In fact, it is not difficult to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Old people need to be coaxed like children.

Whether you are a high-quality mother-in-law, or an uneducated, overbearing and narrow-minded mother-in-law, you can't do without household words. Moreover, household words are also the easiest to communicate, so when you get along with your mother-in-law, you should use the most common household words to coax.

0 1 "crying children have milk to eat" Wang Li has been getting along with her mother-in-law. Although there are contradictions, they are all minor contradictions. Wang Li doesn't hold grudges, nor does her mother-in-law, and they live in peace.

But after her son was born, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law increased day by day. But Wang Li insists on one principle: she will not confront her mother-in-law, and she will not remember her mother-in-law's revenge.

When her son was two months old, Wang Li went to work. Her 70-year-old mother-in-law takes care of the children with the nanny. She is tired from morning till night.

Before going out every day, Wang Li said to her son, "Smile, be good, don't let grandma and aunt work too hard."

When I came home at night, I said to my son, "Are you good today? Are you torturing grandma again? "

In fact, my mother-in-law knows that these words are addressed to her, so every time Wang Li speaks, her mother-in-law will say that her child is fine.

Later, my son grew up slowly. Going out to play every day, the mother-in-law always carries her son unprincipled. Wang Li said it once when she saw it. At the same time, she taught her son to sympathize with grandma. Grandma's leg is not good. If you want her to carry you, you are not a good boy. But at this time, my mother-in-law always said nothing.

When my son speaks rudely to his mother-in-law, Wang Li will tell him seriously that you have hurt me. Son is very strange. Wang Li will tell him: "Grandma is our closest relative. Grandma is sad and mom is sad. "

Wang Li is not partial to her children and feels sorry for her mother-in-law. In such a relationship, the family is very happy together.

Stupid and open-minded, she sold Yuan Ya's son-in-law and took care of her mother. Although her mother-in-law seemed to come, in the end, Yuan Ya insisted that her mother come. Because there are great differences in living habits and concepts with her mother-in-law, Yuan Ya is worried about not getting along well with her mother-in-law.

However, mom is the backbone of the family. In the months when my mother came to take care of Yuanya, the quality of life of Yuanya's father declined seriously. Therefore, after taking maternity leave, Yuan Ya had to ask her parents-in-law to take care of the children.

I spent more than a month with my in-laws, but I was really not used to it at first. Mother-in-law always said that Yuanya didn't have enough milk and tried her best to occupy the children. Yuan Ya will be asked to leave by her mother-in-law if she holds it for less than five minutes. Yuan Yashi is embarrassed not to give it.

Because my husband's eldest brother's daughter was brought up by her mother-in-law, facing Yuan Ya, a new mother, her mother-in-law is inevitably a little overconfident in bringing up children, thinking that Yuan Ya knows nothing.

The doctor said that the child slept well at his side, and Yuan Ya told her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law actually said that doctors fart, and children should lie flat and their heads should sleep flat to look good. ...

In short, no matter what Yuan Ya says, her mother-in-law has something to refute. Fortunately, Yuan Ya gradually summed up three tips for getting along with her mother-in-law.

1) Play the fool

Slowly, Yuan Ya was relieved. When her mother-in-law said that Yuan Ya had little milk, Yuan Ya pretended to be deaf and dumb, pretending not to hear, and insisted on pure breast milk. In fact, Yuan Ya's milk is completely enough for the baby to eat. Now her mother-in-law never talks about the lack of milk. As long as the baby is noisy, he will take the initiative to give the baby to Yuan Ya.

2) Open-minded

Mother-in-law likes to hold a baby, and Yuan Ya has little chance to hold a baby now.

At first, Yuan Ya always thought that her mother-in-law was fighting for her baby. Now I want to forget it. On second thought, if my mother-in-law didn't help with the children, she wouldn't be so idle. She plays online every day. She can hug it if she likes. That's her grandson, related by blood.

But mother and grandmother are different after all. Grandma has never been as good as mom. He will know when he grows up. Thought of here, Yuan Ya was relieved.

3) Tell the truth

In this more than a month, Yuan Ya gradually learned to distinguish. One day, my mother-in-law said it was cold and it was a little cold to wear short sleeves.

So, on the day when her husband came back, Yuan Ya said to her husband in the presence of her in-laws: "Mom said short sleeves are cold. Let's buy her a long sleeve." My husband readily agreed. They all went out and bought a sweater. Although she was only in 260 yuan, her mother-in-law said with a smile that it was too expensive. Later, everyone bought my father-in-law a coat.

In addition, when her mother-in-law recited the Parenting Classic, Yuan Ya pretended not to hear it and laughed it off. If there is a contradiction, Yuan Ya will first tell her husband what is a scientific parenting method. Then, the husband will explain clearly to her mother-in-law when Yuan Ya is not at home, so that things will be solved.

Once I fed my baby rice noodles, that's all.

Because Yuanya's baby is only over four months old, she just started to add complementary food. One day, before going to work, Yuan Ya explained that the first time you add complementary food, you should feed it less, just a spoonful.

As a result, Yuan Ya came back halfway, and when she was nursing, she found that her mother-in-law had actually fed her child a bowl. Yuan Ya said, "Mom, you have fed too much." My mother-in-law ignored Yuan Ya.

Later, Yuan Ya went to work and called her husband, explaining the pros and cons. Her husband found a suitable opportunity to call her mother-in-law.

Soon after, Yuan Ya once fed rice noodles to her baby at home, and her mother-in-law also said that Yuan Ya added too much water. Yuan Ya is very pleased that her mother-in-law can quickly accept scientific parenting methods.

In fact, people get along with each other through changing their minds.

Now, my in-laws are very kind to Yuan Ya, and Yuan Ya is also very filial to her in-laws. She is glad to meet such a reasonable and good in-laws.

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2) You are too good at shopping.

This is also a very practical household saying. If the mother-in-law buys food or something, the average daughter-in-law will ask, "How much is this dish?" No matter how much your mother-in-law says, you have to say, "You are too good at buying, and it is cheaper than mine." It is a compliment that she can keep the house.

3) Your grandson (or granddaughter) talks about you all day.

Take the children to see their parents-in-law on a rest day, and you can say that when you enter the house. My mother-in-law will be very happy to hear that. She will feel that this lovely little grandson thinks about her every day, which makes her feel hopeful. Which mother-in-law doesn't spoil her little grandson?

You still look young.

In fact, this sentence applies to everyone, men, women and children.

Of course, for women, they prefer to be called young. But when you say this sentence, you should pay attention to the scale, don't exaggerate, or your mother-in-law will think you are fake, and you must let her feel that you say this sentence from the heart.

This dish you cooked is delicious.

I like you to have a good evaluation of her cooking, whether she is a chef or a housewife in general.

When you eat a dish cooked by your mother-in-law, don't worry about the taste. It is true that your mother-in-law must be very happy to hear this, but you must cooperate with your actions, that is, eat and show your sincerity.

6) You are right.

This is a very practical word to coax your mother-in-law. This sentence can come in handy in many occasions in life. As long as you are with your mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will always say something to you or give you some advice. Even if her mother-in-law is giving advice to others, you can say "yes", which will make her feel that you are her supporter.

In fact, the elderly just need to be coaxed and praised in the ordinary details of life. People are like this. They always like to listen to more compliments, which will make them feel comfortable and happy.

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