To improve bad habits and emotions, it is recommended to avoid children and vent later. After all, your personal bad mood has nothing to do with your child, so there is no need to let your child suffer from "an accident". We can leave our children in the care of the elderly or other relatives for a period of time, and then relax ourselves and mediate personal emotions. After all, we can continue to take care of children in a bad mood.
If the child is in a bad mood because of disobedience, the criticism will be criticized and the anger will be angry. I think this is a matter of principle. Children should know that their mistakes will make adults angry and should be corrected. At first, I would whisper to my children that this method is wrong and needs to be corrected, but later I found that children will become more and more fearless because of their parents' "inaction" discipline. Why? Because children's mistakes cost too little.
Therefore, I changed my strategy. If the child cries again, I will severely criticize and discipline him. Only when children really feel that their mother is angry will they have a sense of change. Of course, the situation of each child is different. Parents should adjust their parenting strategies according to their children's actual situation, but in the face of Xiong Haizi like my daughter, only strict discipline can make children realize their mistakes.
The pressure or difficulties related to the whole family can tell children that I think it is no problem for parents to create a beautiful environment for their children to grow up, but if there are problems in the family itself, children have the right to know, so that children will have a sense of participation in the whole family and have a clearer direction for personal growth. Why do people always say: children from poor families take charge early, because they go deep into family life, know the actual situation of the family and understand the difficulties of their parents better. For children, it is bitter but fun to build a home with their parents.
In fact, for children, the most important thing is not material, but companionship, especially spiritual companionship, so that children can feel the trust of their parents, participate in family activities more deeply, and stimulate their learning and growth motivation.
Will these bad emotions have a great influence on children? Are children natural? Naturally, sometimes personality is not only acquired, but also influenced by heredity, so it is impossible to use the same parenting model for all children. Parents should observe their children's personality, whether it is sensitive, optimistic, introverted or lively. Especially in the face of some introverted and sensitive children, there are many inner thoughts. Our parents can educate and criticize, but we should also consider whether the children's psychological activities are contradictory, resistant or relatively closed. Therefore, after criticism, we must communicate openly with our children and let them release their inner dissatisfaction.
In the face of optimistic and lively children, our parents should learn to stop in the process of education. After education to a certain extent, it is enough to feel that children have regrets. The latter thing depends on parents to set an example for education and correction.
In fact, most parents are undocumented, so they should receive some parenting education, including the improvement of their self-cultivation and the correction of bad habits. But in my conscience, the parents of the post-80s and 90s generation are under great pressure, especially at work. For example, as a working mother, I have to work overtime occasionally, and I will continue to take care of my baby when I get home, and I will take my baby to sleep at night. I often take care of my baby while having meetings online at night. In this case, if I tell my parents that we are going to receive re-education, to be honest, I can't do it, and my time and energy can't be fully satisfied.
It is impossible to give up work, and family life is also difficult. You can only do yourself well and try not to hurt your children. Fortunately, my children can understand the hard work of their parents. Every morning when they go to work, the children will say sweetly: goodbye, mom. When I come home from work, my children will pick me up, which is the driving force for my parents to move forward. In fact, this kind of education can not be said to be bad, but parents also need to master parenting skills.