Why are you rebellious? Because of the psychological reasons of adolescence, teenagers generally think that they have grown up and started to have their own opinions. Many times, they disagree with their parents.
This is normal.
First of all, parents should understand that it is good for children to have their own opinions. I can think independently. But why did it lead to the subsequent rebellion?
In fact, there are no children who don't listen to teaching, only parents who can't teach. 90% of children's failures are due to their parents.
Now let me analyze the common problems of adolescent children.
1. Why don't children help with housework?
Why do parents let their children do housework?
The child is very reluctant because the parents themselves have not set an example.
When you cook, you can let the children cook. When you clear the table, you can clear the dishes and let the children clear the table.
When you wash the dishes, you can ask the children to wash the pots.
Instead of just letting the children fuck themselves, sitting there to rest, playing mobile phones and watching TV.
This is the way to lead by example. Do you blame your children for not doing housework when you are lazy? Is it not shameful?
When your child finishes the housework. Parents should learn to praise, don't blame if they don't do well, and don't shout. Rory talks a lot.
Basic housework after dinner
As long as it's convenient Don't delay. If good habits are formed in this way, children will also help with housework.
2. Why are their children addicted to mobile phones?
Parents should understand that a person lives in this world not only to eat, sleep and earn money, but also to have his own hobbies and entertainment.
Children's addiction to games begins with their love for games.
Why did you start to like games? Because there are no other entertainment measures except mobile phones.
First of all, parents should pay more attention to their children's hobbies and discover their hobbies. For example, if children like drawing, parents will buy tools and books for their children to draw.
If children like music, buy them an electronic organ, music scores and teaching materials, and let them learn by themselves.
The focus is on cultivating children's hobbies, rather than asking children to study the contents of textbooks all day.
This way, children will not play with their mobile phones all day. Even if children play mobile phones, parents should set a time. For example, the same as school hours. Once every forty-five minutes, and then rest for ten minutes.
Why did your child quarrel with you?
Parents should understand the reason for the quarrel.
Mostly because of different opinions, the fuse of different opinions has formed an extreme quarrel. When their children's opinions are different from their parents'.
Don't deny yelling, listen to your child's opinion first.
If there are any mistakes, give examples.
Tell your children; If you do this ... you will cause ... bad consequences. Instead of Rory, tell some well-known truths.
When children listen to the examples given by their parents and understand the serious consequences of things, they will correct and change their minds. There will be no quarrel.
4. How do parents educate their children to correct their mistakes?
First of all, parents should understand this. Everyone makes mistakes. This is a fact. It is foolish to make the same mistake a second time. There are only three things, not including three.
So when a parent's child makes a mistake for the first time, don't be angry or mean to him, but tell him seriously and calmly; Do you realize that you have made a stupid mistake? If your child says he doesn't know.
Parents should start guiding their children to find their own mistakes. It is also an example to let your children know what bad consequences will be caused if you make such mistakes frequently. After your child admits his mistake. Parents should not be too serious and speak gently to their children; Don't make this mistake again next time, or mom (dad) will be angry. Only in this way can children correct their mistakes and families live in harmony. Their children will also be willing to listen to their parents' sermons.
Next, I want to share the mistakes parents make when they get along with their children.
1. Parents use their subjective thoughts and cognition to force their children to do things they don't want to do and don't like to do, including work.
First, let me give you an example. Mango is delicious and nutritious, right? But you are allergic to mangoes. I don't know. I force you to eat it. I'm telling you I'm doing it for your own good.
Do parents think it is reasonable?
That doesn't make sense, does it So it is also true for your own children. As long as it's not a question of personality and moral bottom line. Don't interfere too much with your children.
Children don't like doing things, and they don't want to do things in the name of her goodness.
Force him.
The child's life is his own, not the sequel of his parents. There is no need to impose his subjective good on the child.
I know all parents love their children.
But parents should understand that everyone will be good to themselves.
Your own children have their own considerations. What you think is good for them is not necessarily good for them.
Their life is up to them, and their parents only need to be a person who supports, assists and guides them.
Instead of becoming a stumbling block to children's lives, excessive interference. In short, don't interfere or stop unless it is a matter of principle and morality.
Parents often lose their temper and make their children feel that their faces are ugly.
First, let me give you an example. Parents make mistakes at work, and the boss makes you look angry with you. Are you comfortable? Is it uncomfortable?
The same is true for children.
When parents lose their temper and make their children look bad, the pressure and influence of children are great.
Imagine that parents and children are very close. In children's minds, parents are their children's days. In children's hearts, the closest people are angry and fierce with themselves all day. Is this cruel to a child?
Therefore, when parents get along with their children, try not to lose their temper with them. As long as the child does not make mistakes in principle and morality, he will be tolerated.
As long as children don't commit the above examples, they won't be rebellious.
Then I began to analyze the best mode for parents and children to get along.
The best way for children and parents to get along is as follows.
Usually, when parents and children are together, they should have a heart-to-heart talk and talk about their hobbies like bosom friends. They can't always command their children as elders and deny them.
When things go wrong,
When a child makes a mistake, parents should help the child correct it as a teacher teaches students.
In short, parents should play the role of good teachers and friends in the process of getting along with their children.
If one day your child's friend asks your son or daughter. Ask them; Who do you think is your best friend? Who do you think is your best teacher? '
The child said; It was my parents. They are not only my beloved parents, but also my best friends and teachers. '
Is this something parents should be proud of?