First, respect children's choices and treat their interests well.
Nobel Prize in Literature laureate and Israeli woman writer gordimer said this when talking about her nation's family education: Our family education is democratic and enlightened. Parents first respect their children's educational choices and never force them to study according to their own wishes. ? Yes, gordimer was right. Jews are more democratic and open in their choice of children, especially in their interest in children.
Look at Picasso's story: Picasso hates the boring things that the teacher teaches in class. His eyes are always fixed on the teacher's wall clock, hoping that the damn pointer will go faster. ? Sir, I need to go to the bathroom. Didn't you just have a class? The interrupted teacher was impatient. Let's go Let's go ? Picasso walked out of the classroom and looked around. There was really nowhere to go, so he walked back to the classroom, but after a while, he couldn't sit still again. ? May I draw a picture for you, sir? He blurted out. ? What? You draw me! ? The teacher glared at him angrily and said, go, go, go to the toilet. ?
Picasso's troubles in class were known by his father, who didn't criticize him. Do you really want a portrait, son? Picasso said: Yes, I hate classes and just want to draw! ? Father said:? Ok, I'll send you to learn portrait, but you have to promise me that you won't refuse to learn other scientific and cultural knowledge besides portrait. ? Father sent Picasso to a famous local art school. For art, Picasso's endurance is amazing. He can paint for hours without putting a brush, which is completely different from his performance in class. Seeing the child's love for art, his father decided to keep Picasso in the art school instead of sending him to the school where he just wanted to skip classes.
Interest is the best teacher, and children have a strong interest and love for something, which is a kind of nature, indicating that children have potential and advantages that others do not have in some way. As parents, they should support their children to learn, explore and study what they are interested in, instead of interfering rudely.
Second, the spirit of independence is the foundation of all excellent qualities.
Jews respect the spirit of individual independence. In their view, the spirit of independence is the basis for a person to have all excellent qualities. Therefore, cultivating children's independent spirit is the top priority of Jewish family education. Barani suffered from bone tuberculosis when he was young. His knees are permanently stiff because his family is not rich and cannot be cured. Still, Barani's parents didn't give him an extra share? Love? . As long as Barani can do what he can, his parents will be there? Do nothing? Just occasionally say a compliment. On the birthday of Barani 15, before eating the birthday cake, my father said this to Barani. Son, we never treat you as a disabled child, nor will we give you special care, because we know that no one can take care of you for a lifetime except yourself. Only by forming the habit of taking care of yourself can you stand on your own feet and control your own destiny in the future. Son, we hope you can understand that we love you, too. ?
Barani will always remember his father's words in his heart. Although only 15 years old, he can already understand his parents' good intentions. From the age of 18, Barani's parents broke off economic ties with Barani, making Barani truly independent, and they just watched silently behind his back. Barani's later life was full of ups and downs, but he never lost confidence in the future. He was determined to study medicine, and he experienced numerous failures on the road of exploration, but Barani never lost heart. It is this spirit of self-improvement that makes Barani achieve outstanding achievements and win the 19 14 Nobel Prize in Physiology and Medicine.
What Barani's parents did was cruel to us, but it was absolutely rational. In the eyes of Jews, self-reliance is the first step to master one's own destiny. Only self-reliance can strengthen oneself, and self-reliance is the spiritual quality that a person should have most. This is how Jewish family education pays attention to the cultivation of self-care consciousness. There are many world-famous monopoly among Jews, like? Oil king? Rockefeller? Financial tycoon? Morgan. News king? Pulitzer and so on, they all have huge wealth, but their wealth is given to the society, not to their children. This is to cultivate children's independent spirit and let them win everything for themselves instead of becoming? Parasites? .
Third, it is more important to cultivate a person with perfect personality than to cultivate a high flyer.
Jews attach importance to education and regard investing in education as an unshirkable responsibility and obligation. However, in education, knowledge is by no means pushed to the supreme position. Jewish educator Bavi once said: Cultivating a person with perfect personality is more important than cultivating a high flyers. ? This is actually a Jewish educational concept.
Fleming 1945, the inventor of penicillin, won the Nobel Prize in Medicine. He had this acceptance speech: I am doing my own research with the desire to reduce human suffering, especially for the poor who look down on diseases.
Fleming's father is a farmer. Like other Jews, the greatest hope for children's education is to improve their personality first. He once wrote these words for Fleming in his notebook: love, gratitude, honesty, patience and optimism, and wrote them down in just a few words? Knowledge? Its significance is self-evident. In a Jewish family, no parents will force their children to go? Go to college? So they feel that society is the best university. What I learned in this university is far richer than what I learned in school, and it is more useful for the perfection of personality.
Among Jews, there are very few what we call. High scores and low energy? People, this is because in their family education, the promotion of personality is the primary goal of education, and we are wholeheartedly with our parents in China? Looking forward to success? The mentality is just the opposite. Think about it, if the child's personality is not perfect and his knowledge is rich, what's the point? Think about it. As parents, should we ask ourselves whether we have made mistakes in educating our children because of our narrow vision? Will children lose their future because of today's mistakes?