Speaking of children's education, every parent has a lot to say. Although the family situation is different and the education methods are different, the purpose is to hope that their children can grow up happily and healthily. As parents, how should we educate our children? I have bought many books, bought many CDs, and consulted many colleagues ... The children grow up day by day, and their grades are gradually stable, but I still dare not relax.
It is very necessary to develop good study habits, which should be reflected in the details of life. Everyone in our family has the habit of reading books. When a child was young, he cultivated and exercised his literacy ability early, which laid a very good foundation for his future study. When the child is older, we will help him form the habit of reading and let him spare some time to read every day. In our family, we can often see pictures of a family of three reading books. Moreover, I will buy all kinds of books for him from the bookstore whenever I have the chance. Gifts for Children's Day and Spring Festival are all kinds of interesting or beneficial books. After a long time, children like reading. I have also developed good reading habits. It also played a great role in promoting learning.
From the time my child goes to school, I pay attention to cultivating his study habits and finish the homework left by the teacher after going home every day. Preview the rest before learning the new lesson. Communicate with his teacher in time to help children develop good study habits.
In family life, always pay attention to the formation of habits, pack up the toys you have played, wash your face and brush your teeth before going to bed at night. Sometimes, if a child wants to be lazy, tell him the truth and tell him that it is impossible. Slowly, he recognized this behavior, and the habit naturally formed.
To educate children, our generation of parents need to learn and inherit the traditional wisdom of the Chinese nation. In the past, I was very insecure, that is, I didn't establish a stable and reliable overall value system to educate my children. During this period, in the process of intermittent contact with traditional enlightenment classics, I reflected on my own behavior ethics and the various manifestations of children's growth. I feel that I have found the clue and direction to educate my children, and I need to grow up with my children under the influence of learning traditional culture.
Don't ask too much of your child, give him some room for free development, observe his advantages and disadvantages, and then give guidance. I think we have all been children and should know what children like. Too much preaching is better than guiding children with our own actions. What children are asked to do, adults must first do it themselves. For example, when my son was watching TV, he unconsciously walked in front of the TV as soon as he saw the wonderful part. I corrected him, and he immediately reprimanded and said, "You always surf the Internet every day, and your eyes will be broken if you play for a long time." In the face of children's doubts, I have to correct myself first and influence my children with my own behavior. I said to my child, "Look, mom has corrected it, and it's only been online for a while, so you should correct it!" " At this time, the child will readily accept your suggestion.
In order to broaden our horizons and cultivate children's various interests. In his spare time, he signed up for a calligraphy class. He has been studying for several years now, and he is very interested and his grades are good.
Children like to make by hand, and I will provide them with materials and help them as much as possible. Sometimes, watching him make a "work" that is not very wonderful and show it to us smugly, his expression is full of pride. I feel gratified from the bottom of my heart to see that children dare to do things and get happiness from the process of hand-making.
In addition, we also like to let our children take part in some physical exercises. If a child loves to run and jump, let him exercise more, which will not only strengthen his body, but also make him happy. Why not?
In short, we hope that the child is not only a child who is immersed in his studies, but also hopes that he can have his own fun while studying hard and is a person who loves life.
Educating children is an important task for the whole family. Educating children really requires parents to move from "self-cultivation" to "family integration" in order to achieve the goal of education. This year, I specially bought MP3 and a set of audio amplifier, downloaded the classic explanations and reading materials on the Internet into MP3, and then played them through the amplifier, so that everyone at home can get in touch with this information and learn at the same time. At the same time, the life behavior of family members is restricted and regulated to a certain extent, and the education of children needs the growth of every family member. At the same time, with the help of MP3 Walkman, my learning process of ancient Chinese will be accelerated. I found that there are many excellent traditional cultural resources on the Internet. Over time, my children and I have greatly improved our literary level.
In the process of studying, I have encountered such difficulties. Sometimes, it is not uncommon to be sarcastic but counterproductive. I've been troubled by this, too Later, I thought about it carefully: parents should not only blame their children, but also reflect on their children to see where the problems are and whether they can make them more acceptable in another way. In fact, as long as you are thoughtful and creative, family education can be very interesting.
After the child has some reading ability, I began to try to write some small notes with different contents for the child, even if there are only a few words. I sometimes put these little notes in the children's pencil box, sometimes quietly put them in the children's toy box, and even put them on the refrigerator door, mirror and pillow. It used to be his goal that children can see and find them wherever they are. When the child accidentally found these small notes, it brought him a surprise, and at the same time, it made him truly feel the attention and love of his parents.
Characters and languages have different characteristics. Language is fleeting, and sometimes it doesn't necessarily leave much impression when spoken several times. It's easy to go in one ear and out the other. Writing overcomes this weakness. As long as it is not destroyed, you can take it out at any time, and every time you look at it, you feel that you are reliving it, which is naturally more impressive. Compared with the stormy reprimand and reprimand, this not only takes into account the child's self-esteem, but also is more acceptable to the child.
Not only can children not have more understanding and respect for their parents, but they may force you to make progress with your children. Because with the growth of children's age, the content of notes will no longer be a single praise, criticism, etc., but will gradually expand to recommend a book, introduce a good article, leave a small question that needs to be answered by brains, and even include discussion of a certain point of view. And the content will begin to be rich and colorful, which is also a help to his thinking ability and writing ability training. These come and go, and family education can also add a lot of fun.
I don't know what is right and what is best in children's education, but some aspects of children's education are common, and some things are different according to children's personality and characteristics. In education, we should not only let nature take its course, but also be persuasive and seek a balance between management and no matter what.
Come on! "Don't lose heart, try again." "You did a great job! I am happy for you! " ..... We often give such encouragement to children, and children will make rapid progress with our encouragement. Children need encouragement. We often encourage children to participate in school group activities. When they come back, we will listen to what happened when they took part in the activities and ask him some further questions: What activities did you do today? With who? Are you interested in continuing to participate in such activities? What are the gains and experiences from participating in this activity? Why? In order to arouse children's interest, find problems in time and solve them. So every encouragement we give is a catalyst for his progress. In many aspects of study and life, we give children a lot of encouragement and appreciation. Therefore, the child is confident, and I think it is very valuable for him to have such a positive idea.
Although praise and encouragement are important, sometimes criticism is indispensable. In children's study, sometimes he will feel unhappy when his exam results are less, but we will not severely criticize him for it, sometimes help him find out the reasons and sometimes remind him what to do. Therefore, he has been afraid to tell his parents because of his low test scores.
Teacher Xu, an education expert, said that if family education is limited to how to train children and ignores the real needs for improvement, then such family education will hardly achieve the expected results. Parents' quality is not high, how to have a good family education atmosphere and how to cultivate the next generation with physical and mental health? Parents often lament that the older their children are, the less they know. Yes, when the child was young, you directed the child's words and deeds as an elder everywhere, and never really understood the child's feelings. When children grow up, you will get farther and farther away from them, and a generation gap will also arise. It is difficult to pass on correct concepts and experiences to children, leading to the failure of education. However, if parents can accompany their children to grow up from the beginning, treat them with children's eyes and always maintain a childlike innocence, then, as children grow up, you will find that while children gradually understand the world, you also gradually understand their books and enter their inner world. At this time, you are getting closer and closer to your successful parents.
This is our little experience in the process of educating children, but there are also many shortcomings. In the days to come, we will also learn and teach, explore in practice and make continuous progress in learning, so that children can grow up healthily and happily and become excellent people.
Chapter two: Children's educational experience.
The forum I go to most often is called Children's Education Forum. Before and after the birth of Jiabao, it was catching up with the financial crisis and the business was not good. The landlord freely squeezed out a lot of time to soak there, and almost all aspects of parenting were involved there.
There are many good parenting diaries, such as Tian Tian's Learning English and Classics, Xiao Lou's Baby Diary and Mix's mother's parenting diary. The landlord will read them, copy them, and then classify them according to age, according to literacy, classics, English, art, mathematics, reading and so on. These are very careful mothers. Lz learned to listen to Mozart and Bach's music, watch Picasso and Monet's paintings, write all the German articles at home in big letters, and change the ancient poems on the wall at home every half month.
Lz's favorite "Cultivating Tong Ling's Classic Readings", all kinds of classic CD 32 discs and books at home and abroad have been read by CCTV and china national radio. English poetry (including Shakespeare, etc. ) and other soundtracks are all western classical music, while Disciples Rules, A Thousand Words, The Analects of Confucius, Poems of Tang and Song Dynasties, The Book of Songs and Historical Records are all instruments such as guzheng, and lz himself likes to listen to them. It's really an honor. Jiabao likes listening to the three-character sutra best when he is half a year old, and 1 year old likes the moonlight on the riverside best. Soon after he began to speak, he would recite half of Moonlit Night on a Spring River, and now he still likes reading Tang poems. Jia Ming will be very good and quiet when he listens to the Analects of Confucius now, and he likes listening to lz recite the three-character classics best.
There are also many parenting e-books to download. Personally, I like Sun Ruixue's books best. I bought seven or eight copies of her "Love and Freedom" as a gift, and I left two copies for myself to read from time to time. There is also "grasping the sensitive period of children" to understand the root causes of children's disobedience, so as to better understand children. More importantly, grasping the sensitive period of children's ability development can get twice the result with half the effort.
Regarding early education, you can look at the exchange area between Qitian Town and Duman Flash Card. Even if you don't believe in the possibility of cultivating talents, you should read Du Man and Qi Tian. Many ideas are good. Lz himself once made a lot of flashcards crazily. But now TB also has ready-made flash cards to sell, and it is more convenient to download flash cards on ipad.
Needless to say, children's books, many e-books, Chinese and foreign color picture books, can be printed out for children to see, or downloaded and screened out for children to see, and then buy genuine. In fact, it is not easy to choose the right book for children. These e-books can improve the efficiency of book selection and save money by printing.
Good electronic versions of original English books, such as phonics and Oxford Reading Tree, I think it's very good. Oxford Reading Tree is a textbook for many primary schools and kindergartens in Britain, and some international kindergartens in Hong Kong are also using it. It is very good to learn English reading at different levels. However, it is very expensive. A page of ORT 10 is priced at 55 yuan. 1 1 and 12 can be found on TB, so it is very cost-effective to print. Mothers with poor English can refer to Xiaoxiao's mother's writing on how to let children learn English by themselves through reading.
In addition, lz recommended Happy English Bubble in Qiao Hu. Jiabao has been watching TV for half an hour every day since she was 65,438+0.5 years old. When he went to Hong Kong kindergarten for an interview at the age of 2, he could speak very authentic English and answer simple sentences correctly.
The most important thing is to respect children like adults and understand them from their perspective, so as to achieve better educational results. I will understand and respect my children, and I will be more tolerant and peaceful to the people around me in my work and life. This is also a process of self-improvement.
Chapter three: Children's educational experience.
During my son's eight years of growth, I feel that I am constantly changing and improving with his growth. Now that my son is in the second grade, how to educate children well is actually a course. Today, I am honored that the teacher chose me to write about my educational experience. Let me talk about my educational experience.
First of all, we should cultivate children's good study habits and living habits. Nowadays, many families have only one child, and several adults are around them, which makes children feel superior. Even if some parents don't spoil their children, children are actually very aware of their position in the family. Therefore, we must first cultivate children's habit of studying and living independently. Some parents may accompany their children to do their homework. Parents will accompany the children when they write. When children are young, self-control is poor. It is ok for parents to urge learning, but it is necessary to gradually cultivate children's ability to learn independently. The presence of parents is not conducive to children's independent thinking and makes them feel dependent. When they encounter difficulties, they don't mean to solve them themselves, but let their parents solve them. Fortunately, Xin Zhe has done a good job in this respect. When he comes home from school, the first thing he does is to do his homework. Normally, I'm not around. I will check it carefully when he finishes his homework. At the beginning, it is inevitable that there will be involuntary feelings. So we made a rule: do your homework first when you come home from school, and you are not allowed to play until you finish your homework. When encountering problems, think for yourself first, and then solve them together. In this way, he gradually got used to it. Secondly, living habits are also very important.
Second, we should cultivate children's self-care ability. Nowadays, social competition is becoming more and more fierce. Some children often play the role of little emperors at home, with their clothes stretched and their mouths full of food. Parents should not pity their children for fear that they will suffer. It's a tradition of poverty to carry on the family line. No mother cares about her children, but we should keep them in our hearts.
Third, building children's self-confidence is the key to their growth. Children will inevitably have mistakes and valleys. At this time, parents' care and encouragement are most needed. If the exam results are not satisfactory, don't criticize the child blindly, but tell him why and where he did wrong. We should encourage children with positive language and tell them that you are excellent. If you make the same effort, you are sure to get good grades. In this way, children's enthusiasm for learning will be stimulated and they will have confidence in learning. A good boy is praised, but a bad boy is used to it. "Give children more praise and encouragement in daily life and study. Giving children more appreciative eyes is conducive to cultivating children's good moral behavior habits and qualities, and at the same time is conducive to enhancing parents' trust in their children. Let the children see their unique strengths and advantages, see his little progress, affirm him, encourage him unremittingly, guide him patiently and carry forward their own advantages.
Fourth, don't get angry with children easily. I think if you are often angry with your child, there will be two results: first, he is used to it and thinks it's no big deal for you to be angry; Second, he will be afraid of you because he is timid, which will make him flinch from you. If he is often angry, he will report good news instead of worries, and parents will not know the real situation of their children, so education will be passive.
Fifth, we should fully respect children's nature and their choices in learning. Children are curious, imaginative and competitive, which are the three elements of their growth. At the same time, combined with the age characteristics of children of this age: nature is fun. In this regard, it is necessary to ensure that children have enough mobile time to play and relax and do what they like. Never rely on parents' subjective consciousness to influence children's development direction.
For example, now that the internet is very attractive, I made an agreement with my son to play computer for 20 minutes every weekend, and let him watch cartoons before going to bed to give him his own space.
Expect the son to succeed and the daughter to succeed. Children are the hope and sustenance of every parent. Educating children well is not only the responsibility of school teachers, but also the responsibility of parents who get along with their children day and night. Most children's future development can't be separated from their parents' words and deeds. As parents, they grow up with their children and take every step together.
Chapter four: Children's educational experience.
The growth of children is a very wonderful thing. Inadvertently, he absorbed nutrition, his body became strong, and his mind became increasingly full. Inadvertently, my ability has been increased, and I have my own thinking, giving you some novel discoveries. Maybe adolescence is a very beautiful age. Although the usual guidance for children did not see the effect immediately, it still took root in the eyes of children. After a period of time, you will find that there are certain behavioral results.
No wonder many people can't realize their dreams of life and pin their hopes on their children. The original idea takes root in children's hearts, which can actually realize many of their dreams of personality creation. It's amazing that self-creation that I didn't realize was inadvertently influenced by children, and it was easy to do it. When a person is young, it is very important. What kind of seeds are planted, what kind of personality will be harvested. Of course, if you want to plant an idea, you must communicate well with your children and have more successful parent-child communication, so that children can choose for themselves. The education of children needs foresight, broad vision and cruelty. For the sake of children's growth and future, we should bear to watch the pain of children's growth and not do it for them; It is cruel to see children being honed, rather than being tempted to give up; Seeing that a child can't achieve some goals at once, give him some ways to get it, instead of providing ready-made results.
Life requires constant pursuit of goals, or you will lose your way. So are children. Without a correct goal, it will be involved in daily chores and will be negative. If you live in a negative state, you can't live a healthy life. In view of children's problems, step by step, help children develop feasible methods, work hard bit by bit, and gradually approach the goal. For some children's problems, we need great patience, and some mistakes may be repeated over time. We should work with our children to find out the reasons and discuss how to avoid such problems next time.
Educating children is planting crops, which requires a lot of patience and waiting. After communicating with children, it takes a long time to achieve behavioral effects. Or some things will never come true. If it doesn't matter, then let nature take its course. It is very important to maintain children's self-esteem and love for life. If a living body loses its vitality because of the idealism of its parents, such education will lose its meaning. All education is for the happiness of children. If a beautiful life is lost, such education will inevitably fail.