Since we can see the mother's personality defects, the most important thing is not to learn from her mother's defects imperceptibly. We will inevitably find ourselves very much like our mother, and some places even annoy us. Therefore, it is more important to change these places consciously. Otherwise, you will find that you actually treat each other the same way.

Try to understand your mother's illness. Her problems are probably caused by your grandparents, and the influence of family background is sometimes beyond your imagination. Especially their generation, they have not been loved well and don't know how to love others. Try to understand the story of mother's growth, and you may understand her illness, so you won't get angry so easily.

Don't think that you can change your mother, it is impossible, so don't have unrealistic expectations for her, you will be more disappointed.

Learn more and stick to your point of view gently. Sometimes you don't make a sound, but you will get better results by sticking to your position. This is teaching your mother to respect you. When she flies into a rage, your mood is relatively stable, but stick to yourself and she will get used to it.

Don't expect her to be a reasonable person. Don't try to reason with her. Most of the time, she just wants to scold you. Same as above, if you know her personality well, don't expect her to be an emotionally stable and reasonable mother.

Don't let her interfere in your life. She can easily tell you what to do. Be sure to stick to it, be yourself and make your own decisions. She tells you to listen to her, but she is not responsible for your life. You're the one who really takes responsibility.

The next time you can't help talking back, it's sad to think that she is this age and still does this all the time. You are different. You are still young. You can see your own shortcomings and correct them. Resolutely safeguard your own interests, especially what you can decide, and don't let her penetrate into your life too much.

We are not saints, and we can't live with a person who complains all day, regardless of the negative emotions. We are also easily influenced by our mother's emotions, and it is normal to lose our temper and call names.

Come on, remember, stick to it gently, stick to being yourself, come on!