"It's really difficult to take care of children suddenly like a different person." This is the resonance of many parents for their children's rebellion, but I don't know why. Is adolescence a rebellious period? Adolescent children face two conflicts: independence and being a pillar of heaven. On the one hand, they long for independence as they grow up, but they don't have the ability to be completely independent in economic or social experience, so they must rely on their parents in some ways. The psychological contradictions of middle school students are complex, including physiological, psychological, social, family, self-care, and neglect of education. A correct understanding of these contradictions will help us to do a good job in education. Parents may wish to try: 1. Parents can try to understand, accept, guide, standardize and appreciate their children. 2. When asking children what they think, use more open-ended questions. 3. Accept all children's emotions, especially negative emotions. 4, support and encourage children, the less the better. 5. Choose the right time to communicate. 6. Trust children and let them choose for themselves. 7. Give children as much space as possible. 8. Change the education mode of talking but not doing. Ke Zhen shared her desire to help her parents.