Don't pass on the resentment of adults to children. There are many reasons for divorce between husband and wife, but don't give the love and hate between husband and wife to the children, because it will affect the children's views on marriage when they grow up. There are many examples of divorced children since childhood. They have been instilled with hatred and complaints since childhood, and they are psychologically shadowed. When I grow up, I feel insecure about love and marriage, often ask each other questions, lack trust and dare not get married. Don't involve children in disputes between adults. Don't use children as a tool for communication or mutual punishment. Don't take it out on your children. For example, when parents divorce, mothers often complain about their sons: You and your father have the same problem. How can I have a son like you? ? Venting the resentment against the other half on the child will make the child injured again.

Minimize life changes. Let the child meet his parents, go to his former school, play with his former good friends, and attend special classes he used to like. Children can't be the same. Meeting parents every day has become a regular meeting. The little mind is already very lost. Don't stop caring for children, especially when they are young, so as to minimize the negative impact. Let your children know what will happen in the future. Explain the situation to the children peacefully. Don't let children guess or worry about the future, such as when they can see their parents. Usually you can contact by telephone, video, etc.

Tell the kids? It's not your fault? . Divorce is a problem for parents, because young children may think that their parents divorced because of their poor performance, so they feel inferior, timid and negative. Tell children that this is an emotional relationship between adults. Although his parents have separated, it has nothing to do with him. I will still love him as before, and you will always be my parents' favorite child. Accept the child and accept yourself. Accepting children's emotions unconditionally, parents' divorce is naturally unacceptable to children. Children may feel sad, depressed and angry? And show extreme behavior, such as irritability, decreased academic performance, fighting with children and so on. At this point, parents should take the initiative to ask the child's feelings, let him speak out loudly, express his feelings, and understand the reasons behind the child's discovery of his behavior, and then guide him.

You can treat your child as a friend, share your feelings with your child, express your feelings, and let your child feel trusted. Communication can enhance mutual understanding and trust, and tell him that it is not his responsibility, and adults will take care of it.