First, it started at 20 17.
1, President Wu came to the school for the first time to give a report.
At that time, my daughter was in the fourth grade of primary school, and I had many prejudices about family education. Conceptually, I think children's education is a matter for schools and teachers, not parents. Behaviorally, I like to help my daughter do everything.
2065438+On May 7th, 2007, the school invited Wu, a famous expert in home-school integration education and the principal of Qingping Primary School in Weifang, to give a report. He called on everyone to write a parent-child diary. President Wu's advanced educational concept mainly includes four aspects: first, relationship is more important than education; Second, growth is more important than achievement; Third, example is more important than words and deeds; Fourth, you will see whether you believe it or not.
After returning home, I immediately wrote down my daughter's top ten advantages and paternalistic rules and posted them on the wall. Read President Wu's daily sharing and educational thoughts every day, learn from excellent parents' parenting methods, and keep a parent-child diary every day. ? I think the original intention of writing a parent-child diary is to change the concept of family education and record and accompany my daughter's happy growth!
The core idea of parent-child diary is to encourage and praise children, give them confidence and strength, discover and record their advantages, and show their parents' attitudes and values, so as to actively guide their thoughts, words and deeds, urge their parents to pay attention to their children and improve their educational ability. In order to encourage my persistence, President Wu pulled me into the parent-child group of Qingpingle, and I can learn from all the excellent parents in my family.
The parent-child diary makes me reflect on myself every day, re-examine my position as an educator and constantly change my family education. I specially wrote the following paragraph about my change.
Parent-child diaries have many benefits. Let's talk about the changes in my family.
I used to criticize more, but now I encourage more praise.
I used to preach in words, but now I set an example.
I used to be eager to judge, but now I listen patiently.
I used to be overbearing and arrogant, but now I communicate on an equal footing.
It used to be purely perfunctory, but now it is accompanied by heart.
What used to be violent and violent is now quiet and peaceful.
Thanks to Pang School and Martial Arts School for their daily sharing and guidance.
2. President Wu came to the school for the second time to give a report.
On the afternoon of 20 17,1010.5, President Wu came to the school for the second time to give a report to parents. After the lecture, President Wu presented his monograph "The Principal Accompany You as a Parent" to the parents who wrote more than 70 parent-child diaries, and wrote an inscription on the title page. I am honored that President Wu has given me the inscription "Education begins at home".
I used to like playing mobile phones, watching football games, attending boring dinners, yelling at children, and sitting in the back row without talking to people at every meeting. Now, I keep a diary every day, read my parents' rules, learn family education knowledge, like to sit in the front row of meetings and often exchange views with others. All these changes come from the home-school cooperative education advocated by President Pang and President Wu.
Second, study abroad from 20 18 to 20 19.
1, attend the first parents' forum.
On April 5, 20 18, President Sun personally led a team, and more than 20 parents and children participated in the first home-school integrated education alliance forum held in Qingping Primary School in Weifang City.
The first program is from our school. Parents and children performed the sign language dance "Grateful Heart". Their performance was very attentive and won warm applause from everyone.
Wang Yifan's mother made a wonderful sharing. Although she is a full-time mother, the combination of home and school has made her more and more confident and her children are getting better and better. She insists on forwarding President Wu's educational thoughts every day, and often keeps a diary when she sleeps in the morning to praise her! I also talked about the changes after writing a parent-child diary, which was welcomed by everyone.
When President Wu answered the parents' questions, Lu Yifan's mother said, "Why do you feel that your daughter is very close to your grandmother and father?" President Wu asked her daughter to answer, and her daughter replied, this is just her mother's idea, and her closest relative is her mother. I think every child is the darling of mother, and mother pays the most for her children. Although sometimes the mother will reprimand the child because the child hates iron and does not produce steel, the child does not hold a grudge and still feels closest to his mother.
Fu Wangqirui bravely took the stage to accuse his mother. On one occasion, her mother indiscriminately accused her of not being able to do the problem. In fact, it is a topic that the teacher asked her to preview. Mother immediately apologized and the mother and son made up. In my opinion, relationship is more important than education, and growth is more important than achievement. The key to parenting education is calmness, and bad temper is the enemy of parenting education.
Sun also rushed to speak. She said that she didn't like learning Chinese studies, and her mother forced her to learn them. I know Sun's mother very well. She is sincere, enthusiastic and helpful. She used to have a bad temper, but now she looks at her parents' regulations every day and has a much better temper. She hopes that her daughter's starting point for studying Chinese studies is good, but she hopes that she can communicate with her daughter patiently. After all, interest is the best teacher. Of course, the daughter should also be considerate of her mother's good intentions. There is no hard ice that love cannot melt.
Finally, Liu Xiaoquan took the stage to speak. His speech was sincere and touched everyone present. His wish is to change from frog to prince, and his mother's wish is to change from ugly duckling to white swan. I think their wish has come true. I remember the first time I invited Liu Xiaoquan's mother to join Qingpingle's parent-child record, she hesitated before agreeing, and then stood up. Her progress is obvious to all. Of course, she is equally outstanding as Liu's mother, Wu's father, Wang's mother, Zhang Yuxin's mother, Ma Yixiang's mother and so on.
During my trip to Qingping, I not only learned a lot about family education, but also met many like-minded parents all over the country. One person walks fast, and a group of people walk far. I hope that under the leadership of President Pang and President Wu, we can make home-school education bigger and stronger together.
2. Participate in the second parents' forum.
20 18,18 On July 5th, with the strong support of President Pang, xu teacher and Mr. Hu led us to Qingdao Hongyuan Hotel to attend the second parents' forum.
At 8: 30 am, the conference officially opened. First of all, Secretary-General Wang Rucai of Shandong Education Society made a speech. He emphasized the importance of co-education between home and school, and hoped that everyone would put this work at the primary level of school construction.
Secondly, Professor Ran Naiyan from Beijing Education Department and School made a report entitled "The key to the success of family education is parents' self-education". Combined with my own personal experience, this paper focuses on the methods and uses of writing a parent-child diary. Finally, he concluded that the key to family education is parents' self-education, and the process of educating children is also a process of self-growth. What is admirable is that Professor Ran started to write a parent-child diary from the birth of his eldest son 1970, and has persisted until now.
Third, President Wu made a speech entitled "Home School". Parent-child Grow together. " He told a short story about Lincoln and the army, the army, departments and officers. Once, the minister was very angry with a general. Lincoln suggested that he write a strongly worded letter of accusation. When the minister finished writing the letter, Lincoln told him, "Burn this letter and rewrite it, because people have zero IQ when they are angry." In fact, parent-child diaries, like letters, also have such magical effects. They let us return to reason and become calm.
Finally, a press conference of President Wu's new book "Education, Waiting for Flowers to Bloom" was held, and 20 spectators signed the book. Fortunately, I was the first winner.
The first program in the afternoon is still "Grateful Heart" performed by the children in our school. The children expressed their gratitude to their teachers and parents with immature voices, which won a full house of applause.
Later, Ji Yutong and his mother came to the stage and made a wonderful sharing. Through our daughter's tender words, we are delighted to feel that writing a parent-child diary has changed the whole family. Parents are originals, families are copies, and children are copies. Parents change, children change.
Liu Xiaoquan and his mother also made wonderful speeches on the stage. Liu Xiaoquan's mother is a rural woman who didn't graduate from junior high school. By keeping a parent-child diary, she became more and more confident, and Liu Xiaoquan's grades also rose steadily. This fully shows that parents study hard and their children make progress every day.
Sun and Zhang Yuxin also made wonderful speeches on the stage. At the last forum, Sun came to the stage and told her that her mother forced her to study Chinese studies. Today, she easily recited a passage from the University. Never like to like, behind her change is her mother's change-starting to write a parent-child diary and patiently communicating with her daughter. Zhang Yuxin's speech is also excellent, and her success is due to her mother's efforts.
Finally, we listened to several wonderful speeches by principals, teachers and parents, which made us realize the importance of parent-child diary. Although the child is still the child, the parents are not the parents. Giving love back to children, letting anxious mothers stop worrying, letting absent fathers return to the family, and letting out-of-control children get warm, all these changes come from the power of home-school cooperation and parent-child diary.
I took my daughter out for the first time and gave her exercise. After I opened the door with my room card, there was no electricity in the room, so I asked my daughter to find a way. She looked around and tried to put the room card in the small box behind the door. The room called immediately. The daughter put her clothes neatly in the wardrobe, and the room was in good order. After taking a bath, she washed her clothes again. I am surprised at the change of my daughter. It turns out that parents and children are like two ends of a spring. If you are weak, he is strong!
On July 6, 2006, at 8: 30 am, the General Assembly began a new agenda. I listened carefully to the speeches of principals, teachers and parents, and the one that impressed me the most was President Gao of Dongying. He is busy with his work every day and insists on writing more than 200 educational diaries. Wang Runze's father, Wang Xiaoyou's father, Xie's mother, Si Hetian's mother and Yan Jianing's mother also made speeches respectively, which benefited me a lot.
Liu Hewang, a student of our school, talked in Kan Kan on the stage, explaining the changes brought by keeping a diary to family relations from the perspective of children. Mom and dad are becoming more and more amiable, and they feel very comfortable. Tang Qi bravely stepped onto the stage and thanked President Wu, saying that the parent-child diary made their mother-daughter relationship more harmonious.
At the last moment of the conference, Wang Jiayi's mother led the children to sing the same song, which pushed the atmosphere of the conference to a climax.
What I admire most is that Professor Ran Naiyan, who is 8 1 year-old, always sits straight and takes notes carefully during these two days' meetings. Professor Ran is also approachable and happily added my WeChat.
3. Participate in the third parents' forum.
On the afternoon of July 26th, 20 19, after a long journey of more than five hours, we arrived at the Blue Ocean Hotel in Liaocheng, where the event was held. I suddenly found a major mistake when I checked in. I forgot my ID card. After I explained the situation to Yu Han's father of the organizing Committee, he comforted me not to worry and had a rest in the lobby first. After he finished his business, he opened a room for me with his ID card.
While resting in the hall, I met Miss Wang Yuying. She said my parent-child diary was great and praised my daughter for her progress. I am very touched. Teacher Wang usually forwards my diary of parents and children. Today, I finally thanked her in person.
At 8: 30 in the morning of July 27th, the meeting officially started, and the venue with more than 600 people was packed. First, the directors and directors of Liaocheng Development Zone and Education Bureau delivered speeches, and then began to award prizes. I am honored to win three awards. To be honest, I feel guilty about it. When I got back to my seat, a parent next to me said, "Hello, I'm from Shan County. I read your diary every day and benefit a lot. " In the face of parents I have never met, I was moved again. Finally, Wang Dalong's speech was wonderful and I learned a lot.
At noon, while I was waiting for the elevator, I met Miss Wang Dalong. I wanted to take a photo with him, and he readily agreed. At the moment he turned around, I saw that the shirt on his back was all wet. A 70-year-old man stood and talked for more than two hours in the weather with room temperature over 30 degrees. How could he have done it without his sincere love for family education? The feeling of admiration arises spontaneously.
In the afternoon, President Wu, principals of affiliated schools, members of parents' committees, principals and directors also made wonderful speeches. After my speech, President Wu next to me gave me a thumbs-up and invited me to speak. As my spiritual guide, every encouragement from President Wu makes me full of motivation.
It's almost 1 1 pm to return to the hotel after attending the round-table forum in the evening. After washing, I went to bed. At 4: 20 in the morning, I looked at the unread message. It turned out that President Pang sent me pictures of the award-winning and speeches yesterday afternoon, and the time was 1 1: 32 last night. I immediately replied to the message and thanked President Pang.
I gained a lot from my two-day trip and made many friends. Thanks to President Pang and President Wu for promoting the cooperation between home and school, and let me know many like-minded friends all over the country. Home-school cooperation makes everyone feel like a family.
4. Attend the second anniversary celebration of Li Tao Fenfang Company.
On June 6th, 20 19, at 5: 40am, Ma Ruizeng and I set out from the county seat and went to the company headquarters where the Home-School Cooperative Education Alliance was located. We met many old and new friends and felt very cordial.
We came to the conference hall again and listened to the report "Let Love Spread" made by President Wu.
First, President Wu described his book Who am I? Where is the land I come from? where am I going? "Understanding of three philosophical issues. After listening to President Wu's report, I deeply feel that he is a man with dreams and great love.
At first, he voluntarily resigned as the director of the teaching and research section and started a pilot project in an obscure Qingping primary school. After several years' efforts, Qingping Primary School has been built into the first comprehensive school in China, attracting reports from the people, Japanese newspapers, China CCTV, TV, Taiwan Province and other mainstream media, and attracting people from all over the country who are concerned about family education to visit and study. In order to arouse people's attention to family education, President Wu gave speeches all over the country and set up more than 300 home-school cooperative education groups. Later, in order to explore the development of home-school cooperative education in private enterprises, I went to Shanxi Feifanxin Education Group last year as vice president and principal of subordinate schools. In September this year, he resigned from public office, gave up the high salary of the group and devoted himself to home-school education.
President Wu's goal is to become the leader of school-to-school co-education and the principal of the national parent school. I secretly praised him. He is a very wise life guide.
Secondly, President Wu tells us how to be the best of ourselves and realize the value of life from the following six aspects.
(1), the requirements of the times
Doing a good job in family education is not a question of whether to do it or not, but a question of how to do it well. Doing a good job in family education service is the requirement of the new era.
2. Fate
In the next twenty years, family education will play an important role in wealth.
(3) Breakthrough
Choosing the right direction is more important than hard work. Everyone needs to keep learning, change themselves, break through themselves and become the best of themselves. Getting used to what you are not used to is the beginning of change and the premise of breaking through yourself.
Step 4 wake up
The purpose of the breakthrough is to awaken. Now many parents are doing things that hurt their children and their families in the "driving without a license" without realizing it. Through the spread of family education theory, more families can understand the importance of accompanying their children to grow up, know that filial piety can't wait, know that marriage can't be too capricious, and know that husband and wife should be content. ...
(5), thinking
In our life, there are three most important people: parents who brought you here, children who sent you away, and lovers who walked with you. "There is no shortage of gold, and no one is perfect." We should not only accept our own imperfections, but also accept the imperfections of parents, children and lovers. Knowing this, you won't embarrass yourself and others. Only by constantly thinking and learning can we improve ourselves.
6. Strategy
Our mission is to wake up "people who want to wake up" and help life grow. Our goal is to build an excellent team with gratitude, dreams, professionalism, dedication, cooperation and growth, and to build a leading brand of home-school cooperation in China. The ultimate goal is to improve school satisfaction and teaching quality, improve parents' educational literacy, let the relationship between home and school be in its proper place, and let children grow up healthily and happily.
Third, adhere to it from 2020.
1, participate in the long-term exchange meeting of the martial arts school.
After hearing that President Wu came to our county to give parents a free public welfare report, Teacher Lu and I began to prepare one week in advance.
We forward information in the home-school cooperative education group every day and invite parents who like to learn to participate. Good things are never enough. Parents actively participate, with a limit of 50 people, and more than 60 people have signed up.
Arrive at Wanshajin Hotel on the morning of July 10/0: 50, 2020, and transport the carpet to the meeting room with the help of the staff. Let's clean the conference room first, then spread the red carpet and arrange seats. Just after packing, Jiang Yuhan's father and Wang Jiayi's mother burst in and gave us a surprise.
In order to ensure the smooth progress of this activity, we specially set up a WeChat group and formulated complete precautions. In the whole preparation process of the activity, we received the strong support from President Pang of the Third Experimental Primary School, and the specific assistance from counselor Ma Shuqing of the Brigade and Director Liu Hui of the Moral Education Department. They help to contact hotels and conference rooms, and make welcome banners and printed materials.
On the afternoon of July 10, President Wu gave a wonderful offline family education course "Accompany children and get out of anxiety" to parents in our county.
Arrive at Wanshajin Hotel at 7: 00 am on July 1 1. My task is to be responsible for parents signing in, sending and receiving mobile phones and distributing jerseys.
Less than 8 o'clock, parents entered the scene one after another, including many friends from the literary and art circles who had never met before. I greet you and guide you to sign in.
At 8: 30, the activity officially began. Teacher Lu gave a warm speech, introduced President Wu and welcomed him.
After the report began, President Wu also sat on the podium because everyone was sitting on the floor, and had a face-to-face convection with everyone, which fully showed his approachable side.
The whole report is divided into four parts:
① label
President Wu first asked everyone to play an interactive game, and invited five parents to take the stage, so that everyone could score separately. I counted and summarized the scores and handed them to President Wu. Then, President Wu left two parents with the highest score and the lowest score. Finally, President Wu exchanged identities, which made their mood change like a roller coaster.
In fact, I don't have statistics on this score at all. Through this game, President Wu made everyone understand that parents should never label their children. Originally, the child was normal. You say what he is every day, and then he really becomes something.
②. Anxiety
Many parents have anxiety in educating their children, mainly manifested in poor academic performance, and children like to talk back and not listen to their parents. In my opinion, children's poor grades are due to their lack of good study habits. Children's rebellion is a normal phenomenon when they enter adolescence, and it is a performance when they grow up.
The team sent a form with more than 20 items for parents to fill in carefully. I summarize the scores in a unified way, and according to the scores, I can see the anxiety index of parents.
③ communication
The parent-child relationship between parents and children is poor, largely because parents are busy making money and accompanying their children. And I'm not good at communicating with children, and I can't hear the implication of children's words. Being able to communicate is a sign of high emotional intelligence, which requires parents to keep learning.
(4) amendment
President Wu taught everyone a way to correct the way of speaking, changing "your language" into "my language" to make children willing to listen.
At the event, President Wu invited some children to speak freely on stage. Many parents shed tears when they heard their children complain about them. What moved everyone most was that at first, the little boy angrily accused his mother of her groundless accusations, but when her mother apologized, he immediately forgave her, wiping his tears and saying nothing.
Put yourself in others' shoes. Sometimes, we are really not as good as children. He can forgive us unconditionally and love us. And we are always eager for the perfection of our children and blindly compare with other children.
After the activity, we saw the parent-child diary shared by the mother, which shows that she has the courage to change. As long as it is not too late to change, there is always room for improvement. I believe that as long as this mother learns to reflect, sets a good example, keeps a parent-child diary and encourages and praises her children more, there will be gratifying changes.
I hope all parents will learn from that mother. Be good at change, bravely pick up paper and pen, record children's daily life, and feel the charm of parent-child growth together. This offline activity made the parents and children at the scene experience a spiritual baptism.
2. President Wu came to the school for the fourth time to give a report.
On April 29th, 20021,President Wu came to give a lecture in our school. In the report, President Wu invited me to speak. My content has six words: change, persistence and gain.
Let's talk about change. I used to be grumpy, didn't understand family education, and only paid attention to my children's grades. Now, I am calm and understand that growth is more important than achievement. It is because I listened to President Wu's report that I changed myself.
On April 20 17, the school invited President Wu to give a report on "Relationship is more important than education", which made me understand the importance of family education. From that day on, I began to read "Parents' Rules" every day and kept a parent-child diary.
Besides, persistence is to form a habit. Careful people can see that my steps are unnatural when I go on stage. This is because I broke my patella last month and got a plaster cast. Although the plaster is removed now, I still keep the habit of not bending my legs. The same is true of keeping a diary. You can get used to it when you write.
What I admire most about keeping a diary is Professor Ran Naiyan from the Academy of Education. He believes that the key to family education is the continuous growth of parents. They have been writing for more than 50 years since their son was born. There is also President Wu, who has been writing educational thoughts for more than five years, with a total of 1829 articles, without interruption for one day.
Finally, the harvest, because writing a parent-child diary, I changed a lot and gained a lot. He was hired by the school as the deputy director of the Family Planning Commission, became a member of the Home-School Joint Education Association and a group teacher, and was repeatedly taught by President Wu. Under the organization of the school, I followed the team to Qingping in the north, Huangdao in the east and Liaocheng in the west, participated in previous parent forums organized by the Home-School Joint Education Association, and met friends from all over the world.
Of course, my greatest achievements are family happiness, harmony between husband and wife, harmonious parent-child relationship, my daughter's gratitude and excellent grades.
President Pang once said at a parent-teacher conference: You want your children to be dragons and your daughters to be phoenixes. I want to train my students well, and our goals are the same. This sentence tells the true meaning of home-school co-education and expresses everyone's voice.
There are many ways for parents to educate their children: parent-child reading together, learning family education knowledge, writing a parent-child diary, and writing a parent-child diary is the best way.
During these four years, I have listened to President Wu's lectures many times. What impressed me the most was this passage: "A person's learning and growth process should be like this. Reading thousands of books, taking Wan Li Road, being guided by famous teachers, is what since the enlightenment needs." I thought about it carefully and was very inspired.
(1), read thousands of books.
If a person wants to achieve something in a certain field, he must read a lot of books in this field and build his own knowledge framework.
In order to learn the knowledge of family education, I not only carefully studied President Wu's books, such as The Principal Accompany You as a Parent, Education, Waiting for Flowers to Bloom, but also bought a lot of books on Dangdang, such as Adolescent Psychology, Emily and A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher. Reading a good book is like talking to a wise man. Looking at it, I often feel suddenly enlightened. It turns out that many of my previous practices were wrong. If I had done that, the child might not have been hurt, and he was much better than now.
② Take Wan Li Road.
If a person wants to broaden his horizons, he must often go out to study, walk more, see more and increase his knowledge. Just staying at home and guarding your own acre of land is tantamount to sitting in the well and watching the sky.
Over the past four years, I have been fortunate to go out to study with the school team. I went to Qingping in the north, Huangdao in the east and Liaocheng in the west. I visited many schools, listened to countless reports, learned a lot of experience, and made friends all over the world. He also visited the location of the National Education Trade Union many times and was personally guided by President Wu, becoming a member of the lecturer, division and regiment of the trade union.
3, the guidance of famous teachers.
Famous teachers are experienced, which can save you a lot of detours.
President Wu is my first teacher in studying family education. He put forward four iron laws of family education: relationship is more important than education, example is more important than words and deeds, and growth is more important than achievement. I'm sure you will see it. I have benefited a lot.
Teacher Qi Fan Qi has given me a lot of help in learning to write. She made me understand the law of new media writing. Writing is not self-satisfaction, but for readers. The requirements of each writing platform are different. Therefore, the author should have the reader's thinking, and the article should conform to the tonality of different platforms.
(4), still need since the enlightenment.
No matter how many books you have read, how many roads you have traveled, how many famous teachers you have visited and how much knowledge you have learned. If you don't enlighten yourself and learn to use it, everything you do will be useless.
From the beginning of studying family education, I pay attention to everything, be careful outside, be good at observing children's daily behavior and pay attention to the hot spots of family education in society. These contents have become the material for my parent-child diary. While keeping a diary, it's also a process of self-examination and since the enlightenment.
If you want to keep learning and growing, please follow the process of reading thousands of books, taking Wan Li Road, being guided by famous teachers and since the enlightenment!
Finally, thank you for listening attentively. Tomorrow is Father's Day. While congratulating you on your happy holiday, I hope all fathers will think about what they can do to meet the great title of father.