using stories to help children identify emotions, using stories to replace preaching, using stories to replace reprimanding, and using stories to express expectations ... xu teacher shows us the power of stories with vivid cases. As parents, we need to read more books, borrow more books and raise children with stories. ...
In daily life, we are particularly prone to make mistakes: we don't listen to children's voices. For many children's demands, we agree without principle when we are in a good mood; Say "no" when you are in a bad mood, but don't give your child why, or you can't convince your child at all. Over time, your children may distrust their parents, and the parent-child relationship is getting farther and farther. The mother-child dialogue in xu teacher's case "I Want a Big Lizard" can not only solve the problem that my son wants to keep a lizard, but also teach children the skills and methods of communication and see the mother's support for their children.
? Regarding the establishment of rules, xu teacher took the lion in the library as an example, which not only taught children the importance of rules, but also told them that they could break them when necessary. Rules are made to protect others, but also to protect themselves. At the same time, children are taught to put themselves in others' shoes.
I remember in the book, xu teacher used her daughter's case to present the child's voice to us. She said that she didn't want to sit next to Xueba, because it would be stressful to sit next to Xueba. Xueba didn't have a rest after class and didn't have a good rest. Xueba studies hard and feels guilty if he wants to be lazy. This is the child's voice. Parents are always worried about their children playing with children who are not as good as themselves, and want their children to play with people who are better than him, but is this the child's wish? We need to listen to children's voices and care more about their feelings. There are also two children in my class. In the third grade, A was a bully and B was a scum. They are inseparable friends. Now in the fifth grade, A is still the class bully, and B is slowly approaching the class bully. We should trust our children's choices and give them complete trust.
This story probably moved me the most. In this story, I saw xu teacher's unconditional love and acceptance of children. We are also encouraged to accept each child's personality unconditionally. Let's confirm that extroversion and introversion are just different characteristics, there is no good or bad, there is no right or wrong.
There are many wonderful stories in the book, which use many practical cases to guide us to reflect on our educational behavior and give us intuitive and operational methods. This is a good book for both parents and teachers to read. Opening this book will definitely ease your inner anxiety about education and your children's future.