It is true that every parent knows that exam-oriented education is not good and happy education is good.
However, in practice, there are still more parents who make academic and life choices instead of their children, spare no effort to urge and force their children to stay up late and study hard.
It seems that as long as children are admitted to famous universities, the fate of children and families can jump and change, and even most related problems in employment, marriage and life can be solved.
But in fact, exam-oriented education is not everything, and happy education can not be ignored.
The most important thing in educating children is rationality, tolerance and care. It doesn't mean that parents take a pure exam instead of their children or make an extreme choice of pure happiness. Children's lives will be happier than their peers.
Moreover, most children who learn bullying are particularly good at learning, but in the workplace and business, they are often caught in a job dilemma with excellent resumes but poor performance because of poor communication and disagreement.
This shows that children can only learn knowledge theory and problem-solving methods in exam-oriented education that pays too much attention to rote learning, but they cannot have a more comfortable, free and laissez-faire emotional life like children under happy education.
Of course, the so-called "happy education" is not just as long as children are happy. As long as the child feels relaxed, comfortable and happy, he can ignore his studies, achievements and even the cultivation of his character and morality.
True happiness education should be under the framework of part of exam-oriented education and academic education, under the premise of ensuring diligent study and academic performance, giving children more heartfelt companionship, and at the same time leading children to experience different lives, environments and concepts, so that children can improve their thinking and knowledge level while recognizing and feeling the outside world.
After all, in today's increasingly severe employment situation and workplace environment, it is totally useless for a child to learn to be happy, eloquent and eloquent, but without education, knowledge and skills that can reflect his own value.
If you don't have a degree, most employers won't let you enter the interview session after the written test;
Without knowledge, the company boss just wants to put you in a high-paying position and has no way to start;
Without skills, it will only delay, delay and reduce the performance and efficiency of relevant departments of the company.
Which company is willing to treat you as such an employee?
Therefore, happy education is not laissez-faire education or illiterate education.
On the contrary, the more high-quality and highly educated enlightened parents are, the better they are at integrating theory with practice. On the basis of accompanying and disciplining children's study, guide children to form study habits, make study plans, and take time out for games and entertainment.
Therefore, exam-oriented education and happy education, which are becoming "two extremes" in the eyes of many parents, should actually complement each other and be inseparable.
Because every child, including adults, will not feel happy and satisfied because of simple and thorough indulgence.
On the contrary, because of the occasional "busy leisure" in school life and workplace work, it looks more and more boring day after day, and feels extremely happy and happy.
So are children. During the winter and summer vacations, it must be cheering and jumping for joy at first, but with the start of school, children will have an inexplicable excited expectation for the start of school because they miss the children and teachers in the class.
As a result, children and adults are on holiday and looking forward to starting school. This is a common psychological state.
In fact, the learning tasks and test scores in academic education are the sources of children's satisfaction and joy. But the premise is that parents should guide their children to prepare and review on time and step by step.
Because learning this thing is like this:
If children can't concentrate in class at ordinary times and don't do a good job in classroom listening and textbook content learning, then even if you spend several times of time and energy after class and on weekends, and the tuition fee is dozens of times, it may not be possible for children to fully grasp the relevant chapters and knowledge points.
In short, parents should educate their children well, concentrate on their studies in the school classroom where they spend 80% of their study time every day, finish their homework on time in the remaining 20% of their family study time, and do a good job in previewing and reviewing each lesson.
Only in this way can children feel more happiness and satisfaction under the premise of completing the "exam-oriented education", and parents will have more confidence and enthusiasm, more spare time and energy, and do a good job of caring for and accompanying their children.
In the final analysis, happy education is not that children learn nothing, and parents spoil their children all day, but that in the process of academic education, we should hit the nail on the head:
Let children get a sense of satisfaction when they complete their learning tasks, a sense of accomplishment when their test scores improve, and a sense of pleasure when they are busy relaxing and entertaining.
This is the real happiness education.