Inscription: This is a way for an American daughter-in-law to educate her children, written by an China mother-in-law. The reason is very simple, that is, let the children bear the consequences and let the children really grow up. This is also the educational concept of today's schools, and it is also the greatest gift that parents give their children-giving real respect. Therefore, this seemingly "fooled" child loves his mother more. Because children know what true love is in their hearts. However, this simple concept of education is lacking in China families. So our children often have many problems, even simple meals. Children are often indifferent to their parents. In fact, because parents don't care about their children's "hearts" at all, children certainly don't have real feelings for their parents. A child educated in this way of eliminating emotions and bearing the consequences cannot be abandoned by today's schools. I believe that when I grow up, I will not be "excluded" by society. I hope that parents in China can learn this simple way of education-to cultivate their children by heart. Liu Minghui, when thinking about choosing a new school child. How did the American daughter-in-law educate my grandson? My son went to study in America and settled in America after graduation. I found a foreign wife Susan. Today, my grandson Toby is 3 years old. My son applied for a tourist visa for me this summer. After three months in America, the way Susan, a foreign daughter-in-law, educates her children has opened my eyes to my mother-in-law at home.

Hungry didn't eat every morning, after Toby woke up, Susan put breakfast on the table and went to work by herself. Toby will climb on the stool, drink milk and eat bread by himself. After eating, he went back to his room, looked for clothes and shoes in the closet, and then put them on himself. After all, Toby is only three years old, and he can't tell the front and back of the shoes, and he can't tell the left and right feet of the shoes. Once, Toby put his pants on inside out again. I hurried to help him change, but Susan stopped me. She said that if he felt uncomfortable, he would take it off and put it on again. If he doesn't feel sick, let him be. That whole day, Toby was running around in his pants, but Susan didn't see it. Toby went out to play with the children in the neighborhood again. Soon, panting, he ran home and said to Susan, "Mom, Lucy said my pants were on inside out. Really? " Lucy is a neighbor's little girl, 5 years old this year. Susan smiled and said, "Yes, do you want to change it back?" Toby nodded, took off his trousers, looked at them carefully and put them on again. Since then, Toby has never put his pants on backwards.

I can't help thinking that my granddaughter couldn't use chopsticks when she was five or six years old and couldn't tie her shoelaces when she was in primary school. Now in boarding junior high school, she brings a lot of dirty clothes home every weekend.

In the afternoon, Susan and I discussed that I would cook Chinese food in the evening. I got the news that Toby bid farewell to his love of Chinese food. Susan must think Toby didn't eat well at noon and wants him to eat more at night.

That night, I used my cooking skills to make Toby's favorite sweet and sour tenderloin, braised prawns and Chinese cold noodles with pasta. Toby likes that kind of cold noodles best. A little man can eat a whole plate.

It's time for dinner, and Toby climbed onto the stool happily. Susan came over and took his plate and knife and fork and said, "We have an appointment. You can't eat today and you promised yourself. " Toby looked at his mother with a serious face and began to cry with a "wow" He cried and said, "Mom, I'm hungry. I want to eat. " "No, you have to keep your word." Susan is not a soft-hearted person.

I was so distressed that I wanted to intercede for Toby and say something nice, but my son blinked at me. When I first arrived in the United States, my son told me that in the United States, when parents educate their children, others should never interfere, even the elders. Helpless, I had to keep silent.

From the beginning to the end of the meal, poor little Toby sat in the toy car and watched us three adults gobble up. Only then did I understand Susan's real intention of letting me cook Chinese food. I'm sure the next time Toby loses his job, he will think of his experience of watching his parents and grandma enjoy food on an empty stomach. Hungry tastes bad, and besides, I face my favorite food. Susan and I went to say good night to Toby before going to bed. Toby asked cautiously, "Mom, I'm hungry. Can I eat Chinese noodles now? " Susan smiled and shook her head and said firmly, "No!" Toby sighed and asked, "Can I eat when I wake up?" "Of course." Susan answered softly. Toby smiled sweetly. In most cases, Toby is very active in eating. He doesn't want to miss food because he stopped eating and suffer from hunger again. When I see Toby eating with his mouth full, I always think of my granddaughter. When she was Toby's age, in order to coax her to eat, several adults ran after her ass with rice bowls. She didn't buy any, and she also talked about the conditions: buy a toy after eating this bowl, and then buy another toy after eating another bowl. ...

Deal with a man as he deals with you. One day, we took Toby to the park. Soon Toby and two girls played a kitchen game. Plastic pots, shovels, plates and bowls are all over the floor. Suddenly, naughty Toby picked up a small jar and banged it on a girl's head. The girl froze and burst into tears. Another girl, younger, saw something and cried. Probably Toby didn't expect such serious consequences, and stood on the side and froze.

Susan stepped forward and made it clear. Without saying a word, she picked up a small pot and slammed it on Toby's head. Toby was unprepared and suddenly sat on the grass and burst into tears. Susan asked Toby, "Does it hurt? Will this happen next time? " Toby shook his head desperately while crying. I believe he will never do it again.

Toby's uncle gave him a light blue bike. Toby likes it very much. As a treasure, nobody should touch it. Lucy, a neighbor girl, is Toby's good friend. She begged Toby to ride his car several times, but Toby refused.

Once, several children were playing together, and Lucy sneaked into the car and drove away when Toby was not looking. When Toby found out, he angrily ran to sue Susan. Susan was chatting and drinking coffee with the mothers of several children and said with a smile, "Your own problems can be solved, but your mother can't control them." Toby left helplessly.

After a while, Lucy came back by car Toby saw Lucy, pushed her to the ground and took the car. Lucy sat on the ground and burst into tears. Susan picked up Lucy and comforted her for a while. Soon, Lucy was playing happily with other children.

Toby rode his bike alone and felt a little bored. Seeing those children having such a good time, he wanted to join in, but he felt a little embarrassed. He rubbed against Susan and muttered, "Mom, I want to play with Lucy and others." Susan said quietly, "Then find it yourself!" "Mom, you come with me." Toby pleaded. "That can't do. You just made Lucy cry, and now you want to play with everyone. You have to solve the problem yourself. "

Disciplining children is a matter for parents. Susan's parents live in California. When they heard that I was coming, they drove to see us. Toby was excited to have guests at home and ran around on the ground. He filled the small bucket with water and carried it around the house. Susan warned her several times not to spill water on the floor, but Toby turned a deaf ear. Finally, Toby knocked over the bucket and the water spilled all over the floor. The excited little Toby didn't feel that he had done anything wrong. Instead, he proudly went barefoot and got his pants wet. I quickly found a mop to mop the floor. Susan grabbed the mop from me and handed it to Toby. She said to him, "Dry the floor, take off your wet clothes and wash yourself." Toby didn't want to, crying and making noise. Without saying anything, Susan took him directly to the storage room and shut him down. Hearing Toby's earth-shattering cry inside, I was so distressed that I wanted to go in and take him out. Toby's grandmother stopped me and said, "This is Susan's business."

Toby's grandparents looked at me with surprised expressions and smiled meaningfully. This incident touched me deeply. In many families in China, parents' discipline of their children often leads to a "world war", which is often guarded by grandparents, stopped by grandparents, and quarreled between husband and wife. Later, I mentioned this when I was chatting with Toby's grandparents. Toby's grandfather said something that impressed me deeply. He said that children are parents' children, and we must first respect the way parents educate their children. Although the child is young, he is a born diplomat. When he sees the differences between family members, he will skillfully take advantage of the loopholes. This will not only help to improve his behavior, but will lead to more and more serious problems and even bring more other problems. Moreover, the conflict between family members and the disharmony of family atmosphere will bring more insecurity to children and adversely affect their psychological development. Therefore, no matter whether there are differences between parents and grandparents in educating their children, and whether there are differences in educational concepts between husband and wife, there can be no conflicts in front of children.

Toby's grandparents stayed at home for a week and are going back to California. Two days before leaving, Toby's grandfather solemnly asked his daughter, "Toby wants a toy excavator." Can I buy it for him? " Susan thought for a moment and said, "You gave him a pair of roller skates as a gift this time. Buy him a toy excavator as a gift for Christmas! " "

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