First of all, what are the benefits of self-discipline training for children?
Self-discipline can improve children's learning efficiency: learning is boring, children are born to play, and many children have no awareness of autonomous learning. Parents' urging and oppression can easily make children tired of learning and resist. Self-disciplined children have the motivation to learn, can understand the necessity of learning, arrange learning more efficiently, and let parents and teachers worry.
Self-disciplined children have a clear direction of efforts: self-disciplined children have clear life goals and detailed plans. Know how to do things step by step for what you love. Moreover, they have firm goals, are not easily influenced by others' will, and are not easily attracted by heresy, and will always stick to the road of struggle.
Self-disciplined children have strong willpower: some children give up as soon as they are killed, but self-discipline can give children strong spiritual support, encourage them to persist hard and dare to challenge difficulties. Not giving up easily is their bottom line, and not being knocked down by difficulties is their excellent quality. The hard training of self-discipline spirit will also become a powerful spiritual wealth, helping them to move towards a more difficult and dangerous road.
As parents, how to cultivate children's self-discipline ability?
Clear rewards and punishments, establish a sense of rules.
Doing the wrong thing needs to be punished, and overfulfilling the task can be rewarded. Strictly follow the rules. If parents love their children blindly and are not strict with them, how can children be strict with themselves? Therefore, parents should let their children establish a sense of rules from an early age, formulate some rules through consultation with their children, and ask them to abide by these rules in order to achieve the purpose of self-discipline.
Rules should not be broken easily, and all family members should abide by them.
Many families are running it in the family. Many times, the requirements of grandparents and parents are inconsistent, which makes it difficult for children to form good habits. Not only the study requirements should be observed, but also the details of life. For example, you can't play with toys when you do your homework, you can't watch TV when you eat, you have to pack your toys and chopsticks yourself, and so on. If the elders help you in all aspects, the children will think that it is something that can or cannot be done, and it is impossible to form the habit of self-discipline.
Parents should set an example and set a correct example.
Parents are the best teachers for their children, and their behavior is very important for their children to set an example. If parents adhere to principles and self-discipline in their daily lives and embody them in their actions, they will play a powerful demonstration role for their children. On the other hand, if parents are moody and do whatever they want, regardless of the consequences, children will learn the same behavior style.
Supervise the implementation at the initial stage, and then let go easily later.
In fact, many habits of children are developed in the supervision and supervision of adults. Because children's perseverance is still weak, if there is no supervision, they will be willful and do whatever they want. Good habits will be hard to cultivate when you grow up. It's like greeting an elder. It may be that the child is a stranger and afraid of outsiders. It may be that he said hello before and others didn't hear him. It may also be that he is too lazy to talk. But this is a basic etiquette habit and can't be left to him. Therefore, every time you meet a relative or teacher, you should say hello to him and urge him to say hello until he forms this habit. Slowly, children will form self-discipline and be polite to others, even if there is no one around to urge them to take the initiative.
Plan your life goals with your children.
Parents can tell their children more inspirational celebrity stories, or share their brilliant achievements, and the precious experience of coming back after failure is naturally better. Then ask the child what kind of person he wants to be in the future, let the child make his own life plan, and subdivide the goals that can be achieved in the near future and the foreseeable difficulties. Encourage children, tell them that the future is created by their own hands, stimulate their self-discipline through goals, and let them realize self-education and self-growth.
Don't be soft-hearted, let children learn to be responsible for their actions.
Responsibility refers to fulfilling obligations or completing what you should do. Once the list of responsibilities and obligations is set, children should work hard to implement it and can't make excuses for unfinished things. This is a compulsory course to teach children to enter the society in the future. Some children forgot to bring their textbooks. This is because their mother forgot to put them in the bag. They called their parents and asked them to send it right away. If parents help their children clean up the mess every time, then the children will always blame others and will not be responsible for their actions. Therefore, it is also one of the ways to cultivate self-discipline to let children feel the consequences of non-self-discipline properly under controllable circumstances.
Self-discipline is a compulsory course in life, and childhood is the golden period of habit formation. If parents do not intervene and guide their children's behavior, laziness and laziness will eventually be reflected in their life answers.